DSS accusing me of inappropriate texting!

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DSS, (14) is claiming that he has seen some inappropriate texting between me and another man. He is now refusing to see DH at our home, or engage with me.
I'm refusing because, it didn't happen and also I'm not showing a 14 year old my phone. DH wants me just to send a screenshot to keep the peace.
AIBU?

A 14yo has no right to check an adults phone!

@martingrowler

I don't understand. A screenshot of a particular message that he's misunderstood? How dare he be on your phone in the first place!

He may not even have been on OP's phone. The whole thing might be fiction from start to finish.

What a stirrer this child is! Does he have form for trying to split up you & your husband?

Your DH needs to stamp down on this, hard.

No way should you pander to this arrogant child.

Has your DSS said this to you, or is this your DH reporting it back to you? Actually either way it's your DH who should be dealing with it. But if it's B, then DH is out of order and may well be lying. Although this all seems a bit weird.

Surely you would have already deleted it so a screenshot would be pointless anyway. Not that I would be pandering to a 14 year old demanding to see private conversations in the first place.

Is it possible your dh is behind this?

DH needs to explain the he has no concerns and that even if he did the matter would be between you and him and DSS would have no right to see anything.

That said, DH does need to take every step to maintain contact so if DSS really won't visit your home, DH needs to see him elsewhere.

He may not even have been on OP's phone. The whole thing might be fiction from start to finish

That would be my assumption- he is trying to either break you two up, or get out of seeing his dad for some other reason.

The fact he can’t even say if it was FB, Whatsapp or whatever proves this is a load of shit - he unlocked and searched your phone, and found some messages, but can’t remember what they said or where they were? Did he, aye.

@StepAwayFromGoogling

Oh wait, sorry, he's refusing to see his DF at your home i.e. because you're there? What did he see? I feel like there's something in this, OP, I'd hand overmy phone and look smug while DSS had to eat his words.

I’m with you, this doesn’t make a lot of sense. Why is everyone deciding that kid is arrogant rather than has just misunderstood and is worried?

What a little asshole this kid is.

Wtf no way should you pander to a nosy shit stirring child.

Your husband is a fucking dope if he thinks you should answer to and prove yourself to a child

Does your husband believe you or does he think his son is lying?
I guess your dh is in quite a shit position here if youre refusing to show anyone your phone.
Is there background context here. Did you previously get on ok or is him accusing you of things a reccurring problem

He cant tell what platform? Seriously? My WhatsApp is green my Facebook is blue and my text is black its all very easy I can tell at a glance where I am by the colours

So what he is realistically asking is to go through your entire phone to look for a mythical message 🤔

No

He sounds very manipulative OP ... you do right to not engage with this 🌸

Why has everyone jumped to the conclusion that the 14yr old CHILD is trying to stir trouble?

Has the op stated how he came to have her phone? Perhaps she let him use it for something and the messages popped up? Perhaps the messages are entirely innocent (Perhaps not) but he may have seen something that made him uncomfortable and worried and he felt he needed to tell his dad and is now perhaps worried/embarrassed and doesn't want to go to their house.

I cant believe the nasty comments on here regarding a child - shit stirrer, arrogant, manipulative, its disgusting!

@Bluntness100

Why won’t you show your husband?

I'd expect him to trust her.

Under no circumstance show your phone to a 14 year old. Who the actual fuck does he think he is.

Your DH needs to put him firmly in his place. He should be made to apologise to you.

Your DH needs to put the little shit firmly in his place.

Could he have misunderstood/misread something? Does what he’s saying sound completely fabricated or do you know what conversation he’s referring to?

So he wants you to screenshot every message on your phone across all platforms? It doesn't make sense e

Why has everyone jumped to the conclusion that the 14yr old CHILD is trying to stir trouble?
Why the need for capitals? (reminds me of WORK!) Are children incapable of causing trouble? Do you think every single child is an innocent little angel? If so, I urge you to Google 'Thompson and Venables'.

I cant believe the nasty comments on here regarding a child - shit stirrer, arrogant, manipulative, its disgusting!
Bollocks. 14yo is old enough to know right from wrong in a court of law.

And are adults incapable of doing anything wrong? For all you know he did genuinely see something and has told his dad, or are you encouraging a culture whereby children should not speak up to trusted adults about things that worry them.

The CHILD was in caps as it appears that most of you have forgotten this is a child, why the need for such nastiness?

Wow, DH should be worried about how his son is turning out. You can’t prove a negative. You can’t be held over a barrel by a jumped up teen. You can’t engage with this utter bollocks.

Enjoy the break!