A hill Im willing to die on. A saying that needs to end.

[CurlyWurly321]

AIBU?

I don't know. Why?

Yes, i don't really get it. Is it a bit PA? Not sure but I've never used the expression and never heard it except on here.

My own least favourites are

'It is what it is'
and
'You do you'

It serves a purpose on mn.

I do use 'It is what it is' at work, but only sparingly so hopefully it conveys what I really mean which 'I'm incredibly pissed off/disappointed/you fucked up but I can't say so not change the outcome hence we're stuck here'.

I hate “each to their own” and, not a saying, I know, but the mindless parroting of “whatever happened to be kind?”

Omg I thought you were saying that 'AIBU' really needs to end and that's a hill you're willing to die on 😂

@Sparklingbrook

Yes, i don't really get it. Is it a bit PA? Not sure but I've never used the expression and never heard it except on here.

My own least favourites are

'It is what it is'
and
'You do you'

I agree with op and with this, they bug me so much!

@Sparklingbrook

Yes, i don't really get it. Is it a bit PA? Not sure but I've never used the expression and never heard it except on here.

My own least favourites are

'It is what it is'
and
'You do you'

I hate those sayings as well.

My husband went through a phase of answering all conundrums or issues with "it is what it is".

As though that sorted the situation. Really bloody annoyingz

What does it mean?

Does it mean your willing to die on that hill because you believe it so much?

DH is a huge fan of 'It is what it is' which usually means 'Sparkling just STFU going on about something you can't do anything about' Presumably he doesn't want to help me think of any solutions at that point.

Devil's advocate.
Exh's favourite expression..
Made me want to rip his head off...

It's a bit like 'choose your battles' isn't it? You're saying this is a battle I will choose and fight to the death (figuratively). I don't really see why it 'needs to go'.

I use 'it is what it is' at work. I think it quite accurately describes a lot of work situations where you don't have a lot of control and you have to find a solution anyway accepting limitations.

I'd like "hold their feet to the fire" to go.

@purplemunkey

It's a bit like 'choose your battles' isn't it? You're saying this is a battle I will choose and fight to the death (figuratively). I don't really see why it 'needs to go'.

I use 'it is what it is' at work. I think it quite accurately describes a lot of work situations where you don't have a lot of control and you have to find a solution anyway accepting limitations.

Choose your battles and the "hill I'm willing to die on" definitely aren't meaning the same thing.

Choose your battles is at least good advice/a reminder when things are tough/something to keep you level headed over an issue.

@AGreenerShadeofKale

I'd like "hold their feet to the fire" to go.

I've never heard this one, what does it mean?

I have a friend who has taken up "There you go". it is virtually every other sentence, and makes me unreasonably enraged.

I don't mind it too much, but I'd only use it in the negative.

I've heard "talking ten to the dozen" recently. Very slowly I presume!

I like it as a phrase. I think it's useful if used sparingly. I've probably only needed to use it once. I find it more evocative than lines in sand and deal breakers for example.

@CurlyWurly321 Is this really a hill you're willing to die on?

It is shit and if someone used it in real life you'd know they're an MNer!

Keep up the pressure on someone you find disagreeable to get the desired results.
It was favoured for a while by Nicola Sturgeon, and made me wince every time, but I've heard others use it.

It has the definite air of religious persecution.

I quite like it - it means this is something that’s so important to me that I’m not prepared to back down on it I think. A bit like a line in the sand.

I use ‘it is what it is’ a lot as a shorthand way of saying ‘this is what we have to deal with - it might not be what we’d hoped for but it’s what we’re dealing with so let’s crack on and get through it without complaining or overanalysing’.

'A Hill Im Willing To Die On' is just another of waying that something is your line in the sand and you wont accept anything beyond that. I think it is a very principled thing to say/think but whether any of us would be prepared to carry it through remains to be seen.

Actually finding it annoying that people can’t put quotes around that part of the title is a hill I’m willing to die in

Choose your battles and the "hill I'm willing to die on" definitely aren't meaning the same thing

They're opposites really. 'Pick your battles' means that some things aren''t important enough to make a stand on. 'The hill you're willing to die on' means that the issue is important enough for you to defend your position to the death.

"Quotation marks" surely?

It isn't a hill I'm willing to die on though, because it seems to have become endemic, like using "invite" as a noun.

I don't think it's a Mumsnet phrase, it's been around for years. I've heard people who are definitely not MNers using it in real life. I don't use it but I don't mind it.

I am quite fond of "it is what it is" and "well, it is and it isn't" but only because my DH cannot stand either of them and so when he's annoying me I'll say them to him. I never use those phrases otherwise.

@PolkadotsAndMoonbeams - talking ten to the dozen means talking really quickly.