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Men on Mumsnet!

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AnnieSnap · 14/10/2021 18:42

AIBU to wonder why some men are on Mumsnet? I don’t have strong feelings about it, I’m not anti-men and the posts from men I have come across on here have all been fine, but it just strikes me as odd that these reasonable men would become a part of an obviously women’s forum. Sleazy men, it would make sense, but decent blokes?

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Daddydog · 15/10/2021 12:23

When I learnt from here how to make a Cabbage leaf bra at 2am, there was no turning back. That was my RedPill moment.

TwinsandTrifle · 15/10/2021 13:07

But you don't know which posters are which sex, and which are parents. The only information you have is what they give you. This may not be accurate.

Oh I completely agree. My experience 10-15yrs ago was that I didn't come across any poster who was male. Not that they didn't exist. But that no one in my personal experience, ever volunteered they were. And I used it a lot. People would often say they weren't parents. But in that entire time, I didn't encounter anyone who said they were a man. Inevitably some would have been.

Now, there are plenty who post openly as men. Presumably most of these are indeed male. Whilst you do get trolls, it's unlikely that more than a handful of posters stating they are men, are not.

CorpusCallosum · 15/10/2021 13:14

@MelKarnofskyCrane

I just imagine they’re all like Kevin from Motherland. He’s definitely a Mumsnetter Grin
Of course he is!!! 😂
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AnnieSnap · 15/10/2021 13:45

@TwinsandTrifle thank you for your thoughtful reply. That sort of reflection/discussion was what I had in mind when I started the thread. The name of the website suggests a female space. I have never come across an offensive post here by a man myself and I am not suggesting they shouldn’t be here, but , as a recent member, I do a bit of a double take when posts from men pop-up. I was just wondering what other MNs thought on the subject. Based on some replies, anyone would think I’d suggested that all male posters should be dragged outside and castrated. I find the only thing that’s a shame on mumsnet is how often posters get their heads bitten off with no real provocation, but overall, it’s a great place 🙂

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AlfonsoTheDinosaur · 15/10/2021 13:57

@LampLighter414

Some awful opinions in this thread

Mumsnet in a nutshell

Yes. Your post is a good example.
Pythonista · 15/10/2021 14:07

[quote AnnieSnap]@TwinsandTrifle thank you for your thoughtful reply. That sort of reflection/discussion was what I had in mind when I started the thread. The name of the website suggests a female space. I have never come across an offensive post here by a man myself and I am not suggesting they shouldn’t be here, but , as a recent member, I do a bit of a double take when posts from men pop-up. I was just wondering what other MNs thought on the subject. Based on some replies, anyone would think I’d suggested that all male posters should be dragged outside and castrated. I find the only thing that’s a shame on mumsnet is how often posters get their heads bitten off with no real provocation, but overall, it’s a great place 🙂[/quote]
Well if you are a "recent member", perhaps you could have a look round the site before starting one of these "why are x or y people on MN". It is done to death. People querying why men, non parents (and how do you define those, as per one of my previous posts) etc dare to post here.

There are all kinds of people on here. Even ones who join up without understanding how wide the demographic is.

You got a bunfight, but of course that was to be expected.

Pythonista · 15/10/2021 14:08

If you do a search (I'm sure someone will be happy to talk you through it) you will find one of the millions of threads on this subject Smile

allyjay · 15/10/2021 15:56

I sort of agree op. But you won't get many agreeing with you. There's a few men on another thread right now trolling the fuck out if it and trying to pretend that Only Fans isn't prostitution. Ugh just sick of it. Don't they have the rest of the Internet anyway, why do they need this too? I suspect that often it's to be a pervert or troll women

Wazzzzzzzup · 15/10/2021 16:01

I always find it bit weird that when woman disagrees here with someone else's or majority's view, they of course must be a man. Not all women agree about only fans being a prostitution. Because we all have different viewpoints...
I've seen it in here few times about some topics. Just automatic assumption that if you don't agree with the other women, you must be a man. Weird

PlanDeRaccordement · 15/10/2021 16:02

I was just wondering what other MNs thought on the subject. Based on some replies, anyone would think I’d suggested that all male posters should be dragged outside and castrated

If your OP had simply been a question, no issues, but you did imply that all the men on MN are not decent blokes, but sleazy:
“just strikes me as odd that these reasonable men would become a part of an obviously women’s forum. Sleazy men, it would make sense, but decent blokes?”

