A hill Im willing to die on. A saying that needs to end.

[CurlyWurly321]

AIBU?

I find ‘ a hill to die on’ quite useful in decision making and in justifying my decision making.

I use ‘ there we are then’ ( TWAT) quite a lot . It is very PA but also useful when you are forced to be polite towards someone

The only posters on MN I hear saying it (hills and dying) tend to be wrong about the reason they're prepared to sacrifice themselves.
Which is quite funny.

Most of these were fine when used sparingly. They've all become overused recently I think, particularly online.

Ooh, didn't know about There We Are Then.

Definitely using that!

Has anyone mentioned the over-use of bloody "conflating" at the moment?

I loathe "ducks in a row" if we're nominating sayings for Room 101.

I say "it's what it is", but rarely.

When a situation is past words, and I can't do anything to stop it, and just have to live through a shit show.

A modern internetty one I like to use tongue in cheek is "crushing my goals."
It's so over the top I love it.

I always thought it referred to the crucifixion, I'm delighted it might have another meaning and I'm ok with it now.

'Grabby' on every inheritance threat is really annoying.

There was a line in Eastenders where the character (Grey , nasty bully murderer wife abuser lawyer) says to his Father (in hospice) something like
"I hope you find Peace .....quickly (or soon) " something like that .

Sugar coated "off you pop then an' die"

@AGreenerShadeofKale

Keep up the pressure on someone you find disagreeable to get the desired results. It was favoured for a while by Nicola Sturgeon, and made me wince every time, but I've heard others use it.

It has the definite air of religious persecution.

I came across an account of someone being tortured this way in a history of the Reformation or one of Norman Cohn's books (it's so horrific I'm not going to google it for a reminder where!) and I really hate the way the phrase is used so casually these days.

That'd be thread not threat.

Exactly IvyTwines.

These threads always make me realise why so many people have anxiety in social situations. Whatever you say will offend someone. People have phrases they use and sometimes they catch on and become a bit over used but it’s hardly worth getting worked up about. I quite like “it is what it is” as it’s a clear reminder that some things are just how they are and you can’t necessarily control them so have to accept it. The hill one isn’t one I use but I’ve rarely heard it in rl and don’t have any strong opinion other than it’s a well known and understood phrase.

I don't think any of these sayings should go, people all express themselves differently and should be able to, without the fear of annoying others.

I won't argue though, as this is just not a hill I'm willing to die on

Nor will I hold your feet to the fire for it summercupcake.🦶🔥

It's actually I dont have a horse in this race or a dog in this fight.

'At the end of the day'.
'Singing from the same hymn sheet'.
'I've been been tasked with/I am actioning' etc...

They can all fuck off.

I've only ever heard the opposite..its not a hill I'm willing to die on..and i use it this way when I mean I would like something to happen but it if it doesn't that's ok..

You do you ..is condescending and makes me want to slap the person who said it.

It is what it is just makes me think the person doesn't want to work on a solution or even empathise. It's a cop out phrase

@PolkadotsAndMoonbeams

talking ten to the dozen means talking really quickly

That makes no sense though! Or at least not to me, who grew up with the phrase "talking nineteen to the dozen". Ten to the dozen wouldn't be nearly as fast...

I agree, the saying is definitely "nineteen to the dozen".

Can you add 'thems the rules' and 'ducks in a row' to the list?

I do hate ‘you have a nice day!’ when it’s obvious they don’t want you to have a nice day - in fact, they want you to have the worst day ever, preferably involving the plague, pestilence and a few buboes thrown in for good measure.

@Brollywasntneededafterall is your ex husband named Dave? Met a Dave once who overused that phrase to infuriating levels! Managed to somehow use it every seminar. It apparently wasn't possible to simply raise an alternative viewpoint during a discussion without using it. Boiled my piss by the end of the year!

'Not my circus, not my monkeys' . Liked it at first but then got over used.

Interesting.

I presumed the hill reference was the crucifixion of Christ, dying on the hill for his beliefs, and therefore the OP’s objection would be on grounds of tastelessness / blasphemy.