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partyrings1 · 16/10/2021 20:42

I am really struggling at the moment.

I am 29, married and fed up.

I work 12 hour days all week, my weekends are cleaning and laundry, DH works 7 days a week.

I can't remember the last time he asked me out to dinner or made me feel special.

I've got to a point where I feel like I'm living in Groundhog Day.

All my life consists of is working, paying bills and sleeping.

There has got to be more to life surely? I love DH but days like today I feel like walking away. I've been sick with a cold that turned into a chest infection, he got home from work at 2 (normally is home around 6pm), he went to sleep on the sofa until 6, we had dinner and I thought we could watch the new series of YOU that's just come out but he's too tired.

Asked me why I had to give him this cold? As if I did it on purpose 🙄

I ask him to take one day off a week where we can spend time together but he says he cant. My evenings are spent alone because he plays football/coaches football/plays snooker with friends.

I dream about having a life with a little excitement, getting dressed up for dinner every now and then, maybe a nice bunch of flowers.

I mention this from time to time and he asks me what I do for him. I keep his house clean, his laundry done, I actively ask him for date nights or to cuddle up and watch something. I tell him I love him, when he's sick I look after him.

I cannot imagine my life like this for however long I've got left in the world 😢 it's making me so depressed. All he wants to do is have sex but the less we see each other and the less special I feel the less I want to be intimate with him. Is what I'm feeling normal or has our relationship run its course? I can't imagine life without him.

OP posts:
beastlyslumber · 19/10/2021 04:54

Sending you strength, OP. You'll get through this and life will get so much better xx

SeasonFinale · 19/10/2021 06:03

Glad you have your aunt to support you.

If he was "working " and socialising 7 days a week I suspect he actually has another girlfriend already. Eventually you will be happy that the split has happened while you are young. Good luck going forward.

Aphrodite31 · 19/10/2021 06:28

@partyrings1 bless you - I just read your thread and I'm SOOO glad that he is gone. I know it's a hard and sudden shift for you, a shock, but ... how he was treating you was just awful.

Now you can have a normal life! With someone nice. Who loves you. And for now you can just have a nice life with yourself, with nobody on your case!

I know it feels strange, but it's a good thing, really. You'll soon get over the shock. Yes, you're grieving what you always hoped for but never really got.

Now you're free to get it. : ) X

mothermothermother · 19/10/2021 07:08

Flowers. You’re better off without him OP. I know it feels shit now. Things will get easier and living without the resentment will help!

Also see GP re sleeping tablets addiction

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