Mother or Birthing Parent

[thaigreen]

Which term do you prefer?

YABU Birthing Parent
YANBU Mother

The term birthing parent makes me want to vomit

Assuming you're talking about the female who actually grows the baby in her body and either pushes it out or is cut open... mother, obviously. Any other term is silly.

I prefer mother but if someone wants to be referred to as something else then that's fine. As long as there's a choice then it doesn't bother me.

Mother, obviously- birthing parent is a made up bullshit term

Women give birth. Adult human females.

In reference to myself, mother. Or just Mum.

Other people can call themselves whatever they like.

Well, I'm a mother but not a 'birthing parent', so mother.

If someone wants something else then fine, but I bet 95-99.99% prefer mother, so that should be the term used on websites, leaflets etc.

Birthing parent? I would be very pissed of and insulted if anyone would call me this instead of the MOTHER.

There will be a tiny, tiny, number of women who won’t want to be called the baby’s mother. To relabel every pregnant woman as a birthing parent to avoid offending this minuscule minority seems crazy to me.

Birthing parent is generally inaccurate as it implies an action, i.e. a parent in the act of giving birth. Gosh I wonder what sex that parent is? So hard to tell…

Anyone calling me a birthing parent can get to fuck.

Mother or woman

Mother. As a pp said birthing parent is made up nonsense and sounds dehumanising to me. However, if someone else wishes to be referred to in that way, that's up to them but mother/woman should be the default with anything else coming second.

I battled for years to have my baby. To be a mother. That's what I am. Her mother. I would be highly offended to be called her birthing parent.

I've now decided to use the word mother as much as I possibly can. I've just changed the wording on a form I've filled in from my child's school from parent to mother. I will continue to do so at every available opportunity.

@CoalCraft

In reference to myself, mother. Or just Mum.

Other people can call themselves whatever they like.

Agree completely with this. I’m not arsed about how other people refer to themselves.

I'm a mother but I didn't give birth.
My friend did give birth and she's a mother but her children's other parent is also their mother.
Do we have birthing non-parents too, because my children's birth mother didn't stop being a parent when we adopted them, did she.

What bollocks. I am a mother not a birthing parent ffs. At worst I'll accept birthing mother.

Vessel for producing humanoid offspring 😜

Mum for me. I personally hate the term baby mum/baby dad I find it so rude but it's really common in London

I wish to be called mother. Other people can call themselves whatever they like, as long as they don't foist a label on me that I don't want.

My cousins are adopted. Their mothers are not "birthing parents" but they are very much their mothers.

Mother. Also woman.
However if there’s a tiny minority of people who prefer the other term they are free to ask to be called that.

@PurpleDaisies

There will be a tiny, tiny, number of women who won’t want to be called the baby’s mother. To relabel every pregnant woman as a birthing parent to avoid offending this minuscule minority seems crazy to me.

This

If anyone refers to me as a birthing parent , I shall "shake and cry," I shall tell them they have made feel "unsafe", I shall demand a "safe space" just for mothers, I will tell them that they have committed " literal violence " against me. I will not back down.

@PurpleDaisies

There will be a tiny, tiny, number of women who won’t want to be called the baby’s mother. To relabel every pregnant woman as a birthing parent to avoid offending this minuscule minority seems crazy to me.

Who's suggested that it will replace the term mother?