Would you commit to this wedding?

[weddingguestdec]

Invited to a wedding early December.

Requires an overnight stay as it's in the grooms home town.

I can't see it happening Covid wise.

Don't want to book a hotel or lose any money. But tempted to just say I'm going safe in the knowledge numbers would get cut / cancelled completely.

AIBU to think it won't go ahead?

You would be unreasonable to tell the couple you are going in the hope it gets cancelled/reduced numbers then pull out at the last moment when it goes ahead in full - which is highly likely. It would be best to make your decision now and let the couple know.

@icedcoffees

Cases, hospital admissions and deaths are going up.

[quote JesusIsAnyNameFree]@icedcoffees

Cases, hospital admissions and deaths are going up.[/quote]
not like in last winter. they are currently 1/2 or less than what they were last winter

I went to a 16000 person concert last week, I can't see why a wedding would be cancelled but just book a flexible rate room

It won't get cancelled. If you don't want to go, that's fine, but you'll need a better excuse. Say you don't have the money or something, or already busy.

I doubt very much that it will be cancelled. There will be no more restrictions imposed. We are being left to make out own decisions regarding risk. If you don't want to go then don't go but don't expect it to be cancelled.

of course it will go ahead- neither the economy nor the public will accept another lock down.
Numbers are up but hospital admissions and deaths arent significant.
You are either ridiculously fearful or just not feeling the wedding

@ChatterMonkey

Is your post late by a year??

Of course it will go ahead. We’re not going to have another lockdown. Just book, go and have fun.

Of course it will go ahead. He's already confirmed restaurants and shops won't be closed and I can't see he would suddenly announce a 180 so near Christmas again, there'll be riots.

Book with a refundable room if you're worried, though.

Gosh I’m glad you’re not invited to my early December wedding! You clearly just don’t want to go so, please, don’t say any of this to the couple or let them down at the last minute by saying you will go and then changing your mind, weddings are expensive and having already postponed my wedding by a year, emotionally taxing too! You don’t sound like a good friend IMO

Why wouldn't it go ahead...unless we gone back to 2021 it will go ahead

YABU - do you not want to go and are using COVID as an excuse, or are you very anxious about COVID in general OP?

We paid extra for a refundable hotel room recently and we did need to cancel on the day due to illness so I'd do that if it's a possibility.

Our son was married in August and we had over 200 guests ranging in age from 88 to 3. It was a great day.

It will go ahead OP.

Numbers of hospital ICU beds and deaths are what would drive any lockdown I reckon, that end is still subdued imo.

Of course it will go ahead

Some people on here really do dig deep for reasons to not attend weddings.

YABU.

YABU

@Horriblewoman

Some people on here really do dig deep for reasons to not attend weddings.

Exactly!

Is this a wedding you are not keen to attend OP?

I don't understand why you think it won't go ahead. I had to look at the date of your post, as I thought it was an old one from 2020

Why would it be cancelled?

My first thought was “zombie thread”.

Whilst it’s not impossible there will be another lockdown or more restrictions, it’s very unlikely - or at least, unlikely enough that I wouldn’t accept an invitation in the hope that it will be cancelled.

I would just turn the invitation down now. The kind of guest who actively hopes a wedding will be cancelled so that she won’t risk losing money on a hotel is unlikely to be missed.

@weddingguestdec

Numbers are going up.

It's only if death and hospital numbers go up rapidly that restrictions may return. Infection rates aren't important as long as the NHS isn't overrun. I think the wedding will go ahead. You can usually cancel your hotel room up until lunchtime on checkin day.