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Original poster

To take a pet to a non-pet holiday cottage if it will not go on to the premises?

316 replies

ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:20

I think this should be fine but need perspective.

Our dog does not like sleeping anywhere except his bed or the car. He's happy at the dog sitters but that's not an option.

We've had a spontaneous look for a short break next week abd found a perfect 3 night cottage except it's not dog friendly.

The dog wouldn't sleep in the property anyway, he only settles in the car and is very happy in there.

The property has designated parking that is slightly off from the property, so he'd never be actually in the garden or house. We'll be out of the property most of time anyway exploring and finding dog friendly pubs.

I can't see any reason why an owner would object to this, but very aware that if there's neighbourly eyes keeping an understandable look-our, the optics aren't great, even though we're not technically breaking any rules.

I'm considering emailing before booking to ask permission but concerned that the word "dog" may create a reaction without the true scenario being realised, and we lose the property.

AIBU to take him anyway and chance it?

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Lockheart · 21/10/2021 16:32

@edwinbear

Wow. I'm stunned anyone would treat their dog like this, that's appalling. If I saw your dog locked in the car, I'd call the RSPCA.
And unless the dog is obviously ill or its too hot to leave an animal in the car, the RSPCA will do sod tout and you'll have wasted your own time as well as theirs.
BeagleBeagled · 21/10/2021 16:33

No, not something I could do. Even if car was in back garden under my window. Just choose somewhere else or get someone else to look after the dog.

Cuddlyrottweiler · 21/10/2021 16:33

@Rollerdecks

We have a holiday let at the bottom of our garden and specify no dogs because we have dogs - one of whom is a bit reactive to other dogs and would spend all night reminding us that we had canine intruders.
Oh god. This. Didn't even think of this. If there was a dog in a car on our property then our dog would scratch the car to bits trying to get in and we'd all be insanely stressed trying to keep her from it.
Hardbackwriter · 21/10/2021 16:34

Where are you going to feed the dog? How on earth do you envisage this working - in the morning you'd go out, walk the dog so they could have a wee (since you aren't going to let them into the garden) then put the dog back in the car while you shower and get ready? Are you really intending to leave the dog in the car alone for every moment you aren't out? That surely isn't what you do at home?

Original poster
ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:35

Some of these responses indicate to me that you'd be worried leaving a dog alone at all.

He's in a safe space.

He's slept in there when we've camped.

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cravingmilkshake · 21/10/2021 16:36

@ellyoctober how do you know he doesn't stir? Do you use a baby monitor 😂

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ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:36

@Hardbackwriter

Where are you going to feed the dog? How on earth do you envisage this working - in the morning you'd go out, walk the dog so they could have a wee (since you aren't going to let them into the garden) then put the dog back in the car while you shower and get ready? Are you really intending to leave the dog in the car alone for every moment you aren't out? That surely isn't what you do at home?
He'll be out pottering/walking with us mostly then in our down times he'll nap in the car.
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NCkitchen · 21/10/2021 16:36

I wouldn't do this

MintyGreenDream · 21/10/2021 16:37

I wouldn't leave a dog in a car in winter

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ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:38

[quote cravingmilkshake]@ellyoctober how do you know he doesn't stir? Do you use a baby monitor 😂[/quote]
Because when we've camped, we've either been next to him in a tent with someone in there with him.

When we've been at other properties previously, there's no sign of any unsettled behaviour in the morning and cartainly no barking - he has a loud voice.

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MintyGreenDream · 21/10/2021 16:39

If this is real and not designed to get people frothing then I think you need to accept yabu

kindlyensure · 21/10/2021 16:39

So you haven't really found a perfect cottage because it isn't dog friendly and you want to bring the dog.

I think you'll have to pass on this one.

Have another spontaneous look for somewhere that does accept dogs.

Whatiswrongwithmyknee · 21/10/2021 16:40

You've not answered about where you're going to feed the dog? What would you do if the weather was so bad you could not walk or not a long walk? I think you are, in reality, thinking "I won't have the dog in the house much" rather than "there are no circumstances whatsoever which would mean that the dog ever even set one paw inside the house" which makes this not OK in my opinion.

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ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:40

@Whatiswrongwithmyknee

You've not answered about where you're going to feed the dog? What would you do if the weather was so bad you could not walk or not a long walk? I think you are, in reality, thinking "I won't have the dog in the house much" rather than "there are no circumstances whatsoever which would mean that the dog ever even set one paw inside the house" which makes this not OK in my opinion.
Feed the dog in the sane way we do when we camp.
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MustBeThin · 21/10/2021 16:40

How is he going to have access to water if he's in a car? Where are you going to feed him? There's no way I would do this. If I couldn't kennel my dogs or get a sitter then I wouldn't be going.

sillysmiles · 21/10/2021 16:41

I've been away with friends and they did this, though a van not a car. But they spoke to the landlady first.

The temperature may be a consideration depending on your breed of dog. Security of the car overnight.

Whatiswrongwithmyknee · 21/10/2021 16:41

And how is that?

Hardbackwriter · 21/10/2021 16:41

Feed the dog in the sane way we do when we camp.

Which is?

Whatiswrongwithmyknee · 21/10/2021 16:42

As someone very allergic to animals, this makes me anxious. I chose places that don't allow animals so I don't get ill. If people push boundaries they can make me sick.

fiddlestick124 · 21/10/2021 16:42

So where will they dog be during the day? It's unlikely you won't be bringing the dog in at all. You shouldn't do it.

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ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:42

I think the consensus is IABU.

I'll keep looking, and tell him he's got to sleep soundly in the next pet friendly property, and not get up as previously and wander all night and disturb us all Grin

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Paddingtonthebear · 21/10/2021 16:43

To be fair I don’t leave my dog locked alone inside or outside for long periods of time so she wouldn’t be used to that and neither would I. But some dogs are familiar with it. The issue you have here is that dogs aren’t allowed at this holiday let so you could chance it but what happens if they are there when you arrive, or if they live next door? You’d be better off asking them upfront but I imagine they will probably just think you will let your dog in the house anyway.

mrsrobin · 21/10/2021 16:43

Well it should make no odds to the cottage owner - but it sounds a bit sad for him and you! My dog loves the car and we leave her in there no problem if we are going somewhere (like shopping) for a while - obviously not if too hot/cold - and we have a truck that has dark windows so you can't see she is in there. Anyway, if it was me I would want to spend time chilling together in the cottage but I understand if he is worn out he probably won't care!

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ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:43

@MustBeThin

How is he going to have access to water if he's in a car? Where are you going to feed him? There's no way I would do this. If I couldn't kennel my dogs or get a sitter then I wouldn't be going.
Wed leave a bowl out for him, like we do when we camp.
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ellyoctober · 21/10/2021 16:45

@mrsrobin

Well it should make no odds to the cottage owner - but it sounds a bit sad for him and you! My dog loves the car and we leave her in there no problem if we are going somewhere (like shopping) for a while - obviously not if too hot/cold - and we have a truck that has dark windows so you can't see she is in there. Anyway, if it was me I would want to spend time chilling together in the cottage but I understand if he is worn out he probably won't care!
This is similar to our dog, he's very happy in there, just settles the moment he gets in.
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