To ask what age you suddenly really started to age?

[Onedaylikethis21]

I feel like at 48, I have really started to age- creepy neck, a bit jowly, going a bit grey and not feeling great to be honest! I look after myself - don’t really drink as I see it on my face, wear nice clothes, nice hair etc but it’s becoming an effort ☹️ Wasn’t expecting it actually!! I always thought I looked pretty good for my age. I know it’s vain and I shouldn’t care but it’s just weird!!

I recently heard the phrase "after 45 you have the face you deserve". Sadly this has turned out to be true in my case. Up to about 41 always had people comment that I didn't look my age. Now I think I look my age if not older. The body is fine; naturally slim and lots of Pilates. But the face is old. And the hands look bloody ancient. Ugh.

@Cuddlywaterfall

45. Everything seemed to collapse! I'm 46 now and have a face full of Botox and fillers

And do you look and feel better? Considering botox in my 40s..

And do you look and feel better? Considering botox in my 40s..

See, I am put off this as I know someone who does botox and fillers as her job and her face is just, well, a bit odd looking. I can't quite put my finger on what it is, but it just isn't quite right. I also think she looks older than she is. She has lots of very fine lines all around her eyes, and I wonder if this is because she can't move the muscles around her face normally but they still try to move to express emotion so she's developed lots of little fine lines in less typical places as they try to do this.

My husband, without comment from me, also said after he saw her, that there was something odd about her face he couldn't quite describe.

This thread is weirdly comforting, knowing that what we're experiencing is perfectly normal and is happening to most of us from about mid 40s.

Really hard to answer.

Felt my body hurting in 2012. So I got fit. (Insanity - you do you). Body stopped hurting

Face tho? I have a cats-arse mouth - never smoked.

Only began in 2020 - and anyway I could give less than a shit about my face etc.

I fucking love being a crone. I once had decided on a face-lift, identified my surgeon (that I worked with ) but once I got here? No.

I cherish me. I cherish my face

Do what you like. I highly recommend you are perfectly at ease with yourself exactly as you are before you do anything.

Those people who have hit the body aching menopausal phase...does it pass?

I am not fit, in my fifties and never had the body aches most of my fitter friends talk about. I do ache after long car journeys, so maybe it is about sitting down too much?

Where do bodies ache?

Joints can become stiff if underused, toxins collect, tendons and ligaments become shortened and tight if not stretched.

I go monthly for an all over body rub. Helps any aches ...

My aches started after the Covid vax, which also brought my periods back. I played quite a lot of sport, but suddenly my knees and hips were sore, my finger joints were especially sore. I struggled with exercise and felt dreadful afterwards. I was too sore to walk far and developed bloody plantar fascitis too.
HRT is helping a lot, I'm back to playing my sport, but being careful to warm up and might try a little light running again. But I was wondering, if I toughed it out without hormones would it have gone away eventually.

@speakout lots of my friends who are fitter than me talk about aches and pains.

@speakout

Where do bodies ache?

Joints can become stiff if underused, toxins collect, tendons and ligaments become shortened and tight if not stretched.

Knees. Never had sore knees in my life, Just started exercising again and can't believe it's actually limiting my movements! Feel about 80! Hope getting moving again will improve matters.

Am also squinting to focus now which is awful getting used to as my eyesight was always super.

It's coming to terms with the fact things are starting to deteriorate which is the hard part.

Shoobydooer

Knees can take a hammering over a lifetime. Keeping weight down is the single most important thing to do.
And look after knee circulation. Sitting or standing causes fluids in the knees to become stangant, reduces circulation. Also really helpful to invert the legs above the heart on a regular basis, it takes strain and pressure from the veins and lymphatic system, drains toxins, makes way for fresh oxygenated blood to refresh the joints.

53

Lots of grey hairs, weight gain, skin tone changed, peri menopausal changes and generally not feeling very well.

40 and it’s getting much harder each year

The jowl thing, I noticed last few months, I'm 59 in December. Not happy, even googled treatment for the 1st time ever. But bit unsure £500 & no idea if it even works........ but of a shock when you have camera on phone and you look down Ahhhhhhhh

@branchlight

And do you look and feel better? Considering botox in my 40s..

See, I am put off this as I know someone who does botox and fillers as her job and her face is just, well, a bit odd looking. I can't quite put my finger on what it is, but it just isn't quite right. I also think she looks older than she is. She has lots of very fine lines all around her eyes, and I wonder if this is because she can't move the muscles around her face normally but they still try to move to express emotion so she's developed lots of little fine lines in less typical places as they try to do this.

My husband, without comment from me, also said after he saw her, that there was something odd about her face he couldn't quite describe.

I agree. I know people who have had fillers and botox and they look like middle aged women who have had fillers and botox! Not younger, just different - the hands, the neck, the hair, the body shape...all these things also contribute to how other people judge your age.

User14858 - do tell , what's this £500 treatment you speak of for saggy jowls

After my first child, gained weight, hair thinned

Am 58 and it hasn't happened yet

I noticed ageing at age 33. I remember actually crying at the realisation that for the first time ever I was definitely a worse version of my former self and it was irreversible.
The change from 30 to 33 was huge for me, having had a baby at 31 and it had nothing to do with weight gain as I didn't gain weight. Not looking forward to the next phase of the inevitable jowls and downturned mouth I'm anticipating.

45. I rarely wear make-up and recently found out when I tried to apply eye shadow than my eye lids have drooped. Also, a huge deterioration in eye sight.

Hysterectomy/ ovary removal at 46 and overnight it seems my hair turned grey, vision worsened, joint pains, fat around abdomen, skin dry, hair thinning and lost all hair on arms / legs, voice changed, appetitive, sleep patterns, even attitude has changed as appearance changed - I looked and felt so much older - surgical menopause is a beast.

Cheer up, you lot. Lose a bit of weight (if necessary) then join an Am Dram group of older wannabe thespians. They'll thrust you on the stage, insisting that at age 55 you can definitely play Julie Jordan (Carousel) who ages from 16 to around 40 and from then on, as long as you stay well away from mirrors, you will always feel a good 10 years younger than you are!