That most probably is why you got the Biscuit and other salty replies

Pythonista · 15/10/2021 16:02

Yeah because a few comments you disagree with just proves that the men shouldn't be allowed on here...

If you think people are trolling, go ahead and report.

But I wouldn't join a site and then whine that there is a demographic that you don't like on there.

Pythonista · 15/10/2021 16:03

@Wazzzzzzzup

I always find it bit weird that when woman disagrees here with someone else's or majority's view, they of course must be a man. Not all women agree about only fans being a prostitution. Because we all have different viewpoints... I've seen it in here few times about some topics. Just automatic assumption that if you don't agree with the other women, you must be a man. Weird
I know right! Personally I find it offensive that women are considered to be all of the same mind.
Mookie81 · 15/10/2021 16:03

@ShrikeAttack not happy about the aspersions you're casting on me Hmm.
He seems level headed, doesn't go in for the pile ons and bullying a lot of the 'women' on here seem to engage in and I happen to agree with him a lot of the time; that old confirmation bias kicks in.

PlanDeRaccordement · 15/10/2021 16:04

There's a few men on another thread right now trolling the fuck out if it and trying to pretend that Only Fans isn't prostitution.

Must find this thread, as I am a woman and do not view Only Fans as prostitution.....look at the definition of prostitution for a start. Thinking that comes from the delusion that VR is IRL when they’re not.

WhiskyXray · 15/10/2021 16:07

@Pythonista I can't fathom why you'd crow about reporting my comment. Do you think you'll get made star of the week by MNHQ? Confused

It's not wrong for women to want a place to chat with other women in peace. Fortunately, as I said, there are plenty of other places on the internet for that.

You quickly learn what this place is, and isn't, and your interest may wax or wane accordingly.

Pythonista · 15/10/2021 16:11

I wasn't "crowing". I was simply stating that I had reported you. Most people who report posts don't admit to it.

If there are plenty of places for women only (and again, how are these policed?) then why whine that there are men on here? The main argument seems to be that women don't have "safe places" online Hmm.

This is a public forum, you don't even have to sign up to be able to look through it.

daimbarsatemydogsbone · 15/10/2021 16:18

@ErrolTheDragon

MNHQ may have some data on the demographics of members. Maybe someone should ask them?
How would they know?
ErrolTheDragon · 15/10/2021 17:15

It's self reported and optional, but iirc you can put your sex and number of kids in your profile.

NCBlossom · 15/10/2021 18:37

I just see this as an open forum to the public. It’s mostly women, but I have no problem with men being involved.

And if it’s men saying things like only fans isn’t prostitution, I kind of welcome the ability to debate that. However I mostly find myself arguing with women about this!

I think it’s different in services such as women’s aid or facilities which are either safeguarding, dignity or privacy such as hospital wards, toilets.

ErrolTheDragon · 15/10/2021 19:06

Yes, actual physical spaces are a completely different matter to this sort of Internet forum.
There are a few women only SM platforms serving particular needs, but they have to be low key to stop unwanted male intrusion.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 15/10/2021 19:07

I for one am absolutely flabbergasted that so many mums feel entitled enough to come on and use this site - even though the name is so obviously a typo for Mums:Niet, which everybody knows is Russian for 'NO MUMS'....

Jevarakh · 15/10/2021 19:30

I am a single, childless bloke of 53.

I love it on Mumsnet - have learnt a lot from it.

And have been endlessly entertained by it!

I check AIBU every single day.

Cheers!

Wazzzzzzzup · 15/10/2021 19:38

@Jevarakh

I am a single, childless bloke of 53.

I love it on Mumsnet - have learnt a lot from it.

And have been endlessly entertained by it!

I check AIBU every single day.

Cheers!

🙅
Men on Mumsnet!
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AnnieSnap · 15/10/2021 19:45

@Pythonista well aren’t you just a friendly little ray of sunshine 🙄

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