DSS accusing me of inappropriate texting!

[ifonly22]

DSS, (14) is claiming that he has seen some inappropriate texting between me and another man. He is now refusing to see DH at our home, or engage with me.
I'm refusing because, it didn't happen and also I'm not showing a 14 year old my phone. DH wants me just to send a screenshot to keep the peace.
AIBU?

Disgusted at the posters calling the boy a little shit or nosy shit. In fact all the name calling and presumption he's manipulative or stirring whereas he could be confused or in turmoil and in need of support.

He's a child. This is mumsnet ffs

What the hell is wrong with you people?

@Willyoujustbequiet

Disgusted at the posters calling the boy a little shit or nosy shit. In fact all the name calling and presumption he's manipulative or stirring whereas he could be confused or in turmoil and in need of support.

He's a child. This is mumsnet ffs

What the hell is wrong with you people?

you can skip all posts and just read OP's

14vis kind of a peak age for children to wield the power of spite and manipulation without yet having the balance of empathy and maturity. It was always Y9 where the really toxic stuff started to brew.

If he was going to do this sort of thing it's exactly when you would expect it to show. Child ≠ innocent, guileless or perfect. 🤷🏼‍♀️

His tactics need to be nipped in the bud, most of all for his own benefit, but it is not and must not be his DSM's job to do it. The more responsible parent needs to step up.

Fucking hell what a lot of nasty fuckers there are on this thread. From very little information you have jumped on this kid like some angry mob.
Yes he might be a misogynistic idiot. If so as a parent I would be wondering where the fuck we had gone wrong and rectify the situation. The best person to do this is his Dad.
However for all we know he has seen unfaithfulness before? Perhaps his parents split was down to that and he is worried about it.
If he wasn't your DSS but a DS would you be happy to let people refer to your child as a little shit quite so many times?
I'm on my third 14 year old boy and 14 year olds are quite reactive and emotional and don't necessarily have the skills to read situations. Particularly as you obviously don't love the child so he probably doesn't love you.

@PieMistee I'm sorry what? I don't love the child? You have no idea.

What an utterly poisonous statement.

@ifonly22 what so you let people call your loved child a little shit repeatedly and not call them on it then I would hate to see what you would allow for a merely tolerated child.
If anyone slagged off my 14 year old (or my DSS when he was that age) like has happened on this thread I would defend them, and say this action was the issue not my otherwise wonderful child.

@ifonly22

ignore hysterical randoms 🤣