DSS accusing me of inappropriate texting!

[ifonly22]

DSS, (14) is claiming that he has seen some inappropriate texting between me and another man. He is now refusing to see DH at our home, or engage with me.
I'm refusing because, it didn't happen and also I'm not showing a 14 year old my phone. DH wants me just to send a screenshot to keep the peace.
AIBU?

Do not send a screenshot to an arrogant 14yr old, it'll just fuel his opinion of superiority.

What was he doing on your phone?!

I'd personally not be pandering to some 14 year old.

I don’t understand the story fully. Does your DH have doubts? How would a screenshot prove anything if texts can be deleted or if you can scroll up and just screenshot another part of the conversation? How is he claiming that he saw it, is he saying he took your phone and went through it?

Nope dh can look and see there is nothing inappropriate on there and tell his son to wind his neck in

You dont owe his son a thing

I hope he grows out of his misogyny.

What is he expecting you to send a screenshot of?

Fuck that.
And what does a screenshot prove anyway? He'd just claim you'd faked it.

I don't understand. A screenshot of a particular message that he's misunderstood? How dare he be on your phone in the first place!

@girlmom21

What is he expecting you to send a screenshot of?

I was wondering this too. You can't prove a negative with one screenshot.

Do not give into this! Show your DH what you need to show him but the child doesn’t get to demand anything of you. Don’t really understand why he’s refusing to see his dad. Sounds like you are being scapegoated for something else going on.

Why won’t you show your husband?

Nope , he's looking to exert control over your relationship , I wouldn't allow it

Disrespectful little shit.

As long as DH is OK with whatever the texting was about, what's it got to do with his son. Tell his dad it's down to him to sort the kid out.

There'd be no peace to keep with my husband, if he dared to do anything other than send his son a flea in his ear for daring to accuse me of such a thing. I can be very 'shrill' about such things.

What exactly did he say he'd seen?

This doesn't really make sense.

Sorry, I don't understand. DSS has seen you texting something he thought was inappropriate? And has asked to see it? And you won't show him so now he's not speaking to his Dad (your DH)?

Oh wait, sorry, he's refusing to see his DF at your home i.e. because you're there?
What did he see? I feel like there's something in this, OP, I'd hand overmy phone and look smug while DSS had to eat his words.

Your dh wants you to send screenshots to him or to dss op?

He apparently 'saw' conversation on my phone, can't confirm the platform.

Probably beside the point but I can’t believe a 14 year old saw messages on your phone to the extent that he is firm in his belief that they were inappropriate but couldn’t say what platform the messages were on
He’s on a bit of a mission isn’t he?

What a little shit. He has no right to see anything and your DH needs to tell him to belt up.

Ignore him and be glad you don’t have to put up with him anymore

Your DH needs to growa pair a backbone and tell his son he has every faith in you, and that DSS has no business looking at your phone.

What would sending a screenshot prove? You could send a screenshot of anything.

Does your DH usually undermine your like this?