To be shit scared of childbirth

[jezzy56]

I have a dc already who was born by emergency c-section.

Pregnant again and hoping for a vaginal delivery this time but I'm so scared. I guess it's maybe fear of the unknown. I had contractions with my ds for several hours but never experienced the pain of a vaginal birth. The thought of tearing and having stitches down there makes me cringe.

Can anyone offer any positive stories or experience please? I'm feeling so anxious that I'm considering requesting an elective section but I know the risks and recovery for that are tough too and I would like to do it naturally if I can.

I had an emergency c section with my 1st the a Vbac with my 2nd 3 years later.
Got me the recovery from the vaginal birth was so much easier and better than the csection.

With my 1st I was inducted, had an allergic reaction to the epidural and a high fever (40 degrees) so that was partly the reason recovery was so bloody awful.
Pelvic floor damage has a lot to do with just being pregnant and all that extra weight (it’s the gift that keeps giving more shitty gifts)

The vbac was quick but B I was active a f standing a lot (water broke at 9am and dd was born by lunch) The endorphin high post birth was pretty bloody amazing.

I did have a small tear which the midwife tried to stitch with no pain relief.

I know just pushed out my kids huge melon without any but there is no way any make would had an injury to his junk be stitched without any anaesthetic.

I’ve just been booked for elective section due to anxiety about giving birth. So hard to know what is the right thing to do as you don’t want to make the decision about a c-section then have complications and think it’s your fault having chosen to go down that route.

However, with planned sections, although of course there are risks, I feel as things should be done calmly, with no sense of immediate urgency or emergency to them, you’d hope the risks are minimised for both you and baby.

Also, definitely feel like only the risks of sections are mentioned by medical professionals, no one advertised that 1/3 first time mums have assisted births, and what the implications can be short and long term of this, and all the other things than can go wrong during natural labour so I personally think it’s about what risks your more comfortable with taking and how you think you could deal with them.

At least in this day and age there is maternal choice and they have to approve a c-section if you make the informed choice.