DS self conscious about his height

[walkingthroughtheleaves]

My lovely DS who is 21 is 5 foot 8 and I get the feeling he is a bit self conscious about his height and wishes he was taller. Surely 5 foot 8 is a perfectly normal height for a man? I've told him that there's no point thinking about something you can't change and that you don't need to be any taller.

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow

I am aware the world is a bit different now … more shallow I guess with online dating and men basically having to advertise their height on their dating profiles. It makes me very sad

It's a hard thing to believe when you are 21, but women who won't date a man because he's under a certain height are doing him a massive favour. It's the female equivalent of men doing OLD who will only date women who are younger than them. It's a red flag for the other person being superficial and insecure.

I had a lovely bf in my 20s who was 5'7" at most. It was never an issue. The boy had other talents 😉

I agree, it filters out those who really are not worth bothering with . Having a preference for a tall man is in thing but refusing to date anyone less than a certain height is like men refusing to consider dating a brunette or blonde or whatever. A preference for a physical characteristic is fine for superficial attraction but sticking to it rigidly just makes you an idiot. Truly meaningful attraction that lasts is about much more than just physical attributes

I'm 5"6 and husband is 5"8. Doesn't concern me one bit and I'm taller than him in heels! The way I see it is, if I was that narrow minded to disregard him solely on height alone then I would have missed out on a considerate, kind wonderful husband that he is as a result of something no one can control (unless you have your legs stretched or something equally ridiculous!!!)

My dad is 5"6 so he's not even the shortest in the family!!

Height is one of the few things you just can't change about yourself.

Is he physically fit? My ds is shorter than average (at the moment - he may still grow) but he's very fit and lifts weights so he's confident about his body.

If it wasn't his height, it would be something else - his skin, his hair, his teeth, his glasses.

Help him to be confident in his own skin.

@Mymapuddlington

5’8 is fine, I thought you were going to say 5’4 or something

And what would be wrong with being 5 foot 4?? 🙄🙄🙄

And what would be wrong with being 5 foot 4??

Nothing at all, it’s just what I would consider a short man 🤷‍♀️

@reallifegetsintheway2

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-55146906

There are clinics that offer leg lengthening operations - there is one in London. Break both your legs and then turn the screws daily. Insane but may be an option?!

You are fucking kidding???

It's all relative. Dh and I are from tall families, men over 6ft 2, women 5ft 7/8/9. But there are a lot of successful men who are in the 5ft 8 range. I think men are really regarded as short when they are the height (or less) of average women, so more like 5ft 4.

This isn’t really true in the corporate world. Taller men tend to have more success there.

That's because height tends to correlate with cognitive ability (money provides an enriched educational environment and a good diet that increases height). But, the important factor is actually cognitive ability so I, as very smart 5'2" woman can still outearn 90 % of the population, even though most people are taller than me.

@Glassofshloer

I know surfers, divers, archers, fencers, mixed martial artsers, BMXers, skateboarders, mountain bikers, speed skaters, skiers, abseilers, rock climbers, free climbers, horse riders, fast car drivers, parkour enthusiasts and curling players as well as the usual cricket, baseball, football type stuff.

It may just be that as a sporty person I have sporty conversations so I get to hear about these things when other people might just know that so and so was away at the weekend.

Women, in general, prefer men much taller than them. There are bags of studies. Taller men are more likely to be elected, have higher self-esteem etc. I can understand why a boy would be worried about being short but ultimately, if heterosexual, they only need one wife! They don't need all of womandom to find them attractive.

Well according to this article men or your DS's height tend to be swiped right the most...

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/dating/most-attractive-height-for-man-woman-a3846246.html%3famp

Show him this!

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@Pices

Women, in general, prefer men much taller than them. There are bags of studies. Taller men are more likely to be elected, have higher self-esteem etc. I can understand why a boy would be worried about being short but ultimately, if heterosexual, they only need one wife! They don't need all of womandom to find them attractive.

I really don't like being loomed over.

Or a face full of chest hair in missionary position.

I want to look my life partner in the eye.

And not have to stand on a box to kiss him.

My gorgeous husband is 5 ft 8 on a good day. He looked very cute in a suit when I met him in 1999 and he still does. Always fancied him more than some of the 6ft 2 types I knew at the time. It’s personality, style, humour etc. Height is a tiny thing. Maybe worth suggesting that he gets haircut, nice clothes, grooming kit etc to see if it boosts his confidence?

He can always put specialist height increasing wedges in his shoes to add an inch or 2. Amazon sell them

Theres nothing wrong with short.
It's not a judgement

and yet umpteen threads on mn have had waves of posters say they only date men of 5 11, 6 foot and up. So yes height is very much a desirable quality in men yet having said that there are plenty of men 6 foot and up that aren't attractive.
Attractiveness or being 'beautiful' by Western standards is a package for both genders-1 thing can't obtain it so that's why it's elusive. There are many muscly men who would love the height and vice versa. In the same way, there are many slim women who would love big breasts and many big-breasted women who would love to be slimmer....

Yea it sucks he's short but being tall doesn't by any means would mean he's automatically attractive as again it's a package and for men in general height is part of the package. You just have to make the best of the hand you are given- few win the Brad Pitt/Cindy Crawford genitical jackpot.