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Teacher calling DD “Thing”

251 replies

ThingDDUR · 18/10/2021 20:31

In the context I have no issue with it but ExH does so wondered if I’m UR?

Parents evening, chatting away and the teacher says “But generally (DDs name) is such a funny little thing, we’re always laughing when she’s in the room” then starts smiling and laughing while telling us some funny stories about DD (nothing naughty or bad, more pulling her jumper on after PE and shouting “Oh look here I am again” with a massive grin on her face or asking the headteacher if she’s old or very very old now on her birthday)

ExH wants me to complain to the headteacher tomorrow about the use of the word thing. I think it’s absolutely fine as she wasn’t calling DD “thing” in a derogatory way and it was just a clumsy choice of word.

So who is UR? Me or ExH?

DD is 7, just started Year 3 if it helps. The teacher also referred to DD a lot by her preferred name (a short version of her name) and this was the only time she said thing in reference to DD, otherwise it was always her full name, her short name or her full name (say her names Elizabeth Smith, teacher called her Elizabeth Smith, Elizabeth or Lizzie apart from when saying about her being a "funny little thing"). DD is also smaller in height than her friends so that might be where little comes from as I have heard her classmates call her Little Lizzie and similar as there is another Elizabeth/Lizzie in her class (obviously not her actual name thats just for example)

Vote:
YANBU - You're right the teacher was fine to use "thing"
YABU - ExH is right report to HT

OP posts:
Philandbill · 18/10/2021 21:25

Your ex, and hurrah that he is ex, and parents like him are part of the reason for this ...www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorrison/2021/06/17/record-one-in-six-teachers-quit-after-just-a-year-in-the-classroom/?sh=2980b3c0272e

Cherrysoup · 18/10/2021 21:25

Madness. The teacher didn’t call her a thing, your ex is completely ridiculous.

Thefaceofboe · 18/10/2021 21:26

I think you’re just as bad as you’re ex for even having to ask if he’s being unreasonable, of course he is Confused

Thefaceofboe · 18/10/2021 21:26

your ^

crochetmonkey74 · 18/10/2021 21:27

My name for my groups is ‘kiddiewinkles’
The taller and more grumpy the teenager, the better 😀

Cheeseontoastwithchopsauce · 18/10/2021 21:27

He's an insane big thing by the sounds of it Grin

AuntMasha · 18/10/2021 21:28

What a pompous arse. How does he cope with the actual world?

KarmaStar · 18/10/2021 21:31

He is an idiot.

Notospaday · 18/10/2021 21:31

He's beyond ridiculous.

But you're a bit silly yourself, OP, for saying it was a clumsy choice of word when it absolutely isn't.

Clarice99 · 18/10/2021 21:32

@AliceMcK

Tell him you’ve complained and forget it. If he brings it up be very over the top with their alleged apology 🙄
Please don't do this. Do not encourage his batshit nonsense.

Your ex sounds bonkers.

buckeejit · 18/10/2021 21:33

I'm glad he's a ex. Sounds like an eejit. There's plenty else he could get offended about!

HaileyBailey · 18/10/2021 21:34

@EvilRingahBitch

Is your ExH English? Because I can't imagine any native English speaker objecting to that. It's a normal affectionate idiom.
Came here to say exactly this
BrainBleachNeeded · 18/10/2021 21:34

If your ex is so concerned why doesn’t he contact HT himself?

Dumbarse

Penistoe · 18/10/2021 21:34

It seems like your ex is using it as a rod to beat you with. What a plonker.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 18/10/2021 21:37
  • Is your ExH English? Because I can't imagine any native English speaker objecting to that. It's a normal affectionate idiom. Came here to say exactly this*

These type of comments really bug me. I'm not English. English is actually my third language. I'm familiar with the term and use it myself.

Sometimes batshit is batshit, not automatically forrin.

SpeckledlyHen · 18/10/2021 21:41

FFS... remind me 100 times why i would NEVER be a teacher for the precious parents.. Jesus christ almighty I have heard it all now

DeborahAnnabel · 18/10/2021 21:42

Please please do mot complain. This is such a sweet term of affection. They clearly really like your little girl. I’d love my child’s rather grumpy teacher to refer to her as a funny little thing.

LizzieW1969 · 18/10/2021 21:44

It isn’t clumsy at all, it’s a completely normal affectionate idiom. It’s nice that your teacher has a good rapport with your DD.

Your ex is being ridiculous.

maddy68 · 18/10/2021 21:45

What???? Really??? He's a nutter

sleepwouldbenice · 18/10/2021 21:46

My daughter was called a toad by one teacher

She was horrified when I said we would introduce ourselves as mt and mrs toad at parents evening🤣

Christinatherabbit · 18/10/2021 21:48

He sounds utterly nuts and extremely hard work. Tell him you will not make you self look ridiculous with such nonsense. Also it could change the lovely relationship she currently has with her teacher which makes things worse. No wonder he's an Ex!

Standingstilll · 18/10/2021 21:48

Why are you asking on here. Just tell your ex to fuck off and complain himself.

He's manipulating you.

He's a twat.

WimpoleHat · 18/10/2021 21:48

Very widely used term, used entirely affectionately. Think also “this one”. (I’m not keen on the latter myself, but I know exactly what people mean when they use it.)

cosycrook · 18/10/2021 21:49

Your ex is an idiot. The teacher meant it in a nice way

ittakes2 · 18/10/2021 21:49

clearly your daughter did not her her humour from her dad!

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