Terrified going into work this week

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I reported a colleague this week following advice on here and from my partner.
She had a short temper with me, would get frustrated and snap if I didn’t do something to her liking or get it correct right away.
She shouted at me once in front of a service user and would often have an exasperated tone when asking me to do things. She snatched things from me a couple of times or would just tut, say ‘Oh God” or ‘what ARE you doing?’
She wasn’t always like this but it happened at least every week.
The worst though was speaking rudely to vulnerable service users, she told a 90 year old woman to shut up, and often got irritated towards a man with Alzheimer’s.

This has been going on for around 2 months. Anyway I reported to my job, requesting that it be anonymous and asking if I can be paired with another colleague or moved to another area.

I was told by the management today that she has been called in today for investigation.

I am supposed to be working with her all day this week.
I feel terrified, I know it was the right thing to report her for my sake but most importantly for the service users.

It might just be directed towards me personally, I would just rather move to another area or let her work with someone else. Even if it’s anonymous there’s a high chance she will know it’s me and I just feel so stressed and guilty.

It’s the kind of job where it’s just you and them working together, so it’s not like I can avoid her.
Almost feel like not going into work, it sounds pathetic I know. What advice could anyone offer me?

She can be nice with me too, usually when we aren’t doing the work, but I just had this overriding feeling with her that I haven’t had with any other staff.

My boss put me in a aqword situation today, i work part time and was off last week and i was asked to keep an eye on how two certain members of staff interact together/how they are working as im a fresh pair of eyes and someone they wouldnt suspect to be watching out. He messaged me this evening asking how the shift went so i sent an honest reply, supervisor is bullying a lower member of staff and also not pulling her weight and talking inapropratley to guests, he read the message and no reply🤷‍♀️ now i have work tomorow and i feel its going to be aqword as any action taken they would probably figgure out its me said somthing

If you've made a complaint of bullying then it would be good practice to pair you with someone else if possible. Have you directly requested this?

I have requested it yes, but up to now I’m still supposed to be paired with her twice this week. They’re extremely short staffed too so I’m worried it won’t happen.

yabu to use the term " service user "

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

What's wrong with that?

Do you have any helpful advice to offer the op?

She won't be on shift while she is under investigation. She'll be off ( on full pay).
Your allegations mean she won't be allowed near colleagues or service users.

Just play dumb. Don't hold conversation unless it's worked related.

I don’t want her to lose her job or anything over it, how she is speaking to them is wrong but I just hope she will change. I don’t want to put up with being spoken to like that so I would just prefer to work with someone else.

In a previous company, a colleague hit a service user. I didn’t see it myself but another colleague reported it. She was suspended on full pay but then moved to a new area.

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

Why?

I also cannot prove anything, they might think I’ve made false allegations and fire me

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

Instead of saying something that could spark debate and derail the actual thread, could you not just say what you should call people who use the service and then offer proper advice?

OP, you have done nothing wrong - you have behaved responsibly. Be polite, be professional. If she says anything untoward tell your line manager. The chances are that they are aware of her behaviour but need enough evidence to take things further.

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

Oh bore off.

I remember your previous post.

Well done for saying something!!

If she says anything just deny all knowledge!! She is rude and a bully. Don’t feel bad for telling a lie

Another colleague of mine told me that she has seen her previously being rude to service users, so it suggests there is some awareness but I’m not sure if anything has ever been done.

It’s going to be such a terrible atmosphere if we have to still work together.

I will have to just play dumb and deny all knowledge. I requested to my company that it’s anonymous but they may not honour that

One day last week a different colleague told me ‘I heard that she shouted at you’
I had never said it to anyone but apparently the colleague in question had told her colleague she’d shouted at me as she hadn’t found me very good ..

They shouldn't say who made the allegations. Just don't mention it to anybody else there. At the back of your mind just keep remembering you did the right thing. If she wasn't treating vulnerable people well, it should be investigated.

You did the right thing OP. It must be really awkward, but I'd just remain polite and professional with her.

Try not to worry about being fired. They would need to prove that you have made false allegations, which they can't because you haven't. I hope it gets resolved

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

Why?

Thanks a lot. I hope it will get sorted, I’ll just continue being professional and polite

Remember you have the upper hand here, OP. Make a note (mental note until you're able to jot down if need be) of anything that makes you feel uncomfortable

I feel bad when thinking of the times that she has been nice, and I do feel horrible now

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

This is the correct term in a number of environments

@bg21

yabu to use the term " service user "

I think you'll find that's the term that is used by most Carers