Late kids birthday cards!

[Maither113]

I think its bad to give a child a birthday card even a day late unless there's a reasonable excuse like illness, hospital efc as the child thinks they are forgotten about! Both my SILs have done it this year to my 15 year old. I have 7 nieces and nephews and manage all there's on time! Ridiculous.

Thanks for all your advice. First up the teen hasn't even commented so they could and probably are resilient. This was me ranting! I worried that the teen would think they weren't important enough to get card on time. It's usually money in card so yes they probably don't care about actual card . My issue is I would like my child treated the way I treat my nephews and nieces. Crying out loud its 1 card, once a year and I manage 7 on time! But you know what I'm glad I asked you all because it made me realise its not that important as long as it gets here (from less than a mile away!). Oh and noone is ill no ambulance or hospital is involved I'm not that unreasonable! Maybe 15 but she's still a child with feelings that I pray were not hurt.

If it's that much of an issue, stop doing it for the others.

She is 15. Is she really going to get hurt if she still gets her money? Because it's the money and not the card, clearly.

What a dramatic follow up comment @Maither113

You pray her feeling weren’t hurt?! Get a bloody grip!

But you know what I'm glad I asked you all because it made me realise its not that important as long as it gets here (from less than a mile away!)

And if it doesn't? If it gets lost or forgotten? Because things do. Is she really going to be so hurt? She's nearly an adult. It would have been better to admit it was about the money not the card though

I think for little children they can be primed to put a lot of value on the day. However I think a 15 year old would have more sense!

Jeez, why would her feelings be hurt by a late card? Ridiculous.

Sometimes my friends and family get a card on time, sometimes it's a couple of weeks later. We're all busy and sometimes cards sit in my bag or my car for ages. It really doesn't matter that much and you should be teaching your kids that it's the thought that counts and a card being late doesn't mean they aren't cared about.

Get over yourself - you’re being utterly ridiculous! The world does not revolve around your child.
(Also, my children love it when their birthday ends up being spread out a bit by late cards or presents from relatives.)

We always wonder what's wrong when Auntie Maggie's cards arrive on time!

If they are less than a mile away then they should knock on your door with the card and wish a happy birthday in person!

I completely forgot my nephew birthday last month. I am a terrible human

Is there money in the card ? If yes, I don't mind when it comes. 😂

I'm with you OP. The point of a birthday is to be remembered, cherished. Not to receive stuff. I find getting presents late really pointless, like it was done out of duty, not because anyone cared or remembered.

Maybe 15 but she's still a child with feelings that I pray were not hurt. she'll be fine unless you've made a massive scene out of it.

I have an August birthday.
Ever sone I can remember, cards and presents have been strung out from July to September.
Gifts from school friends I wouldn't see over the summer holidays; cards sent by people before they went off on holiday or when they got back; cards sent from holiday broad taking weeks to arrive, pwople bringing something to a party held when most people were around...
I knew from an early age that I was not the centre of the universe and that I was lucky (and grateful) people remembered my birthday at all. I would have felt a bit miffed or disappointed if my mum, dad or siblings didn't remember on the day, but no more.

Don’t be so precious, maybe Postman Pat couldn’t get petrol ... seriously, is it that important?

Suspect it’s more of an issue for you not her.

I have ten nieces and nephews. Their cards are frequently late. They don't care and at least I send them. Jeez.

Your kid will be significantly down the list of things other people care about compared to you. A birthday card arriving a day late is hardly the end of the world.

@Notdoingthis

I'm with you OP. The point of a birthday is to be remembered, cherished. Not to receive stuff. I find getting presents late really pointless, like it was done out of duty, not because anyone cared or remembered.

Cherished? Okay then.

But it is about the present. Not the thought. But crack on with the drama, then your DD will feel hurt

We always wonder what's wrong when Auntie Maggie's cards arrive on time!

I am so Auntie Maggie in my family

@Notdoingthis

I'm with you OP. The point of a birthday is to be remembered, cherished. Not to receive stuff. I find getting presents late really pointless, like it was done out of duty, not because anyone cared or remembered.

People getting offended over such things is exactly why they become a duty. You just oblige people even further by being offended if it doesn't turn up on the day. Where's the gratitude for what you receive rather than expectation and entitlement?

And you and your DD cherish her birthday, I'm sure. But don't expect others to do the same

Your DDs birthday isn't the centre of anyone else's world, the way it is yours.
You're making a massive deal out of nothing, honestly with the state of the world at the moment, and everything that's happened the last 18 months, I doubt she gives a shit about a late card. And you shouldn't either.

Goodness. This is one of the most ridiculous threads I've seen in a while. The follow up post didn't really help.

Definitely worse problems in the world op. Be grateful he got a card and they were kind enough to think of him

Have my first OP