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A hill Im willing to die on. A saying that needs to end.

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CurlyWurly321 · 19/09/2021 14:54

AIBU?

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SirChenjins · 20/09/2021 09:06

@exitfreedom

* One I don't understand is regional, I think. Someone offers someone something - e.g. a cup of tea, and they reply 'No, you're all right.' Why isn't it I'm all right?* Just means no you’re ok, no need to trouble yourself, put yourself to any bother etc. When I have said it anyway.
That’s what I mean too when I say it - the emphasis is on the other person and not wanting them to go to any bother because I’m fine, no cup of tea is required.
Whitefire · 20/09/2021 09:09

@Lex345

"Living my best life" confuses me

Well of course you are, everyone is Confused

I've only seen in used in a sarcastic manner, so having to do something you really don't want to do.

I've used "It is what it is" when it is something out of my control, maybe around relatives babysitting so one can go out, I have no one that can, so I can't go out, I can't change that "it is what it is."

But "you sound like hard work" is awful and just used really offensively on here, if anyone is upset about anything they are immediately hard work.

exitfreedom · 20/09/2021 09:10

I think the expression ‘hill to die on’ is usually used on mn to imply that someone is taking a disagreement too far for something quite trivial.
So it’s a bit of a passive aggressive way of belittling someone’s argument and shutting it down.

NoSquirrels · 20/09/2021 09:13

[quote TyneTeas]I know it isn't the point of the thread at all, but this about picking and choosing your battles is quite good Grin

thebloggess.com/2011/06/21/and-thats-why-you-should-learn-to-pick-your-battles/amp/[/quote]
That’s awesome - thanks! Grin

AngelaChasesBestLife · 20/09/2021 09:15

People answering whatever you've just said with "bless," or "bless you," gives me a feeling of unstoppable rage. It's so banal, saccharine and vapid. It's like that can't think of something intelligent to say in return that would signal they'd actively listened to what you just said.

That and "if you see what I mean." Usually said by people who don't explain themselves very well or don't have confidence in what they've just said.

The excreable "needs gone."

"You do you " is also gross.

TheFoundations · 20/09/2021 09:15

My husband went through a phase of answering all conundrums or issues with "it is what it is

As though that sorted the situation

It often does, unless you're determined to be pissed off. As you seem to be.

MinesAPintOfTea · 20/09/2021 09:16

“To be honest...” was something xh used all the time. Irritated me no end: are you not being honest the rest of the time??

Worse, I then found myself saying it

SirChenjins · 20/09/2021 09:28

But "you sound like hard work" is awful and just used really offensively on here, if anyone is upset about anything they are immediately hard work

Oh YY to this. The vast majority of the time the OP doesn’t sound like hard work at all - while the person who says it otoh sounds like a dick who seems to get some twisted pleasure out of putting others down.

Wineandroses3 · 20/09/2021 09:48

The one I don’t like is when you ask someone how they are they say “I’m good” my teenage nieces say it and it just grates on me, it’s not 1989 and we are not on the set of Saved by the bell 😆 The one that I absolutely hate is all the Huns on Facebook who say “you’ve got this babe”🤮 Or even worse “you got this”. Oh please, they make me cringe. Finally, the use of the word “hubby” find that mildly irritating, particularly grating when a man uses it to refer to himself.

GammyLeg · 20/09/2021 09:53

Someone beat me to it with "nonplussed". It doesn't mean what most people using it think it means!

Wineandroses3 · 20/09/2021 09:59

@exitfreedom

* One I don't understand is regional, I think. Someone offers someone something - e.g. a cup of tea, and they reply 'No, you're all right.' Why isn't it I'm all right?* Just means no you’re ok, no need to trouble yourself, put yourself to any bother etc. When I have said it anyway.
Oh God this is me! If I don’t want a tea I say I’m alright thanks 😊 I’m just going to say “no, thanks” from now on 😆😆😆
Wineandroses3 · 20/09/2021 10:00

A woman i used to work with , one of those that was good in meetings, all talk but did absolutely no work of any substance always used to say in meetings was “don’t throw the baby out with the bath water” I can’t remember thinking what the hell does that actually mean! I get it now I think!…but she used to say it all the time!

SirChenjins · 20/09/2021 10:05

‘Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water’ means don’t be too quick to get rid of something bad in case you get rid of something good too. Did she ever offer solutions as to how you could keep the good things?!

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 20/09/2021 10:18

I don't like 'I'm not being funny but'. So you are being funny then.

Wineandroses3 · 20/09/2021 10:36

@SirChenjins

‘Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water’ means don’t be too quick to get rid of something bad in case you get rid of something good too. Did she ever offer solutions as to how you could keep the good things?!
No never offered solutions, just attended the same monthly meetings which were taking shops, this was local authority in the mid 90s, full of lingo and expressions like this but never actually did anything to make change happen, all talk.
EmeraldShamrock · 20/09/2021 10:53

I like it.
I haven't used it yet - I haven't found a hill worth dying on.

Macncheeseballs · 20/09/2021 11:41

I hope you don't

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