DH left me to clear up the sh*t

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I am raging!! My ‘d’ H had to leave early this morning for a job, needs a bit of time to set up so left we’ll in advance. I come down later with the baby to find that the dog has left diarrhoea all over the kitchen, and DH has left without cleaning it up. I had agreed to help him with something for one of his clients tomorrow but now I don’t feel like I want to do it.
He says he didn’t have time and couldn’t find the poop scooper (he refuses to pick up pop with his hands anyway so I have to do it when we go out for walks without the scoop). I don’t buy this as he left plenty of time, could have called me down to help or at least warned me!!!

So AIBU - yes, you should still help him as promised
No- he doesn’t deserve it.

Happy to receive suggestions for other suitable punishments!

I have done similar when I had to get to work and he would be at home but did warn oh first. Most people I would think don't have time to do that before leaving for work.

If we were to put the shoe on the other foot:

Wife expected to pick up shit while husband lies abed and then go off to work

Wife forced to do overtime, or husband refuses to let her engage in hobby

Everyone would be telling her he is abusive and controlling.

My sister's dear friend came out of her house headed to work in a blizzard, heavily pregnant, carrying her daughter only to discover her "D"H had taken her car to the airport and left her with his car and a flare tire. What your husband did, IMO, was worse-he had the fucking time he just thought he was above doing such a menial task! You should've placed a few scoops of the poop in his favorite shoes and denied any knowledge when discovered, but I'm a petty bitch

@EKGEMS

My sister's dear friend came out of her house headed to work in a blizzard, heavily pregnant, carrying her daughter only to discover her "D"H had taken her car to the airport and left her with his car and a flare tire. What your husband did, IMO, was worse-he had the fucking time he just thought he was above doing such a menial task! You should've placed a few scoops of the poop in his favorite shoes and denied any knowledge when discovered, but I'm a petty bitch

Yes you are.

Scooping shit into his shoes? Are you 6? Of course when he treads said shit around the house, I'm sure it will be hilarious

No one likes cleaning up dog poo.
He was way off line . He should have told you and at least helped you clean it up.
You say you both own it, but who bought it ? Who is the owner on the licence and insurance and such. In our case I am the dog owner officially.
Take dog to vets and see if it needs a special diet. A number of dogs do need a special dog food for sensitive guts. And only can have cooked chicken or turkey.
Warn dh and mil that if it is fed otherwise then dh must clean up.
They are not being fair to you.
Leave him with dc and dog and treat yourself to a spa break, even it is only 1 night . He needs to pull his weight and apologise big time.

@LukeEvansWife Do you feel better now that you've typed that? He left the kitchen floor covered in dog feces for his unsuspecting wife! She could've slipped while carrying their baby. I admitted I was being petty when I typed that-maybe you should go lay down if seeing posts like mine are too upsetting for your nerves

[quote EKGEMS]@LukeEvansWife Do you feel better now that you've typed that? He left the kitchen floor covered in dog feces for his unsuspecting wife! She could've slipped while carrying their baby. I admitted I was being petty when I typed that-maybe you should go lay down if seeing posts like mine are too upsetting for your nerves [/quote]
Not upsetting at all. Presumably the OP's nose and eyes work?

"Presumably the OP's nose and eye work" @LukeEvansWife Are you the OP's husband or MIL?

Thanks all for your comments. DH came home suitably contrite, he knew he’d crossed the line. He has been reminded about the no scraps rule, and will chat to MIL next time we visit, although that will be an ongoing battle I think.

Regarding the hobby/overtime, that’s always been his lifestyle although it has calmed down a bit with family obligations- there are aspects of it that enrich all our lives as a family so I take the rough with the smooth.

I honestly don't get this.

It's the OP's dog as well. Why shouldn't she clean it? If I had smart work clothes on and was getting ready to be out the house early doors, I wouldn't be on my hands and knees scrubbing floors either and would leave it for my partner who was SAH. You can't expect someone to go to work stinking of dog shit and zoflora.

But everyone as usual is "raging" and "fuming" and planning "punishments".

@LimitIsUp

I am going to advise my 19 year old dd NEVER to get married to (or indeed live with) a man.

@LimitIsUp

I think it's unfair to tar all men with the same brush

But I'll certainly advise my children to look very carefully at a potential partner's behaviour

Just get rid of the dog, problem solved, and OP will have more time to devote to herself and baby. If DP wants to keep shitty dog he can move elsewhere - and actually do all the dog work himself. That won't last long.

@Redburnett

Just get rid of the dog, problem solved, and OP will have more time to devote to herself and baby. If DP wants to keep shitty dog he can move elsewhere - and actually do all the dog work himself. That won't last long.

If she gets rid of the husband it'll solve the problem too.

Actually yes - get rid of the dog to someone who will actually look after it as neither of you seem to want to