oh i see why did i say she tossed coins?
because it was yet another aibu thread where everyone soothed 'nooo, not BU, of course, there, there'
and then cod posted along the lines of yes YABF*ingU.
Next thread was 'nooo YANBU, soothe, soothe..
but i find it unpredictable which way she will toss iyswim