Prince Harry - something bugging me...

[StinkingCold]

Sorry, another Harry thread

Anyway, couple of things have been really bugging me recently...

1. He is getting paid 6 figures to be some advisor of a mental health charity

1. He has had 4 years therapy and is encouraging everyone else to get help like him

Now...here's my gripes!!...

1. What qualifications does he have to earn this salary as a mental health advisor?????? I've worked in mental health over 20 years, have an undergrad, MSc and Doctorate in a mh field, and have lectured on aspects of MH in my field. Despite my qualifications and experience, I would not consider myself qualified for a 6-figure salaried advisory post on mental health. So with zero qualifications or experience, how the hec does Harry think he is qualified to earn a six figure salary advising on the topic????? It just feels so naive and arrogant.

1. Good for you Harry, having 4 years therapy. Now in the real world, there is not 1 single NHS trust in the entire country likely to offer 4 years of therapy, or even 2, or even 1. Very difficult to even access 6 months or 3 months. Even for people who really really need it. I'm talking high risk, or whose functioning is severely impacted by their mental.health. The reality when you "seek help" for you mental health is a massive wait list followed by 6 sessions of guided self help over the phone. If you are really 'lucky' you might also be allowed to attend a short group programme of 6 sessions, maybe 12, probably on zoom. If you miss a couple.of appointments because you didn't get the letter, or phone was broken, or you were simply too unwell to get to your appointments, you'll probably lose the offer of the group or guided self help. If you have endured long and complex, multiple trauma, are self harming frequently, and drinking alot and overdosing - you might get offered 12 or 24 sessions of (probably group, maybe online only) DBT - but only if you really beg and show you are very very keen and won't miss any sessions. For most people, there is simply nothing. Maybe a referral to a charity for 4 sessions of counselling.

What planet are you on Harry. I wish wish wish you would realise how privileged you are to indulge yourself in 4 years of therapy, and that you could recognise your privilege. Wouldn't it be great if you could use you power and privilege to actually change the mental health system (in the UK) and advocate for more availability of therapeutic services, and maybe even donate large sums of cash to making therapy more available and accessible to the masses. I don't want to hear anymore about how therapy changed you, opened your eyes etc... Most of us simply.cant afford to go private, and the NHS is at breaking point and can't offer what is needed

[KloppsTeeth]

YANBU. You’re absolutely right. He can afford to not be paid for the “PR” if he wishes to champion the cause. He really needs some intervention.

[Redredwiney]

Here we go again. Do you not have anything else going on in your life that you have to obsess about Prince Harry?

And the crap about Meghan wearing an expensive suit…didn’t realise the royals rocked up in jeans and trainers from Primark when they attended events and meetings with people from disadvantaged backgrounds.

Seriously everyone, get a life and stop being sheep that get worked up with the British toerag media’s obsession about them. Go read a book.

[MsHedgehog]

How is this any different to when celebrities are paid hundreds of thousands to endorse brands? Harry is the face of a brand, this is exactly the same.

[MsHedgehog]

Seriously everyone, get a life and stop being sheep that get worked up with the British toerag media’s obsession about them. Go read a book

This. A thousand times.

Why do people get so worked up about them?

[Porridgealert]

Because he has a qualification that you don't have, op. His grandmother's the Queen.

[Mamanyt]

It rather depends on what he's being paid to advise on...there are advisors and there are advisors. Some advisors work in a quite specific capacity, in a very narrow purview. I'd need more details on what his exact "advisory" position is to give a real opinion.

[Theythinkitsalloveritisnow]

@C8H10N4O2 how is he supporting things "on his own dollar"? He doesn't seem to do anything for free as far as I can tell. And no, I'm not a fan of any of the royal family, but Harry really fucking annoys me with the constant lecturing. No-one needs to be told to reach out for help, thousands of people know full well that there is no help.

[VladmirsPoutine]

@MsHedgehog

Seriously everyone, get a life and stop being sheep that get worked up with the British toerag media’s obsession about them. Go read a book

This. A thousand times.

Why do people get so worked up about them?

It really is a mystery isn't it.

[Theythinkitsalloveritisnow]

@VladmirsPoutine people get upset because they are paying for the royal family and expect them to do their job i.e shake hands with foreign dignitaries and keep their mouths shut.

[MsHedgehog]

@Theythinkitsalloveritisnow Did you miss the part where he’s no longer a senior royal?

