To ask how I mentally accept this mistake?

[idiotgeorge]

I made a really costly mistake because I was stressed and didn’t check something carefully before I booked it. I’m talking 1000s. It won’t leave me impoverished or anything but will make a massive dent in my savings.

I’m hoping the company in question will take pity but let’s say they don’t…

I’m looking for some good ‘mantras’ for just accepting this and moving on. I’m completely devastated but I don’t want to be overwhelmed with this feeling for too long. How do I swallow it and move on and not be filled with regret?

[ArblemarchTFruitbat]

You never know what would have happened if you'd done it differently.

Say it's a holiday and you'd booked a different one - you might have gone and had a rubbish time, or even crashed your car on the way to the airport. Your mistake might actually have saved you from something worse - you'll never know, so accept it was meant to happen as it did.

[DreamerSeven]

Loving the idiot tax!!

It’ll make you more cautious in future and potentially saving you a more costly error…….

[unlikelytobe]

I think it was the film Bridge of Spies .... Tom Hanks says to Mark Rylance "You're in a lot of trouble but you don't seem very worried" (or words to that effect). Rylance says "Would it help?"

No.

[Mydogmylife]

When will you know ? Once you have a cut off date and you know exactly where you stand try putting it in the ' nothing can be done ' box , promise yourself not to be so daft again and stop beating yourself up. Easier said I know

[SpiderinaWingMirror]

My mantra
"Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and put the lid on"

[Stompythedinosaur]

Imagine what you would say to a close friend who had made a genuine mistake and say that to yourself.

[Whatwouldnanado]

More details please, someone may be able to help or at least limit the damage. Are we talking about a holiday?

[millenialblush]

When it comes to money I try and put it into perspective and say 'can I still afford the roof over my head and food on the table?' - if yes then in the grand scheme of things it's not an issue.

[MsTSwift]

I met a man whose widowed father was tricked by online fraudsters they took everything. His father remortgaged his house and gave it to them then died. Everything the couple had worked for their whole professional lives - stolen. This chap says when he hears of others losing a couple of thousand he thinks they got off lightly!

[FriedasCarLoad]

Hope it's fixable, as others have suggested.

But if not, maybe it'll help to think that if when you look back on your deathbed this turns out to be the biggest mistake of your life, you've done brilliantly.

You didn't kill or injure anyone or make yourself homeless or ruin your career or do something with long term health implications. A significant proportion of the population smoke, and the ramifications of that are far worse than what you've just done.

You'll probably never think of this without metaphorically kicking yourself. But if as far as worst mistakes go... Well, it's manageable!

[LadyCampanulaTottington]

EFT(Emotional Freedom Technique) or tapping is superb for this OP. Tons of videos on YouTube.

[idiotgeorge]

Thanks all. I love these replies.

Nothing that can be fixed (something I booked by accident a long time back, thinking I was amending something existing but in fact rebooked something new, during a very very stressful period). The thing I booked is tomorrow and I knew nothing about it until now. Completely non-refundable at this point. I’ve begged the company for understanding under extenuating, stressful circumstances and await an answer, but am preparing for the worst…

[thefirstmrsrochester]

Fingers crossed that the company show some understanding and empathy OP.

[powershowerforanhour]

Over this side of the ditch we say "Oh well it's outside the back door" (ie nobody died or is gravely ill or injured).

I know somebody who accidentally wrote off a fighter jet once.

[surreygirl1987]

Long shot but is there any way of selling whatever it is on to somebody? For half price for example, so someone gets a bargain but you get some money back at least...?

[upinaballoon]

@powershowerforanhour

Over this side of the ditch we say "Oh well it's outside the back door" (ie nobody died or is gravely ill or injured).

I know somebody who accidentally wrote off a fighter jet once.

I know someone who accidentally wrote off a fighter jet once.

[Hothammock]

If you had no idea what it was you were signed up for then there is a chance they did not inform you properly of the choice you were making. Did you originally pay on credit card? It is possible your bank will assist you.
If not, you didn't know, you haven't missed the expenditure you have already laid out, so never mind.

[Unmerited]

@Hellocatshome

My husband lives by the mantra "but did anyone die?" Which is very annoying when he forgets to put the bins out but maybe helpful in this situation.

Sometimes when people say this, husband’s especially, I’m tempted to say ‘somebody might!’

[FakeFruitShoot]

Would it help to think that, since the money had gone a long time ago, you're not actually losing the money, you're losing the experience? The money was already spent and accounted for, I think?

[Boood]

@KarmaStar

Hi op,
I'm really pleased that you are looking to get rid of negative emotions.it is too easy to fuel them with anger and annoyance at oneself,the company and any other outlet.
Here are many things you can do,from writing down all the anger,unfairness,annoyance then burning the paper,to meditation and releasing the negativity which will weigh you down and attract more negativity.
Also,but some RHODONITE Crystal and keep it on you and put under your pillow or next to bed.
This Crystal will be excellent for releasing it all and bring you positivity instead.
Rose quartz brings love including self love.
Don't ,if possible,keep dwelling on it or allow others to talk about the mistake in a disparaging way.
Accept it,deep breaths,tell yourself you can't change it,that you can't move forwards if you are looking backwards and be aware this night be a life lesson,what that lesson might be,if you don't know,ask in meditation.keep moving onwards.be happy to be alive and attract as much positivity into your life as you can.CITRINE is a very happy Crystal that brings joy.
Good luck.🌈

I’m guessing you can supply the crystals at a very reasonable price, KarmaStar

[Tiffbiff]

I’m a massive believer in everything happens for a reason.

I. E the room you booked , meant someone else couldn’t book it and if they had something awful would have happened. OR because you booked it you won’t go somewhere this year and if you had something bad would have happened etc etc

Hope that brings some small comfort OP ❤️

[emmylousings]

I know this is a bit dark, but when I'm trying to accept / move on from something that has deeply pissed me off, I tend to think of much worse things that could happen to me, and how small this thing would seem in comparison. I've done it as long as I can recall.

[MrsSugar]

If it can’t be fixed or change u just need to let it go. Don’t punish yourself. You will gain nothing. It’s taken me a long time to think like this but I always try to think I did the best I could with the info I had at the time n also that ur best varies everyday. Life’s too short to torture urself !

[EwwSprouts]

"Worse things happen at sea."
If you haven't noticed before now that the money was spent (because it never goes out on the day of the event) then it's annoying but liveable with.

[Unmerited]

So sometimes in this type of situation what helps me is to think of how we don’t know what doing one thing has cause or prevented also happening. Maybe by doing this you’re going to avoid a bigger mistake in the future. Maybe the thinking about it meant you did something different today that could have resulted in missing being in a car accident for example. It’s hard to explain but what I mean is - we never know the full ramifications of anything. What’s done is done. Allow yourself a limited amount of time to stew on it. But don’t let it take over.