To intervene with someone's parenting skills?

[parentinghelp1]

Has anyone ever had a situation where they think someone close to them is failing as a parent?

Do you intervene when you feel the children are at risk of having poor outcomes when they're older (they aren't in danger but I feel they could have issues as adults)

I don't have kids so I know mentioning anything is going to lead to 'you don't know anything because you haven't got kids'

What do you do? Just let people carry on potentially hurting their children and them growing up hurt because of their childhood?

I'm no way is this a judgmental post - I am just worried for the children.

It makes me sad.

Also very scared of ruining relationships by intervening.

Even just once a fortnight for a couple of hours might really help everyone. Getting out on the fresh air, nice walk and hot chocolate in the pub

It is very hard to know how to deal with this. I once saw a woman on a bus behaving unacceptably towards her little girl - not shouting, not hitting, just psychologically manipulative - it was very hard to listen too - and much harder for this dear child who would be steeped in this all the time. I could not imagine what I could do - I did not know them, their names, where they lived - nothing.

If it had been a child about whom I knew this information I would have talked with NSPCC about it and asked them the best action I could take.

So hard - and sometimes I think that the parent must herself be unhappy or damaged to behave in this way - or just got PMT for goodness' sake.

@PurpleDaisies

I work very long hours and don't live close.

How do you know what’s going on with these kids then?

Because I hear it - every interaction I have threres reports of it or I see it. If it happens this often when I'm there, nearly it doesn't just stop when I'm not there!

I've also been told multiple times but others witnessing too

Emotional abuse is still abuse. Say something.

@parentinghelp1 it's great you want to help and your approach sounds perfect, those kids will treasure weekends away or days out with you. Depending on your time and the number of kids you might be able to have one on one time with them too.

To clarify I don't mean for you to always go somewhere, just weekends at your house are weekends away for them 🙂

@steff13

I don't think I would intervene unless the child is being abused or neglected.

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