Page 4 | DS self conscious about his height

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 15/10/2021 09:20

I am aware the world is a bit different now … more shallow I guess with online dating and men basically having to advertise their height on their dating profiles. It makes me very sad

It's a hard thing to believe when you are 21, but women who won't date a man because he's under a certain height are doing him a massive favour. It's the female equivalent of men doing OLD who will only date women who are younger than them. It's a red flag for the other person being superficial and insecure.

I had a lovely bf in my 20s who was 5'7" at most. It was never an issue. The boy had other talents 😉

JaninaDuszejko · 15/10/2021 09:27

DH is above average height for his country, I'm average height for my country but we made the mistake of moving to England where everyone is obsessed with being tall and so we get comments all the time about us and our children being short . I just tell people that there is no virtue in being tall and from where I'm standing they are freakishly tall.

5'8" makes him the most attractive height, he's 5" taller than the average woman in the UK which is plenty.

Needhelp101 · 15/10/2021 09:31

My best friend is 5'3" (and bald!).

He is also very funny, very kind and intensely charismatic. He does very well with the ladies

Yes, some people won't go for men who are shorter than average (although as others have said, 5'8" is barely on the lower side of average) but there are plenty of people who can look beyond height.

dottiedodah · 15/10/2021 09:34

Well he is about the same height as my DS. Never really occurred to me that its short! I am 5 ft 0 ins though,so we are not a family of Giants! Just as long as hes happy ,thats the main thing! I think most young ladies would like someone who is confident and kind.

MoreStuffingMatron · 15/10/2021 10:22

I agree 5 foot 8 isn’t short.

If he is worried about it some Karate or Alexander Technique lessons will help his body confidence and might add an inch to his height through optimising his posture and balance.

alexandertechnique.com/

gannett · 15/10/2021 10:26

He can't change it but he can own it.

Good posture, head high, be proud of being a short king. It's not a negative and it doesn't need to hold him back in any way.

If he gets a few rejections in the hell that is OLD - that just means shallow women have weeded themselves out for him.

Every time he's on an aeroplane or in a basement venue with taller people he will feel smug.

ADreadedSunnyDay · 15/10/2021 10:29

A lot of successful men (career-wise) are average height or shorter - it's a known fact. And to add to the list of famous shorter people I give you Daniel Radcliffe, Al Pacino and Justin Bieber.

Tell your son if anyone thinks it is an issue, they are not worth knowing or bothering about. And there are better things to focus on ie staying healthy, being a healthy weight etc etc

CatsArePeople · 15/10/2021 10:34

He should do weight lifting or boxing. Shorter height would be an advantage.

Glassofshloer · 15/10/2021 10:48

All these messages saying he’s short when he isn’t short

It seems like everyone thinks anything that is under 6ft = short, when average is 5’9

I would say an inch below this is just under average, but not short

CounsellorTroi · 15/10/2021 10:58

A lot of successful men (career-wise) are average height or shorter - it's a known fact. And to add to the list of famous shorter people I give you Daniel Radcliffe, Al Pacino and Justin Bieber.

This isn’t really true in the corporate world. Taller men tend to have more success there.

PrincessNutNuts · 15/10/2021 11:07

5'8" IS a perfectly normal height for a man.

Tom Holland who plays Spider Man is 5'7".

Kit Harrington, Mark Wahlberg and Niall Horan are all 5'8". As is Kanye.

The Jonas Brothers, Kendrick Lamar, Usher, and Lionel Messi are 5'7".

And so was James Dean.

PrincessNutNuts · 15/10/2021 11:12

@CounsellorTroi

A lot of successful men (career-wise) are average height or shorter - it's a known fact. And to add to the list of famous shorter people I give you Daniel Radcliffe, Al Pacino and Justin Bieber.

This isn’t really true in the corporate world. Taller men tend to have more success there.

That's not been my experience in tech start ups - or in tech generally.

