to ask why people say this?

[Somanytwins]

Lighthearted!

If you stop someone with twins in public and say "double trouble" or "you must have your hands full" why do you do it? I've had this non-stop and I was just wondering why. Also, do you realise that it's the most unoriginal thing to say to someone with twins? I'm always super friendly to everyone who inconveniences me stops to talk to me whilst I'm minding my own business but it does get tedious when each person says the same thing and I wonder if they realise they're the 20th person to say it that day.

Again, lighthearted!

I'm a childminder and people say, "you've got your hands full!" almost every time we go out. I guess they're just trying to be friendly, even if unoriginal.

It's just something to say. I don't really know why someone would bother saying it to a random stranger though.

I am a twin and I’m constantly asked, what’s it like being a twin? I now just ask what’s it like not being a twin? 🙄

Speaking to a customer I said ah! twins, twice the joy.

She looked quite taken aback!

I think once you get pregnant and have kids, there is a whole world of stupid shit that people say that opens up, that you never noticed til then. I’m sure some of them I even said. I was always massive pregnant and most days someone said ‘are you sure there aren’t twins in there’. People can be very dull!

Endless mindless chat when you have children.

"Is she a good baby?"

"No - she's out robbing banks given half the chance".

@MydogWillow

Speaking to a customer I said ah! twins, twice the joy.

She looked quite taken aback!

Twice the joy is lovely as it's so positive! I don't think people realise how negative some of the things they say can become when repeated ad nauseum. I sometimes get "rather you than me" 😳

have you ever said to the postman “ hope you haven’t brought me any bills?!”
Ot to a taxi driver “ have you been busy” etc
It’s the same thing, people just say the most obvious bollocks for something to say . They’re are trying to be friendly though, making a social connection .

People say unoriginal, annoying, pointless things but yes it’s annoying even though most of us do it at some point

Having spent years working in a call centre I can’t even force a laugh anymore when people respond to “anything else I can help you with?” By asking for the lottery numbers.

Same with big dogs…”is that a horse?” “Who’s taking who for a walk” etc etc
200 times a day.

So is commenting on the weather op. I’m assuming you’re a conversational genius?

Just small talk innit 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t have twins but have 3 young DC. I always get ‘you’ve got your hands full’. Or when I was pregnant with number 3 ‘haven’t you got a telly?’.
People say dull, annoying things whatever your circumstances.

People say it to me whe. I have my 3 all together ob the school run etc. It is a bit tedious but I think it's just the first thing that pops in their head when they are making small talk. I avoid saying it to others because I find it so borrrrrrring and unoriginal lol x

My friend has twins and right up until they were about 11 people would ask her if she'd had IVF or a natural conception. So intrusive. They don't normally go about asking strangers about their fertility!

Yes people are just making conversation. Dd is vegetarian and gets asked if she misses bacon all the time.
When I used to work customer support and said "is there anything else I can help you with?" More often than not the answer would be "the winning lottery numbers please hahahaha!"

I think it's quite sweet and an acknowledgement of the work involved with having little ones.
I think it's very sad that stopping to pass the time of day is considered to be so banal.
Then people wonder why there is a loneliness epidemic among young and old alike.
Quite honestly some of the threads on here make me second guess any attempts I might want to make to connect with my fellow humans.
Luckily, in the real world, most people are quite normal.

It's got to be better than the stream of comments you got when you were pregnant. I constantly had comments like "wow you're huge. Are you having twins?". No, no I wasn't and I was already feeling like a fat blob thank you.

I agree - it’s annoying but just making conversation. I have to grit my teeth sometimes when customers on my till say “ Oh it must be free” when an item doesn’t scan. Or when they say “ I only came in for one thing”. But it’s a connection.

I have many many dc and used to get asked all the time did I not have a telly?
People are very unimaginative ime..

It's just general passing the time of day chit chat. I don't like talking about the weather or Christmas when it gets to this tme of year but I know it's people making conversation and trying to be friendly so I smile and change the subject

Sorry, I always say it to a person with 2 or more kids or 1 lively one! I've got nothing else to say really and it seems so inoffensive. No comments on anyone's looks, actions, personality. Can't go wrong really, like commenting on the weather.

Almost every single one of my pstients"what do you need a degree for when all you do is cut toenails" is a bloody stupid comment.
Now I only do complex wound care in podiatry so don't have to hear that any more.

Someone I used to see regularly at work had triplets. When I once asked how she was getting on, she said, ‘I’m putting them on eBay!’

You could try that next time someone ‘double-troubles’ you, OP.

Some people aren’t comfortable with silence and need to fill it with mindless chat.