To not want to camp this month

[Benjaminbutton12]

Going away for a couple of nights later this month, basically my partner wants to camp, I don’t. I’ve said I’m willing to pay the difference for a hotel but he sees it as a waste of money. Not even a fancy hotel, just somewhere to put our heads.
I’m just worried it will be freezing and damp,and since we don’t drive it’s a lot of equipment to lug on the train for 6h.
We can’t seem to come to an agreement, what would you do? Has anybody camped late October and found it ok?

One person doesn't get to decide this. If you can't agree then he can go on his own and you can do your own thing, or you can both just stay home.

Just tell him "no".

6 hours and 3 changes of train to camp in October, no fecking way! LTB

Holy crap, no way!

Camping in October? Forget it.

Let him go and stay in a freezing cold tent on his own and you can book a nice cosy hotel.

I've just seen you don't drive you absolutely can't lug all the camping stuff on a train. When we go we have a car full, roof bag and the kids a squashed in the back under sleeping bags. Do not put yourself through this.

I've camped all year round. You need good 3 or 4 season sleeping bags. If not, you'll need extra blankets - so more kit to lug on the train. It will get cold.

• 2 roll mats
• 2 sleeping bags
• 2/3 man tent
• torches/lamps
• small gas cooker and pot (need to heat up water for a cuppa)
• if catering for yourselves, plates/bowls/pan/cutlery/etc

All easily contained within 2 rucksacks. Think about it, every year thousands of kids do their DofE awards. Check the web for example packing lists for DofE - you'll need similar.

6hr train journey is likely to cost more than £65... stay closer to home and get a travelodge!

I am a v seasoned camper and would not go late October unless I really really wanted to and had a plan ie. near a lovely cosy pub, could light fires (you might need a fire bowl for this) and was at a campsite that was still open in late October (seems unlikely) - you will need not only warm sleeping bags but roll mats at the least plus blankets
It willbe dark early and you will be very cold at night.

This seems totally baffling to me - particularly without a car.

Don't be such a doormat. You're 50% of the decision-making process on this.

And no, YANBU, but I won't camp with a car in July either!

Some campsites have glamping options in autumn - ie. shepards huts, old vans etc turned into sleeping areas.

If he wants the outdoors he needs to also be pratical.

I don't understand the reason for the canp/hotel? What's the occasion? Is it a celebration? A wedding you must atttend and need somewhere to crash? A business trip? If it's supposed to be a holiday then I fear it'll be a dreadful one. Camping without a car is hard. Camping without the gear and experience is hard. Camping in Britain is always a risk- even in summer- but in October? It's going to rain and be very cold and without the equipment (which will cost way more than £65) experience and eagerness needed to be a camper on dark damp cold- it's a no go. I LOVE camping. All year round except the most bitter months- but I have a car and the gear, And twice I've had to sleep in my car after an autumn storm has taken my tent to task. I dread to imagine a scenario where you've had to lug all your gear on your back, set up in the pisssing down rain, gotten soaked through (with nowhere dry to put your stuff whilst erecting a tent in the rain) only for the tent to spring a leak/ pole snap/ an over eager badger rip your canvas to get to your malt loaf at 3 am and you've got no car or means to get to a hotel? Recipe for disaster imo

Well that's a hard no from me.

Has he ever actually camped??
We love camping.....we have all the gear we need to make it comfortable and a car to transport it all
No way would I ever go camping late Oct tho...too cold, wet and dark
If DH wanted to go he would be on his own
Just say NO!

@Benjaminbutton12

Travelodge has gone up to £65 a night for our dates

That's still going to work out cheaper than buying all the equipment needed. Without a car, I wouldn't even think about it. Sounds like hard work!

Camping in October via the train..... Id rather stick pins in my eyes.
Its a hard no from me, book the Travelodge!

To buy all the equipment you need to be warm enough would cost more than staying in a hotel. Then you have to carry it. £65 is cheap for a hotel BTW. Your DP sounds like a real cheapskate.

It sounds like an endurance test not a relaxing break.

Another hard no here.

Nooooooo! Got caught camping on a very wet and cold August weekend once in the South of England (with three kids under 3 - what was I thinking!) It was misery. I vowed I'd never camp again unless I was guaranteed warm summer sunshine. Everything damp and dirty, Rain beating off tent - drips. Misery.

Please show him this thread!

Oh, and this is the first 100% YANBU I think I have ever seen on mumsnet.

Just put your big girl pants on and say no.

It would take steely determination, but if you're hardy, could you go and be more cheerful than him? Have a blast. There's no doubt it will be very awful. But if you're having the time of your life then the misery ain't cause of you and you get to win when ge realised his huge error.

OP does he scrimp in other areas, slightly to go off topic but the only piece of advice my Dmum gave me when I was single (which her Dmum gave her in turn) was 'never marry a mean man'.
I am not a massive spender but even I'm not as tight as that. Seriously, for all this hassle just to save a bit of money - which is likely not to be a saving in the end - makes me think he sounds dreadful and you'd be well rid!

If I was to camp in late October I would need:

Decent sleeping mat, decent sleeping bag, 2 extra blankets, pillow, hot water bottle, warm clothes and shoes , wellies, stove, kettle, 2 lamps, ……already that is too much to lug about on the train.

Is it supposed to be a holiday? I wouldn’t camp any month of the year so yanbu

Also 65 for a travelodge isn’t bad; do that and let him camp out if he wants to

The whole thing sounds like an ordeal, not a ‘break’

@Mrsjayy

I'd rather stay home than go camping with a stingy man!

This.

Why are you even going? Sounds awful.

This sums up my view of camping!