Weird bridesmaid’s boyfriend

[Peridotty]

I got married 2 years ago so old story but played on my mind a few times.
On the morning of the wedding, I had a minivan pick up my bridesmaids and me from our hotels to the venue to get ready.
I invited my bridesmaid’s boyfriend to the wedding because they were coming from overseas and they could have a holiday after the event together. I don’t know him well, met him once and he is a very silent character. Only spoke to my friend and not to me. He has a very narrow interest (trains).
On the morning of the wedding he came with me and my bridesmaids in the minivan to the venue to get ready.
He then sat in the bedroom in the corner for the whole morning, not doing anything as we were getting changed and doing our hair and makeup. It was just him + me + 3 bridesmaids.
He didn’t utter a single word. He is extremely quiet and may have aspergers?
The photographer was there taking photos. I really didn’t want him to be in my photos because it would look really weird.
He wasn’t dressed up or anything- wore a sports jacket and sat in the corner just staring at us or looking at his phone.
When I was about to get undressed and get into my wedding dress he had to be prompted to leave the room! He would not have thought to otherwise. He was just staring into space when I said I had to get dressed now (pointedly at him). My bridesmaid had to tell him to leave and he said ‘Oh!!’ Like he didn’t think about it.
He nearly forgot that he had to be in the room with all my guests before I walked down the aisle. I had to get staff to escort him to the other room and have a golf buggy take him. He nearly had to walk down the aisle with us!!!
He was so weird and it was weird that my friend wanted him there, right?

I find you weird for being as judgemental as you are, despite it happening two years ago.

[quote Peridotty]@girlmom21 I don’t have a regional accent. He doesn’t have much practice hearing and speaking English so may have trouble conversing with me.[/quote]
How would you know, you ignored the man totally, he’s a woman who was a bridesmaids partner, so clearly a friend and you still don’t know if he speaks English.

This thread is awful and judgey.

he is different. he didn't harm anyone. he might or might not have Asperger's. does that matter to you? He is your friend's bf, her choice. It's been 2 years. Am not sure what the point of the post (or indeed my response is)!🤣

The weirdest thing is you still thinking about this two years later.

@Goawaymorningsickeness I agree whatever other issues - move on

I mean did you actually tell him where he needed to be? I’ve been to a wedding abroad where my DH was best man and I knew no one and it was painfully awkward just wondering about by myself most of the day while my DH was elsewhere. Unless you actually told him what he could do by himself while you got ready, I don’t blame him for just sitting there!

The only thing that's odd is you having a man you've never met before in the room while you and the bridesmaids were getting ready !

[quote Peridotty]@Pythonista I don’t think all socially awkward people have autism or all autistic people are socially awkward either. They are all individuals. It was the combination of all the other things that made me think he might have autism- narrow interests, lack of eye contact, didn’t speak to me, doesn’t smile.[/quote]
Maybe he just doesn't like you either!
Maybe he's started a weird thread on the internet to slag you off with the expectation that other people would also be encouraged to slag you off.

I think it could be quite obvious, if your friend found this thread, that it's about her fiancé. I wouldn't stay friends with someone who did this.

He sounds adorable. It might be because I pictured Sheldon Cooper while reading this

Is the stereotype of Sheldon Cooper better or worse than that of 'Rain Man'?