AIBU to object to my DH going away for the weekend to an men only party where there is definitely going to be excess and women even if he says he won't partake?

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he's shown me the messages about it and feels that if he's being open and if he gives assurances that he won't indulge then it should be ok. The messages are a thread for days of men in their fifties using sex and drugs emojis and pictures of naked women. I'm basically being told that I should trust and that it's all my problem.

No . Wouldn't worry one jot.

If he were the sort to cheat then he would've done it before a rare weekend away.

Trust him and don't give it a second thought.

Don't trust him .. your relationship is fucked.. regardless of this weekend away...

Personally, I would be tipping off the other wives. But I am petty like that.

If he's never partaken or done the weekends away before, alarm bells would be ringing for me now about why after all of this time he now wants to go for the weekend away.