Ridiculous name for baby

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My step son and gf have recently called their newborn a really awful pretentious name. I know it’s their choice but neither me nor my husband can bring ourselves to say it in a sentence. Every time we talk about him we say ‘the baby’ or the ‘little one’. We have been very diplomatic and said things like ‘ oh that’s unusual’ but they have started to notice we don’t use his name in conversation and it’s becoming tense.

Any advice on how to move forward?

@VippingQ is Fawn unusual? I've known 2 Fawns (both girls) one was in my year at school (I'm 30 now) and one in my sisters year at school (shes 10). Never thought it particularly worth gasping at. It's a ranked name I believe.

Well clicking on this thread was a waste of time, it’s missing the only piece of crucial information.

It’s Shithead isn’t it?
TBH you have a point.

Couple of years ago I was in my doctor's waiting room. There was a middle aged bloke there, then a young couple came in with a baby. They got chatting and he asked the baby's name. I can't remember what it was, but it was something akin to Zephyrus. The bloke laughed and we all stared at him. Then he said, "Sorry, just thought you were having a laugh."

Call the baby by its name FFS!

Is it Puffin? Viper? Hawk?

I'm with the OP, my brother gave one of his children an awful name, my mother other siblings,OH and I all hated it.

Now, 4 years later, I go out of my way to avoid saying it if out together in public places.
I still cringe every time I hear my brother say it. Oddly enough it sounds a little bit less cringe when the mother says it.

I won't be putting the name on here.

"Any advice on how to move forward?"

Just place marking as I'm invested now and want to know the name

I'm guessing Rebel, River, Rain or maybe Cash. Maverick?

There was a boy called Matrix in my class a few years ago.

I never called him by his name apart from the register.

Just couldn't do it.

Come on OP, the rules of Mumsnet state you HAVE to tell us the name so we can decide if YABU!

One good piece of advice about moving forward is to resist the demands to put the name on here. MN isn't as anonymous as you may think.

It’s Brick isn’t it?

Come on! I've scrolled all the way down this thread & you haven't mentioned the name

Bloody first world problem not saying a baby's name because it makes you cringe. If you were part of my family I'd be going very low contact. My name is a word not an actual name name. Luckily my extended family weren't dicks about my parents' choice! Who knows if they cringe when they say it? More to the point who cares?

Not your baby. If you want to have a relationship with the baby, you’ve to say the name.

Ear wax haha . Waxy?

Every name is by definition a noun, though. Do you mean it's a pretentious word for an everyday object or concept and not traditionally used as a name - like Satchel, Credenza, Aficianado, Coiffure, Verbiage, Entity, Cummerbund...?

Anyway, ya gotta get used to it!

What would you do if you met some one with that name who didn't happen to be your grandchild? Would you be fine about saying it then - I would guess the answer is yes. It is because you feel the name is silly, you are slightly embarrassed, you worry about what other people will think when you tell them his name as you somehow think it is a reflection of you.

But it isn't about you - it is about a little boy and his parents choice - they chose a name they love (for whatever reason) for the little person they love most in the world. It's not your business to disparage that choice.

I've taught loads of children with names I wouldn't have picked for my own children, but they are small people and their name is their identity, part of them if you criticise it you are hurting that child. Often the name however unusual it may be just suits that child and stops being unusual at all - it just becomes part of them.

So pull yourselves together, embrace the wonderful fact that you have a new little person in your life to adore, who will enrich your life and bring you huge joy. And just use his name.

My mother was weird about my daughter's name. ( Foreign spouse here). Not only is it an old and established name and not a million miles from its English equivalent, it was actually the foreign version of the name of the road I grew up in! 🤣

When she mentioned it to a colleague in tones of incredulity, said colleague immediately said, "Oh, I love that name!". DM said, "I've never heard of it". Tbh it did feel rude and showed up her limitations. ☹️ But she got used to it and our favoured shortening of it, and adored her granddaughter.

Hero??' Come on tell us.

i think it`s Moon or Forrest

I think its a copy of a Kardashian name, like Saint, True or Stormi

A friend gave her baby an unusual name that they had no cultural link too, but also decided that no one would be able to pronounce it properly so made up another spelling that they thought would be easier to pronounce phonetically. It wasn’t .

They got angry when people got either of the versions wrong, but managed to ignore the discomfort of some other people in our circle whose culture the name had come from.

We defaulted to ‘little one’ and ‘baby’.

I think op has done a runner 🤣🤣🤣

I fully understand OP. My DSGS has a terrible name. It's a place name. I was embarrassed when people asked his name. I still cringe now, it's that bad.