[TILFA]

@MsHedgehog

Seriously everyone, get a life and stop being sheep that get worked up with the British toerag media’s obsession about them. Go read a book

This. A thousand times.

Why do people get so worked up about them?

Maybe if you were suicidal and unab
le to access help you may understand.

[Monty27]

He's a forefront figure of a mental health charity using his ancestry as a CV
Oh the irony

[MsHedgehog]

@Theythinkitsalloveritisnow And don’t William and Kate do the exact opposite to what you suggest? William talks about mental health too, and Kate talks about how hard it is to be a mum.

[WTF475878237NC]

Longer term therapeutic input is available in some areas of the UK. If you do a FOI request for all the CMHTs you'll see a fair few have long term patients on the caseload OP, with some accessing psychosocial interventions for 2+ years. You could also read the latest report from the NHS Benchmarking Service.

Anyone thinking you'd have max eight sessions, unless you're a member of the Royal family, that's not universally the case. You should be offered stepped care. Please don't be put off seeking support.

[MsHedgehog]

@TILFA I have been suicidal, and very close to going through it. Is that qualified enough for you?

Surely it’s a good thing big names are talking about how important it is to get help when you’re struggling…

[Theythinkitsalloveritisnow]

[quote MsHedgehog]@Theythinkitsalloveritisnow Did you miss the part where he’s no longer a senior royal?[/quote]
Possibly, I try to avoid reading about him as much as possible, it's bad for my mental health. He may no longer be a senior member of the royal family (whatever the fuck that means) but he's basing his entire living on the fact that was a royal. I'll leave the forelock tugging to you, not my thing

[MsHedgehog]

@Theythinkitsalloveritisnow

I'll leave the forelock tugging to you, not my thing

So why even engage in the topic then and respond to specific posts…? That makes sense!

[PlusCaNameChange]

YABU. Harry is great. He got himself and his family out of a horrible situation and is working to be financially secure and as well as doing something positive with his life. He's not to blame for the fact that it's difficult to access help. Government funding in the UK is the issue, not one individual who lives in the US and is helping to bring public awareness to mental health.

All the resentment over here reflects pretty poorly on us as a nation IMO - why do we have this need to snipe from the sidelines? Just let him be. He hasn't hurt you.

[Theythinkitsalloveritisnow]

[quote MsHedgehog]@Theythinkitsalloveritisnow

I'll leave the forelock tugging to you, not my thing

So why even engage in the topic then and respond to specific posts…? That makes sense![/quote]
What do you mean? Because I'm not a fan of the royal family I shouldn't have an opinion about them?

[ForgedInFire]

YANBU and I'm sick of celebrities raising "awareness" of mental health. There is enough awareness and not enough treatment to go around. I posted a few weeks ago about losing my partner to suicide- he was on a long waiting list for counselling that he never managed to access. I have been unable to access grief counselling despite self-referring and pursuing it. I'm lost somewhere in the system. I'm glad Prince Harry is able to fund himself 4 years of therapy but I can't even get help after finding my partner dead. The system is broken.

[NCBlossom]

It’s just the world. I honestly wouldn’t blame him. Obviously it’s really annoying he’s not doing this for free.

However he can bring in millions for a charity. Just be standing around. That’s it.

He also does stand as someone who although rich, lost his mum as a boy. That’s no small thing and people relate to that.

[Plumtree391]

It's important that high profile people raise awareness of mental health problems. The public notice it more than they would if someone, like me for example, talked about it. It's the same with charities (Mind being one of them).

I'm so sorry about your partner. Cruse will help you, get in touch with them, they are excellent.
www.cruse.org.uk/

[WhoIsPepeSilva]

He was "too ashamed" to access MH for his wife too according to himself. Excellent advisor there

Definitely more about his celeb status than anything else.

[WhoIsPepeSilva]

*services was the missing word there sorry.

[TooBigForMyBoots]

1. What qualifications does he have to earn this salary as a mental health advisor??????
He is not a mental health advisor. He is a charity operator.

2. Good for you Harry, having 4 years therapy. Now in the real world, there is not 1 single NHS trust in the entire country likely to offer 4 years of therapy, or even 2, or even 1. Very difficult to even access 6 months or 3 months. Even for people who really really need it.
That's not his fault. Rich people have access to much better healthcare within and without the NHS.🤷‍♀️

If Harry pisses you off so much, give him a swerve. He's not necessary in your life @StinkingCold. You can ignore him without consequence. He makes you sad and mad but you can avoid him easily and save yourself the grief and negativity.