Late kids birthday cards!

[Maither113]

I think its bad to give a child a birthday card even a day late unless there's a reasonable excuse like illness, hospital efc as the child thinks they are forgotten about! Both my SILs have done it this year to my 15 year old. I have 7 nieces and nephews and manage all there's on time! Ridiculous.

It's not though, if they actually cared, they would make sure it reached you on your birthday, again one day per year.

Really? Very black and white thinking.

You see - that reads to me that your logic is that they only have one card to think about per year and that's yours. I know you don't mean that exactly, but very few people only have only one birthday card to remember per year, there's usually loads, so it isn't ONE card a year is it? From their point of view i mean.

I care about people AND forget their birthdays some times.

I forget my own wedding anniversary sometimes (7 years) and yet i love my DH more than life itself.

Late cards are late cards, it's tokenistic at best, oops I forgot, here is a late card.

The phrase 'petulant child' springs to mind

@Laiste

It's not though, if they actually cared, they would make sure it reached you on your birthday, again one day per year.

Really? Very black and white thinking.

You see - that reads to me that your logic is that they only have one card to think about per year and that's yours. I know you don't mean that exactly, but very few people only have only one birthday card to remember per year, there's usually loads, so it isn't ONE card a year is it? From their point of view i mean.

I care about people AND forget their birthdays some times.

I forget my own wedding anniversary sometimes (7 years) and yet i love my DH more than life itself.

Missing the point, it's not just me, write your friends/families birthday etc on a calender/phone reminder and send them a bloody card, on time, how hard is that?

Hmm, I’d think well done SIL s for just about remembering when clearly their spouses haven’t?

@LukeEvansWife

Late cards are late cards, it's tokenistic at best, oops I forgot, here is a late card.

The phrase 'petulant child' springs to mind

Nothing petulant about it, they expect a card, why can't I?

I honestly feel you are the one losing out if you really feel that if someone doesn't get you a card on the day that they ... what? ... don't love you or care enough ?

@Maither113

Thanks for all your advice. First up the teen hasn't even commented so they could and probably are resilient. This was me ranting! I worried that the teen would think they weren't important enough to get card on time. It's usually money in card so yes they probably don't care about actual card . My issue is I would like my child treated the way I treat my nephews and nieces. Crying out loud its 1 card, once a year and I manage 7 on time! But you know what I'm glad I asked you all because it made me realise its not that important as long as it gets here (from less than a mile away!). Oh and noone is ill no ambulance or hospital is involved I'm not that unreasonable! Maybe 15 but she's still a child with feelings that I pray were not hurt.

Teach her not to be hurt by such minor things. And maybe teach yourself too.

Nothing petulant about it, they expect a card, why can't I?

The world is going to shit and people are whining about not getting a card which is generally sent only from obligation

Mine wouldn't even notice. TBH, cards are fading from fashion now. A message or FB post has pretty much taken their place these days.

@Laiste

I honestly feel you are the one losing out if you really feel that if someone doesn't get you a card on the day that they ... what? ... don't love you or care enough ?

I'm not losing out in anyway, it's basic life skills, send a birthday card on time, put it in your calender, same as Dr or dentist, school, work meetings. How do you function as a adult?

I'm not losing out in anyway, it's basic life skills, send a birthday card on time, put it in your calender, same as Dr or dentist, school, work meetings. How do you function as a adult?

Omg you are saying you can't function as an adult if you don't send a card on time? Appointments are generally important. Posting a piece of card because someone will throw a tantrum if you don't - not so much

Maybe 15 but she's still a child with feelings that I pray were not hurt.

I'll add her to my church's prayer chain. I hope you will all be able to heal.

A 15 year old "child"

I often keep cards on show till the next birthday/Valentine's/Christmas. I like looking at them.

My mum always sends my cousins card late, up to a week some years. For years. It’s become tradition. My cousin has never minded, it’s a shock when it’s on time now. I don’t think it really matters.

It's basic life skills, send a birthday card on time, put it in your calender, same as Dr or dentist, school, work meetings. How do you function as a adult?

By learning to live with the fact that what should happen and what does happen isn’t always the same thing. That’s another basic ‘life skill’.

@LukeEvansWife

I had someone whine to me that I sent a card a couple of days late to her - i wasn't late again, I just stopped sending theM

Exactly. It's a hassle anyway.

My childrens birthday are in october and December and both get their birthday cards and gifts off of their aunts on boxing day