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If you discovered your child was not your child....

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Orangejuicemarathoner · 15/09/2021 18:48

How would it affect you as a mother?

I'm asking, because of the recent experience of a (male) cousin - just having been informed by his ex that he is not the biological father of his daughter.- confirmed by DNA

He is now expected to turn his back and walk away from the child he has thought was is own for 8 years.

He isn't going to do that, and is still fighting for joint custody.

I know it is so much more unlikely for a mother to be told that, but not completely impossible, particularly with the wrong egg/fertility treatment scenario

But I've always thought it would be upsetting, of course, and leave a lot of questions that needed answering, but would not fundamentally change anything in our relationship.

I would not love my child any less, they would still be the child I had loved and raised for years.

Surely most women would feel that, so why is the expectation different for men?

YANBU- finding out I am not the biological parent of my child would not change my love for them

YABU- finding out I am not the biological parent of my child would change my love for them

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Orangejuicemarathoner · 16/09/2021 21:08

Thats so sad, your poor DH

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Standrewsschool · 16/09/2021 21:38

@Mcmuffinmonster

That’s really sad.

MimiDaisy11 · 16/09/2021 21:47

@Mcmuffinmonster Your poor husband.

I really feel for the children in these situations. It must be so tough.

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