ShaneTheThird · 15/10/2021 11:12

I mean, Charles Manson was 5'2 and he lead a whole cult for years. Height isn't the issue, your son's insecurity is.

ShaneTheThird · 15/10/2021 11:13

Also I wouldn't class 5'8 as short.

Glassofshloer · 15/10/2021 11:16

@ShaneTheThird

I mean, Charles Manson was 5'2 and he lead a whole cult for years. Height isn't the issue, your son's insecurity is.

See that OP? There’s no reason for your son to believe his height will stand in the way of leading the next murder cult

Dillydollydingdong · 15/10/2021 11:16

My darling bf is 5ft 5" and it doesn't bother him at all. His height is one of the reasons I love him. He's so cute.

RedMarauder · 15/10/2021 11:20

@PrincessNutNuts I have a different experience to you then.

Incidentally a lot of them are into their sports including extreme sports...

PrincessNutNuts · 15/10/2021 11:28

@ShaneTheThird

I mean, Charles Manson was 5'2 and he lead a whole cult for years. Height isn't the issue, your son's insecurity is.

I just snorted unattractively at this. Very good.

PrincessNutNuts · 15/10/2021 11:29

[quote RedMarauder]@PrincessNutNuts I have a different experience to you then.

Incidentally a lot of them are into their sports including extreme sports...[/quote]
Hanging off a cliff face is easier if you're not over tall.

MatildaIThink · 15/10/2021 11:34

@walkingthroughtheleaves

My lovely DS who is 21 is 5 foot 8 and I get the feeling he is a bit self conscious about his height and wishes he was taller. Surely 5 foot 8 is a perfectly normal height for a man? I've told him that there's no point thinking about something you can't change and that you don't need to be any taller.

Height is an issue most men wish they had a little more of. My husband is 6ft 1in, he would like to be 6ft 2in, my brother is 6ft 2in and would like to be 6ft 3in.

However 5ft 8in is only 1in below the average height for a man in the UK so he is not particularly short. The thing is he needs to get out there and feel attractive, get some attention etc. so he might want to dress sharply, tone up etc.

Glassofshloer · 15/10/2021 11:38

[quote RedMarauder]@PrincessNutNuts I have a different experience to you then.

Incidentally a lot of them are into their sports including extreme sports...[/quote]
Haha, I wouldn’t say techy men are generally the ones into extreme sports! Quite the opposite actually:

MatildaIThink · 15/10/2021 11:41

@Glassofshloer

All these messages saying he’s short when he isn’t short

It seems like everyone thinks anything that is under 6ft = short, when average is 5’9

I would say an inch below this is just under average, but not short

That is a difficult one. The average for adult males is 5ft 9in, but that is across all ages, at the younger end of that spectrum it is taller. The average height of males attending university is just shy of 5ft 11in, for those 60+ it is 5ft 7in, as nutrition has improved average height has risen, so he is not short overall, but is shorter in his demographic.

There are also other differences between races, with White and Black British both slightly taller than average and Asian British shorter.

bumblingbovine49 · 15/10/2021 11:43

The average height in the UK is around 5ft 9 for men and 5ft 3 for women

To me that says that 5ft 8 is a very respectable height for a man . It is a smidge in the shorter side of perfectly normal and there will be many many men shorter than that , most of whom will live happy lives and find partners despite being even shorter than 5ft 8 ( gasp!!)

KeflavikAirport · 15/10/2021 11:46

He's 4 inches taller than my husband, who at that age was beating women off with a shitty stick. It's all about attitude

Glassofshloer · 15/10/2021 11:46

He’s at most 2 inches shorter than average. Hardly Danny DeVito. Didn’t DD have a wife anyway?!

I get why women are attracted to taller men overall, in the same way I understand why men are attracted to slim yet curvy women (denotes health, good genes, reproductive ability etc)

But it does amuse me to see women that don’t tick the ‘genetic specimen’ box themselves stipulating they will only date somebody 6 foot plus.