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Snoring. Does snorer or snoree (aka victim) move?

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polkadotpjs · 26/10/2021 05:15

I'm in holiday. V comfy bed yet for the fifth night in a row I'm wide awake due to H snoring. He's not DH right now as I feel a murderous rage creeping over me.
He's had a cold, so is a bit phlegmy but oh my word. He "forgets" his nasal spray or "it doesn't work" but has been working fine. He uses an antihistamine/ hay fever one
But to my point. I'm knackered and can't sleep on sofa here as he has left my blanket in the car. I specifically brought it for sofa sleeping. We are at Center parcs so car is about 10 miles away. But should I be the one to move or him? He says it's not his fault and he's not doing it on purpose...
Any fellow CP dwellers who see a plump woman with a face like a slapped arse at the pool tomorrow, giving her husband daggers? It's me. 😡😡🤬.

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doorornottodoor · 26/10/2021 05:19

I would move to the sofa and use towels as a blanket for now!

doorornottodoor · 26/10/2021 05:20

How many more nights have you got?

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polkadotpjs · 26/10/2021 05:24

Towel is a good shout. And night make a cup of tea. Three more nights.
My lovely plush blanket is being collected tomorrow. I'll send DH...

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2catsandhappy · 26/10/2021 05:24

Sympathies! This morning I moved to settee because of the snoring. I did get an apology though!

fallfallfall · 26/10/2021 05:26

If he’s got the bed, you get the blankets.

Aprilx · 26/10/2021 05:27

At home DH (the snorer) moves. If we are on holiday and there is a snoring problem then we have been known to sleep in shifts.

beautifulview · 26/10/2021 05:29

You need earplugs!

ChaToilLeam · 26/10/2021 05:32

The snorer should sleep in the car, 10 miles away, as a penance for snoring. Poor you, OP! I have a snorer too. This is why I like being away overnight for work, in my own quiet hotel room.

DifficultBloodyWoman · 26/10/2021 05:36

@ChaToilLeam

The snorer should sleep in the car, 10 miles away, as a penance for snoring. Poor you, OP! I have a snorer too. This is why I like being away overnight for work, in my own quiet hotel room.
This.

I think the snorer should move in most circumstances (exclusions apply when DH is unwell).

If he forgets to take anything or do anything to minimise the snoring, then he should have the sleepless night, not you!

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polkadotpjs · 26/10/2021 05:48

I'm going to be so tired later...awake since 4.30 and had already been awake 2.30...

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Glitterblue · 26/10/2021 06:05

As the wife of a chronic snorer, I feel your pain 😩 There's nothing louder or more murder-inducing!

DH spends many nights on the sofa.

MsTSwift · 26/10/2021 06:09

Wax ear plugs work well. Couple of quid well spent.

rrhuth · 26/10/2021 06:11

The snorer moves unless ill.

MinnieMountain · 26/10/2021 06:14

I make DH move. I have tinnitus so can’t use ear plugs.

whiteroseredrose · 26/10/2021 06:16

I'm 'the snorer' in our case and I sleep in the spare room.

DH also snores but doesn't believe it (because I don't constantly wake him).

Both happier sleeping separately because we actually sleep!

haveiahealthyheart · 26/10/2021 06:17

Go to the sofa and use the towels for now.

As soon as DH is awake tell him you’re going to bed to catch up on much needed sleep and he’s in charge if the DC (if you have any) until lunch.

This afternoon, you take the DC while he gets the blanket.

Toss a coin for who will go on the sofa each remaining night.

Shocktober · 26/10/2021 07:11

Which CP are you at OP?

I love CP Smile

HelloDulling · 26/10/2021 07:15

You need to get some sleep today. Decide whether you’ll be better sleeping 10-12 or 2-4, and tell him to vacate the premises with the kids.

Jennifer2r · 26/10/2021 07:16

I'm a snorer. I don't mean to snore and its not my fault that I do. I'm not overweight, I don't drink to excess. Im not a 'perpetrator' as I don't mean to do it.

littlestmunchkin · 26/10/2021 07:20

Best thing I ever did was leaving my snorer husband Grin. Those sleepless nights were awful I actually can feel my anxiety rising reading this. Hope it improves OP

NotSoNewAndShiny · 26/10/2021 07:46

He says it's not his fault and he's not doing it on purpose...

You wrote this as if you don't believe him. Do you think he's doing it on purpose? Of course people who snore don't mean to.

Anyway, based on your OP, your husband should move because he's forgotten what he needs to do to minimise it, as you said, and forgotten the blanket you need to sleep in the living room.

But in other cases where the only problem is snoring (and not everything else he's done), I think the one who goes to bed last should go somewhere else to sleep or, to make it fair, take it in turns to sleep in the room or just eternally sleep separately and comfortably. Or, if possible, find a medical solution to the problem.

oviraptor21 · 26/10/2021 08:55

Regardless of whose 'fault' it is (nobody's) it's snorer causing the problem so he should move. Who in their right mind would insist on staying in the bed when they're the one causing the problem?

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polkadotpjs · 26/10/2021 08:55

@NotSoNewAndShiny I do believe him of course but patience wears thin when I've prepared for this by packing a blanket and he forgets it because he knows he generally gets to stay in the bed while I decamp. He also knows that he needs the spray but forgets to take it
It's CP at Whinfell. Lovely surroundings and my boys love it. I know it's not for everyone but this was for a short break booked 2 years ago when kids were younger, we drove a lot for work and liked the pedestrian feel. It's odd being here with a teen but lovely seeing him revert to being childlike.
I gave myself nightmares reading the thread on horror - got back to sleep about 7 and dreamed there's been an earthquake and I was frantic trying to find them. I suspect I must've been subconsciously cross at DH as I wasn't looking for him. Now that makes me seem truly horrible. I know snoring is involuntary. It's just so difficult being woken up.

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MrsKDB · 26/10/2021 08:59

Snorers - who aren’t overweight / drink alcohol - generally mouth breathe far too much. Start nose breathing exclusively during the day and it will improve.

ConservatoryHell · 26/10/2021 09:03

The issue I have with snoring is that the snorer rarely tries to fix it, they rarely go to the drs for help. This is way it causes me so much rage! Sympathies OP FlowersBrew

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