Oh dear, I’m having to make another post about my ex. Split up last year after an emotional affair (his). He moved out in May, back in with his parents down the street. He sees our DS every Saturday, and I’ve been letting him look after him here for part of the day. I was told previously that this was a bad idea, and I’m really seeing it now.
For a while it was okay, we just avoided each other when he was here - but today it’s gone back to how it was at its worst. He had a go at me in the morning and in the afternoon, about different things- one set off by a mild remark by me about something entirely normal and the other he was obviously trying to pick a fight and getting really wound up about a “hypothetical”. Then I got a bit of harassment by text after he went home, and a threat to go for full custody.
I realise I’m being really vague here but I don’t want anything outing after how he was with me today. He is just angry with me constantly and always blaming me for things that I have nothing to do with. It is exhausting to be on the receiving end.
Clearly I can’t let him watch the baby at mine any more. While I don’t think he would ever physically attack me, knowing anything I say to him could set off more harassment makes me feel unsafe.
My mother suggested that I wait until next week to tell him he can’t come in, but I am worried that will get a volatile reaction.
Sometimes his mother will take our son for a walk in the week- should I say something to her? Text him and say he is no longer welcome?
I’m feeling really ground down by this. Ideally I would like him to pick up DS at the door and drop him off at the door, even though this means reducing the hours he has him. (His mother says she cannot commit to having DS in the house every Saturday for the time he normally has him, that’s why he watched him here for part of the day).
I feel like I’ve just been a doormat and I’m so so worn down by it. I apologise if this post makes little sense.