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Late kids birthday cards!

93 replies

Maither113 · 28/09/2021 22:47

I think its bad to give a child a birthday card even a day late unless there's a reasonable excuse like illness, hospital efc as the child thinks they are forgotten about! Both my SILs have done it this year to my 15 year old. I have 7 nieces and nephews and manage all there's on time! Ridiculous.

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WomanStanleyWoman · 28/09/2021 23:48

15?! I thought you were going to say s/he was about six or seven!

A 15 year-old is not going to be devastated by a card arriving a day late. Do teenagers even care about birthday cards?

AnneLovesGilbert · 28/09/2021 23:53

It’s not like there’s been other stuff going on this year Hmm

Kite22 · 28/09/2021 23:55

@WomanStanleyWoman

15?! I thought you were going to say s/he was about six or seven!

A 15 year-old is not going to be devastated by a card arriving a day late. Do teenagers even care about birthday cards?

This ^
LukeEvansWife · 28/09/2021 23:56

Well OP you are clearly a better person than anyone else.

It's a birthday card - does it matter?

EnglishRose1320 · 29/09/2021 00:00

My eldest ds just declares that it is still his birthday until all cards and gifts have arrived and he enjoys an extended birthday. This is if he knows one is arriving late, he doesn't expect everyone to send cards etc....

Most years I am pretty good at remembering my niece and nephews birthdays, this weekend my niece won't get her present on time because the parcel hasn't arrived at mine yet.

I think children learning that life is busy at times and that grown ups are only human and don't always manage everything is no bad thing.

LegArmpits · 29/09/2021 00:02

Lol

Gingersay · 29/09/2021 00:03

Are you my SIL? She even complained when her birthday card was late 4 days after dd was born and we were waiting on an ambulance to take us back into hospital!

Cattitudes · 29/09/2021 00:05

Nope, wouldn't bother me or my dc.

Notimeforaname · 29/09/2021 00:08

I haven't been able to give my nephew his birthday present yet it's been more than a week. They live too far away for public transport,I dont drive and they don't come every week/are busy with life.

We'd prefer to see eachother when exchanging gifts rather than sending them through the post.

Holskey · 29/09/2021 00:09

Bloody hell. How about being grateful for a thoughtful card? They're not a human right, you know. Can't be doing with people who get offended about nice gestures.

DrGoogleSaysSo · 29/09/2021 00:11

My dc wouldn't complain, especially if there was money in it.

MrsAvocet · 29/09/2021 00:11

I don't even send my own children birthday cards now they are teens/adults and I certainly don't expect other family members to. I can't believe a 15 year old is really going to be bothered about getting cards a day late.

nailvarnishhubby · 29/09/2021 00:14

I sort of agree op even tho I am shit at these things some years. We'd often be upset if an aunt (who usually remembered forgot) however I still have all my birthday cards from the beginning of time so I am weird!

avamiah · 29/09/2021 00:30

@Maither113

I think its bad to give a child a birthday card even a day late unless there's a reasonable excuse like illness, hospital efc as the child thinks they are forgotten about! Both my SILs have done it this year to my 15 year old. I have 7 nieces and nephews and manage all there's on time! Ridiculous.
You sound totally ridiculous if I’m being honest.

Get a grip for gods sake.

Boredhimtodeath · 29/09/2021 00:32

Gosh, have you looked into methods to improve their resilience?

Coffeeand · 29/09/2021 00:36

Have a card with a Biscuit on it.

imnotacelebritygetmeoutofhere · 29/09/2021 00:53

Do you think that cards should only be received on the actual birthday? Not before the day? Or after? Curious to know. Personally I think some days either before or after the birthday is perfectly acceptable. But I'd still be grateful to receive the card at any time.

EKGEMS · 29/09/2021 01:19

OMG with mail delays here in the US you can mail something well ahead of time and it could arrive late due to no fault of the sender-I wish my biggest problem was a card that was one day late

fuckitbucket16 · 29/09/2021 01:20

You’re being ridiculous. Teenagers wouldn’t give a shit.

In my family it’s not even a proper birthday card if it’s not late Grin

grapewine · 29/09/2021 01:22

He probably doesn't care. Let it go. There's serious stuff going on in the world.

Saoirse82 · 29/09/2021 01:23

Catch a grip!

PrincessNutella · 29/09/2021 02:15

I don't know you and you have already exhausted me.

immersivereader · 29/09/2021 02:28

Can't believe folks are still fussed about cards

owlbethere · 29/09/2021 02:40

YABU. Life for some people is very busy and here to keep on top of. This is the definition of a first world problem.

LukeEvansWife · 29/09/2021 14:37

In the nicest possible way, if a 15 yo (assuming NT) is upset that they haven't received a card on the day and that they may have been forgotten about, then this could be a good time to learn about resilience.

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