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MIL has invited her mother to our house for christmas (inc. overnight stay) and only told me this afternoon

88 replies

ComeOVenReadyturkey · 09/12/2007 20:32

SO?

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controlfreaky2 · 09/12/2007 20:35

aybu to what?
be pleased?
be v cross?
to be planning to run away?

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 09/12/2007 20:36

Oh god, these situations just make you want to cringe.

For the sake of family harmony I guess there is nothing you can say really.

Why do people (your MIL) put others (you) in these situations?

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 09/12/2007 20:36

Even if you hadn't been the only poster, I would have known it was you.

What the hell are you going to do ??

So let us recap you now have DH, DD,DS,your DM your DD. DH's not so darling M, his Dad, their frigging dogs and now you have the grandmother.

Enough already.

Beetroot · 09/12/2007 20:37

that is lovely. great ot have allthegenerations together

Beetroot · 09/12/2007 20:38

you drink champagne from 10am, slowly

LOONEYplayingachristmasTUNEy · 09/12/2007 20:39

So rude, she should have asked first!!!

coldtits · 09/12/2007 20:40

There is only one thing for it - you will have to move out over Christmas.

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 09/12/2007 20:40

Beety

Her MIL is proper bonkers, she is the one who told COV'S boss at the wedding she was married now and would not be coming back to work as she was going to stay home and have babies. The woman is mad I tell you.

ComeOVenReadyturkey · 09/12/2007 20:40

Sorry! I mean be cross. Menu is planned, food is ordered. Sleeping arrangements arranged (I would add we have ds and dd bunking in together to provide space for my parent and ILs to stay , we now need to move children into sleeping bags in dh's studyto accomodate her. ILs are bringing dog to stay too (my parents have kenneled(sp) theirs). Christmas crackers have been made (so have to get another). The list goes on!

(Disclaimer - I am totally anal about plans to the point dh beleives I have mild OCD tendencies and this is my fiorst year hosting christmas and I have been planning for ages )

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coldtits · 09/12/2007 20:41

ComeOVeneer.

The answer is NO. NO more. NO mad relatives cluttering about the house. NO dogs, NO NO NO!

Say NO!

ComeOVenReadyturkey · 09/12/2007 20:43

And did I mention we have 2 cats. Trouble is this is dh's grandmother who has moved over from SA and has to be somewhere for christmas , so how on earth can I say no? Btw as soon as we got home from there this evening I hit the wine and posted on MN

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 09/12/2007 20:44

What does your DH think ??

Beetroot · 09/12/2007 20:44

but Christmas if for bonkers family stuff and you ahve to drink champagne and count to 10

'tis simple rule that I have used for many years

bahKewcHumbug · 09/12/2007 20:44

send her over to me Cov - we need a few more mad rellies to dilute the skimpy few we have coming.

Mercy · 09/12/2007 20:44

Second Beetroot's plan to drink champagne from very early.

Probaly too late to do anything (especially were older people are concerned but you need to spell it out to dh). Plan to go away next Christmas. Pretend you're not really a great cook and you've always ordered it from a restaurant. Anything.

(sorry don't know the full story but can hazard a guess)

CarmenerryChristmas · 09/12/2007 20:44

You could do what I did last year. I booked mil into the local hotel. We had to pay and it was about 300 quid for 3 days but by God it was worth it.

Beetroot · 09/12/2007 20:47

well it could be worse - you could have invited family for Christmas to stay in newly 'finished coach house' to find out TODAY after digger digging 6 foot hole that the sewage system is cuput and there will have to be a NO POO policy until further notice

try telling your posh uncle that

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 09/12/2007 20:49

Sorry Beets but I just sprayed red wine at the posh uncle comment.

ComeOVenReadyturkey · 09/12/2007 20:50

TBH food wise it makes no difference (I always over cater). I just despies the lack of courtesy. DH TOLD his mother it was pretty outrageous to spring this on us at such a late date (especially as I am doing it all and he is soo busy at work), but obviously there is no way he would refuse his granmother hospitality at christmas, but "he in't happy about it" .

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ComeOVenReadyturkey · 09/12/2007 20:52

And my spelling/typing is terrible this eveing

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Beetroot · 09/12/2007 20:52

glad you find it funny brie

Beetroot · 09/12/2007 20:52

glad you find it funny brie

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 09/12/2007 20:53

So what did she say re outrageous comment ?

ComeOVenReadyturkey · 09/12/2007 20:56

Brie it was simpering apology and asking what she could do to make this error easier for him to which he replied "ask COV as she is doing it all". See isn't he coming on well

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BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 09/12/2007 21:20

LGJ faints clean away, well done that man.