Snoring. Does snorer or snoree (aka victim) move?

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I'm in holiday. V comfy bed yet for the fifth night in a row I'm wide awake due to H snoring. He's not DH right now as I feel a murderous rage creeping over me.
He's had a cold, so is a bit phlegmy but oh my word. He "forgets" his nasal spray or "it doesn't work" but has been working fine. He uses an antihistamine/ hay fever one
But to my point. I'm knackered and can't sleep on sofa here as he has left my blanket in the car. I specifically brought it for sofa sleeping. We are at Center parcs so car is about 10 miles away. But should I be the one to move or him? He says it's not his fault and he's not doing it on purpose...
Any fellow CP dwellers who see a plump woman with a face like a slapped arse at the pool tomorrow, giving her husband daggers? It's me. 😡😡🤬.

People need to lighten up about the OP's use of the word "victim". Read some MN threads from 2007 or something.

OP, the snorer moves, and the victim stays put.

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People need to lighten up about the OP's use of the word "victim". Read some MN threads from 2007 or something.

OP, the snorer moves, and the victim stays put.

Absolutely agree with this 100% and then some

Updating to say he's drinking red wine so I expect more snoring BUT he has brought my blanket so I'll either decamp or send him to the sofa. There were no blankets in the cupboards. Probably not Covid friendly....
I'm already tired but dreading the inevitable wake up. I think booking more rooms is essential going forward and perhaps a sofa bed at home. We've no spare room

@LittleDandelionClock that's how I feel , another thing to be ticked off on my list should I ever want a new relationship - must be happy with separate bedrooms.

I don't care if someone snores as long as they don't think that it's my problem and I should just have to put up with it. Holidays were the worst as nowhere to move to sleep to if in a hotel and then you walk around all day as if a zombie

Of course he's not doing it on purpose but that insight doesn't fix your sleep deprivation. Forgetting your blanket suggests he doesn't think you getting a good night's sleep is important. He may not be able to help the snoring but he can help being a selfish dick about how you choose to manage it.

I'd not even try to sleep in the same bed tonight. Give him the blanket and the sofa and get a good night's sleep.

I tend to move only because DH doesn't snore that often and I'm a fairly poor sleeper anyway, so not much point in both of us having rubbish sleep.

Like your H I snore if I have a cold/allergies. It started when I was pregnant and never went away again. H always moves. Luckily I am rarely bad enough to require him to move!

Snorer should move

You are the victim. Ignore the naysayers. He is too, but it's him that's snoring, and you that's suffering from it second-hand. He gets the sofa, you get the bed. And please get him checked out for sleep apnea. He won't necessarily realise how little sleep he's getting himself, and it's not healthy.

My husband has sleep apnea and was usually exhausted before using a CPAP machine. He would come home exhausted from work and fall asleep for an hour before dinner, go to bed by 10 pm, and wake up before sunrise, exhausted. I used to scold my husband at night because he snored so loudly, which made me tired and I couldn't get enough sleep because I was worried about him. He doesn't have to snore to wake himself up, and he doesn't have to put pillows up to feel like he can breathe. He is unable to sleep without it. Now that I'm using CPAP and getting a decent night's sleep, he's more relaxed.