Ten 14 year olds and no parents?

[Veuvelily]

Would you let them?
They can all be a bit overexcitable

My DC1 has the loveliest group of friends whom we've known forever. Parents all know one another, etc, etc, etc. None of them is the partying/weed/drug/vaping type. It still didn't stop one of them drinking himself into vomitous oblivion at a "nice evening gathering" at our house. And he was 18. There was something of a difference of opinion in advance as DC wanted me to to out, but I said I would not bother them but would just be doing stuff upstairs. I am bloody glad I was there, as I was able to call his mum and ask her to collect him, and could then look after him until his mum arrived. Had I not been there, they would have been calling ambulances etc. Clearing up after that one took my DC and the other friends a very long time. It also rather put a damper on the evening.

14 yr olds invited to a house for a evening of just hanging out

Very possibly, but all you need is one of the "silly" guests to present it as something rather different all over social media, and then problems could arise

No need to interfere with them too much, but I'd certainly want an adult in the background somewhere

Not in my house. If someone else is daft enough to risk their property being damaged that's their problem. Mine would be told not to join in and to phone for a pick up if anything stupid started up. With that would be a warning that if they were involved in anything stupid they would be grounded/ giving up Christmas to pay for it.

Teenagers are always excitable with no adults around. I hope any adults planning this would have a hidden camera or microphone around to monitor them.

No, absolutely not. Something will get broken or they'll raid the alcohol cabinet. We were all 14 once and know how it goes ...

Ha ha no chance!

Two sensible 14 year olds - probably. But they get stupider in packs at that age. The more there are, the less brain cells any one of them brings.

10 - nope!

If you are the parent whose home it is then your child needs to know they can call you if things start going the way they don’t want.

If you are the parent whose child is going. Firm boundaries about how you expect them to behave and also they can call you if things start getting out of control.

Two 14yr olds on their own max.
Any more and the risk increases exponentially.

@Veuvelily

14 yr olds invited to a house for a evening of just hanging out. No special occasion, so no activity planned. Parents won’t be home til at a least midnight. No other adult present Boys not particularly sensible and can be very silly and excitable ime.

My oldest child? Yes Second child (who is now 14)? No

Not in my house no. Maybe six in my house but not ten. I'd let my 14 year old go to someone else's and would be having a conversation about behaviour and boundaries.

My old neighbour did something similar to this with her well behaved and very nice14 yr old son a year ago. I was woken up at midnight by some of the kids in her garden.

They were filming themselves getting blowjobs from girls the same ages.

Her son amongst them.

As others said 10 14 year olds in a house from evening till midnight is a party.

At 14, if they are generally responsible, and it was my house I would want an adult nearby just in case. Could be in the house next door (if it's not a rural property, 1/2 a mile from nearest neighbour!).

If my 14 year old wanted to go and it was someone else's house it would depend on 14 year olds. I think my most realistic biggest worry would be alcohol. I wouldn't let them go if I thought alcohol was likely at that age.

Depends on the teens obviously but I would probably say yes.

No, I wouldn't and I'm fairly easygoing about this stuff. But 14 in a biggish group is definitely old enough to do stupid things, like someone drinking enough alcohol to make themselves seriously ill and/or sexual (even if not actual sex) interactions that may end in regret or worse. I mean, I remember being that age at sleepovers and slightly risque (but normal developmental) stuff went on without parents in the room - without any around at all it could go downhill.

Two sensible 14 year olds - probably. But they get stupider in packs at that age. The more there are, the less brain cells any one of them brings.

I agree!

The less there are, the less chance any of them will come up with any silly ideas.
Ten is too many.

You're making this different for no apparent reason. Why won't you just fully explain the situation and then people can actually attempt to give sensible advice.

Unless you want your house trashing I wouldn’t even consider it.

No. Not in a million years. There's a reason 14 is the peak year statistically for males to be hurt and killed in accidents, and it's around their tendency to impulsive behaviour, especially in groups.

Why risk it?

3 max for me. 10, definitely not in the house, in the evening.

@Bogofftosomewherehot

God - why the drip feed!!!???

I had 10 x 15 year olds at mine recently, boys and girls.
They stayed in our garden room - watched films, played games, had a BBQ, went for a walk and stayed overnight in a tent.

We were in the house but didn't interfere at all. They stayed up for most of the night.

Thing is, they're great kids, no alcohol, weren't too noisy and cleaned up after themselves.

So, depends on the kids. If I thought anyone would be pushing their luck I wouldn't do it.

This

I would. But then I trust my kids.

My DD went to a mixed gathering of around 8 14 year olds. They got drunk and she was vilely sexually assaulted by a boy whom she had thought was a friend.

DD didn't tell me there would be no adult supervision - but she didn't need to because when I dropped her off, the friend's mum said she would be there all evening and it would be fine. Turned out she had no intention of being there, and just left them to it for four hours.

So no, I wouldn't.

@titchy

Go to the park for the afternoon? Yes. Go to Magaluf for the weekend? No.

HTH

I have to say from what I hear the park is the place where most experimenting happens. It maybe daytime, or early evening but how many of us had their first alcohol, cigarettes, spliff, sexual experience etc behind a bush down the park?

@Veuvelily

14 yr olds invited to a house for a evening of just hanging out. No special occasion, so no activity planned. Parents won’t be home til at a least midnight. No other adult present Boys not particularly sensible and can be very silly and excitable ime.

No then.

With an adult somewhere in the building yes, but otherwise not.

My parents thought I was totally square at 14, but I really really wasn’t. No way would I let this scenario happen.

@Veuvelily

14 yr olds invited to a house for a evening of just hanging out. No special occasion, so no activity planned. Parents won’t be home til at a least midnight. No other adult present Boys not particularly sensible and can be very silly and excitable ime.

Nope! Someone will bring alcohol and the house will get trashed.

I would. But then I trust my kids.
So what? There'll be 9 other people's kids there...