Would you commit to this wedding?

[weddingguestdec]

Invited to a wedding early December.

Requires an overnight stay as it's in the grooms home town.

I can't see it happening Covid wise.

Don't want to book a hotel or lose any money. But tempted to just say I'm going safe in the knowledge numbers would get cut / cancelled completely.

AIBU to think it won't go ahead?

@TheFrustratedRedhead

Gosh I’m glad you’re not invited to my early December wedding! You clearly just don’t want to go so, please, don’t say any of this to the couple or let them down at the last minute by saying you will go and then changing your mind, weddings are expensive and having already postponed my wedding by a year, emotionally taxing too! You don’t sound like a good friend IMO

Might be one of your guests

I actually think its quite likely to go ahead and id commit.

@girlmom21 my wedding isn’t in the groom’s hometown so I think I’m in the clear, though the thought of people thinking like this is anxiety inducing!

If you don't want to go, don't accept the wedding invitation. It's no bog deal.

If you are genuinely saying you are worried about spending money on a hotel that you won't get back because you believe there will be another lockdown, YABU.

If you are really concerned financially then book a refundable room as PP have said.

Lolz it’s like I’ve stepped back to a year ago 😂😂 if you don’t want to go then don’t

But don’t blame covid

Don’t think it’ll be cancelled but don’t go if you don’t want to or book a hotel you can cancel

Unless something wild happens with this graph, then we're not locking down again. Booster jabs are being rolled out which will dampen those numbers even further, and most kids will have had it by then.

Boris isn't going to lockdown. He hates lockdowns. He doesn't give a shit if a few hundred people die each week and he knows that the lockdown ship has sailed as far as the British public are concerned.

Looking for excuses by any chance?..

There's not a chance there will be a lockdown again. Maybe some more social distancing brought it but have you seen the state of the economy? The rising living costs? The energy prices? To plunge the country into a lockdown and close the retail and hospitality sector will be devastating now. I honestly think they've moved on from COVID and there are bigger fish to fry.

Blimey, if you don't want to go just say no. Miserable sod.

Seems likely to go ahead to me

1. say no if you don't want to go. Do it now and don't dick people around. 2). Use any one of dozens of sites where you can book but cancel (I've just reserved rooms for a wedding in October 2022).

I think you're at least a year too late to be using Covid as an excuse to bail on something. At least do the B&G the courtesy of being a bit more creative

What an odd thread.

Better excuse needed, OP.

Cases are shooting up. I just feel down about the coming winter.

Sorry all. I will look for a hotel with a refund policy.

@weddingguestdec

Cases are shooting up. I just feel down about the coming winter.

Sorry all. I will look for a hotel with a refund policy.

That's your anxiety but that doesn't mean that the wedding will be cancelled!

Deaths are not "shooting" up which means the vaccine is doing its job.

Do what you want obviously but don't be expecting the bride and groom to cancel the wedding.

If you intend not to go because of your anxiety, tell them now. Don't leave it until the last minute as that's plan rude.

Where are you getting your data? Cases aren’t shooting up. Increase in last couple of days but not much and it’s been stable for weeks.

Agree @Offmyfence. I am getting married soon and if someone was to leave it until the last minute to tell me they were not coming because they were unsure, it would be friendship-ending.

I'd not be annoyed if someone declined but if someone pulled out close to the date I'd be fucking livid. You have to give final numbers a month out - and guess what, if someone pulls out after that you don't get a refund for those people, it's money down the pan.

Don't go if you don't want to - it's an invite, not a summons. Just be a decent human being and tell them.

@CornishGem1975 is your wedding in the next few weeks or a few months off?

This is quite a large (over 100) in December!

I take your point though.

[quote weddingguestdec]@CornishGem1975 is your wedding in the next few weeks or a few months off?

This is quite a large (over 100) in December!

I take your point though.[/quote]
It's in 8 weeks time.

Ok sorry. I'm a naturally negative person and judging by this thread, it's my issue that I'm worried!

Congratulations and I wish you all the best!

@CornishGem1975 again sorry, I didnt mean to be rude or upsetting! I will get a grip and go to this wedding.

I'm probably the world's biggest pessimist and even I think it will definitely go ahead!

Just book a hotel with free cancellation if you're worried ?

Do you mean you don't want to book a hotel and lose money cos its cancelled, or you don't want to book a hotel just for someone else's wedding?
Most hotels will do cancellation until just a few weeks prior

Either thank them for the invitation but politely decline if you don’t want to go, or book accommodation with free cancellation up to very close to the event if you do.
Please don’t mess them about.