I hate my neighbours

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They’ve been here over 6/7 years. Kids all similar age to ours, with a new baby now.

At first I was happy that there was a family next to us with kids similar ages. Then slowly they started getting annoying. I’m listing the worse stuff below, but there’s so much more:

1. Kids and husband/wife looking out their window into our garden everytime we’re out playing cricket, or me mowing the lawn. This year I thought I’d train with my son in the evening when it’s darker, but even then I could see their curtains twitching watching me run.
2. Front curtains twitching everytime dh or me go out or come back home from somewhere. Or kids running out and asking my kids where we’re going 🙄.
3. 2 years ago, expecting me to pick up her kids from school (they go to another school) and keep them at home until she got home from work 🙄.
4. Making weird comments about whether we cook loads of food for certain events and telling me its a bit gluttonous cooking loads. (We’re not fat or unhealthy and ill cook whatever the fuck I want)
5. Not even giving me condolences when my dad passed away last year, not asking how I was coping, but messaging me a few days ago, after a year of no contact asking me to tell her where I brought my side window from, and demanded I tell her contact details of the provider of the window (wtf).

Sorry for long list. There’s so much more. I hate them so much. I needed to let that out.

Op you don't sound like the friendliest person alive why so touchy about the window question

They hardly sound like the neighbours from hell...
Mildly annoying at best.

When I see her scurry out for the morning with her litter picker and belt stuffed with bin bags, I can't help roll my eyes. There's no litter where we live in a small village, I think she likes being seen to do good. I know I'm out of order but it irritates me.
Why the fuck would that even register with you?! Get on with your own life, just like she appears to be doing.

@GreyhoundG1rl

When I see her scurry out for the morning with her litter picker and belt stuffed with bin bags, I can't help roll my eyes. There's no litter where we live in a small village, I think she likes being seen to do good. I know I'm out of order but it irritates me. Why the fuck would that even register with you?! Get on with your own life, just like she appears to be doing.

THIS

@GreyhoundG1rl

When I see her scurry out for the morning with her litter picker and belt stuffed with bin bags, I can't help roll my eyes. There's no litter where we live in a small village, I think she likes being seen to do good. I know I'm out of order but it irritates me. Why the fuck would that even register with you?! Get on with your own life, just like she appears to be doing.

Like I said, I know I'm out of order but sometimes people irrationally grate on you. Bit like you're grating on me.

Yeah, I'm getting the impression most things grate on you...
Sad.

You sound a bit grated yourself

@GreyhoundG1rl

Yeah, I'm getting the impression most things grate on you... Sad.

I thought that!

@Mistressofnone

You sound a bit grated yourself

That doesn't even make sense!

I have had neighbours like you. They had such an inflated sense of self importance that they couldn't fathom we were not remotely interested in their comings and goings, so they stepped up their weird PA behaviour like waving.

HATE is a very strong word and makes you sound a bit unhinged.

Did they really call you gluttonous? That is really offensive, I agree!!!

The first two items: could be a bit annoying, but I do wonder whether they were looking specifically at you, or just watching the world go by. And it's not as if mowing the lawn or playing cricket are super-private activities!

Asking you to look after their kids: if they just automatically expected you to do it regularly, that's rather cheeky! But if it was once, in a crisis, and they asked as a favour, I don't think it's something to hold against them.

As regards no.5: not only would I not find that upsetting; I would find the opposite upsetting. I hate to be asked 'how I'm coping' with a bereavement, by people whom I hardly know.. I would find that MUCH more nosy and intrusive than someone looking at me on the lawn.

Apparently the OP didn't want to talk about it so she started a thread

@LukeEvansWife

Always the way when an OP starts a thread and finds that they’re not getting the responses they were hoping for.

@LukeEvansWife

Apparently the OP didn't want to talk about it so she started a thread

😂

You are thinking far too much about your neighbours. Focus on something else. I think if you decide to train in your garden you have to brazen it out. There are at least 6 houses who could peak at me, and I think I'd expect to be a source of humour/entertainment until they got bored.