Ten 14 year olds and no parents?

[Veuvelily]

Would you let them?
They can all be a bit overexcitable

I also think too many, do 4.

Tell your child they can't go.

@Veuvelily

14 yr olds invited to a house for a evening of just hanging out. No special occasion, so no activity planned. Parents won’t be home til at a least midnight. No other adult present Boys not particularly sensible and can be very silly and excitable ime.

Nope.

Not bloody likely. When my youngest was 14, one of the friend (also 14) smuggled in a litre of vodka for a "nice evening of chilling at home". It is just as well I was there. I overheard them conversing about where to hide it, and duly silently removed it while they were watching something on tv. The whispered hoo-ha when they couldn't find it was most amusing.

In short, it's just as well I was there, and I would neither be the absent parent nor let any of mine go to a gathering without adult supervision at that age.

If you think these kids are likely to be bringing alcohol, weed, etc or doing anything risky, then I wouldn’t.

But my friends and I did that all the time at that age as my friend’s parents worked nights. We were —boring— sensible and never did anything more adventurous than pizza and a film.

That's a party. Nope. Not at 14.

Child and one or two sensible friends (if their parents knew and agreed), fine. Ten 14yos, no.

So when I was that age and went to similar things we all ended up raiding the alcohol and playing spin the bottle and strip poker...

Not a chance, these things can get out of control easily. A parent needs to be hanging around.

My best friend was away for one night leaving her 16 year old sensible son and her more sensible 18 year old daughter. The son invited, with permission, 3 friends over, they were known to the family, very sensible boys. Except one of those 3 friends invited another boy unbeknown to my friend's Ds. He invited another and so on. It was so out of hand the Ds had to call his sister at work, she ordered everyone out and the 25 teens in the house just ignored her.

They ended up calling the police, the place was completely trashed, I am talking ketchup sprayed up walls, flour thrown around the lounge, washing up liquid squirted into the fridge. My friend ended up coming home in the early hours of the morning but had given her children strict instructions not to touch anything, not to tidy etc. She came home, took photos and video of the destruction of her house and marched round with her son to the boys' houses early the next morning.

She showed their parents and the boys what they had done and asked them to come round in 30 minutes to help to clean it up. The parents were absolutely horrified. They had all known each other from the primary school playground and you would never have considered them capable of this.

The lounge carpet was completely ruined and had to be replaced. The wall paper was still stained by ketchup in the kitchen but was left up as a reminder of finding out who your friends really are.

So no, absolutely not.

Boys not particularly sensible and can be very silly and excitable ime.

A good reason to say no then.

@Fashionesta

How many? Doing what? Are parents coming back at midnight? Not much info to go on 🤷

It says how many in the title! Ten.

10 of them no supervision, I would let them, as long as it wasn’t my house.
I’m sure something will get damaged.

Not in solo occupation of the house, no.

Either, child invites one very sensible friend to spend a quiet evening .

Or

!4 friends can come for an evening while an adult/ parent is present and awake elsewhere in the building.

So will they all be sleeping over but no adult home until 14 or are you collecting at midnight?
Mixed sex or single sex?
Known alcohol or not?
Are they generally well behaved kids?
Presumably you're mother to one or two of them?

No from me as well.
Ten is too many. Even sensible ones can be swayed into who knows what, left alone for 6 hours.

Would not leave them in my house unless very responsible as would worry about the mess or possible damage. I think my own child and 2-3 friends would be my limit.

I would allow my child to attend if somewhere else if I could trust my own child to be sensible and they had a phone to call for a lift if they wanted to leave for any reason.

Three or four tops maybe. They could play games, watch a movie, even make pizza. But 10 is too many. Someone will do something stupid because they want to show off / be the cool one, and the others won’t say anything because they don’t want to be the one to say something! Then it will escalate, and they won’t know how to stop because they are kids with kids brains.

No

My 14 year old DS and his friends? - yes, they would be fine.
Although I would be less keen if it was my house.
Are they interested in/likely to have alcohol, drugs, smoking? If yes, I would say no.

Hope you've got a lockable booze cabinet/cupboard, op.
(Mind you, that won't stop the ones who are coming from raiding their own parents' stash...)
Been there, done that, cleared up the vomit.

I have a 14, almost 15 year old. She has a lovely mixed sex group of friends and I 100% would trust them to do this and be sensible.

But there's a group in her year that I 100% would NOT trust. They would get bollocked, smoke/vape and be shagging all around my house with one another!

It definitely depends on the group of friends

No way, too young to be left alone at night at home.

hmm from my experience of 14yr olds getting together with no parents (although dependent on child) can involve gaming or raiding parents drink cupboard. So only you can judge

Nope, too many kids without some kind of adult supervision.

Depends on the teens doesn’t it really. They are pretty variable at that age! But 10 excitable teens hanging out until midnight sounds like a party to me, and I wouldn’t want my 14 year old at a party without a parent in the house.

No I wouldn’t.