Leftover meat for sandwiches tomorrow, will school really care?

[ChickenSandwichYum]

7yo DD, year 3.

I don’t get paid until tomorrow, have about 40p to my name until then. Won't have time to do a shop before school. I have bread, butter, chocolate, fruit and juice for lunchboxes. The only filling I have is leftover chicken or tuna from the roast I did today.

I usually cook up a big chicken for the two of us and then use the leftovers in curries or for my own sandwiches over the next week.

When I was with ExH he would forbid me from putting leftover meat on sandwiches for DDs lunchbox (she was at Nursery at the time). Said it would make the Nursery (and probably now school) think we’re poor and common. He said it shows we can’t feed our child properly – it was fine to put the sliced sandwich chicken or sandwich ham or cheese, but tuna, leftover meat/poultry or egg where not allowed.

DD happily eats chicken (or pork or beef) sandwiches after school on the days she has a hot lunch, so I don’t see this as any different.

So will school really think badly of me as a parent for putting leftover meat in a sandwich for her? I doubt myself a lot and making lunch box tonight for tomorrow could hear him in my head telling me I was disgusting and setting us up for an investigation by SS (yes ExH was abusive and violent).

I want a leftover roast sandwich now. Crusty bread, meat, roast potatoes, and gravy to dip it in!

Hope your wee one enjoys her awesome chicken sandwich.

Lunch box needs :

Protein
Carbs
Fruit
Veg
Calcium

So, this could be:

Egg mayo sandwich
Apple
Carrot cut up
Biscuit / bit of cake.

That's super cheap to make and covers all food groups. If the child needs 2 sandwiches that's fine. Or pasta salad : pasta, tuna, mayo, grated carrot.

BikeRunSki
Peanut butter? What's wrong with that? confused
Unless there's a kid with allergies in the class?

^

Think bikeski lives abroad and yup, no peanut butter is allowed in schools here at all (Canada). You can get -'school safe' granola bars I. E. No nuts at all.

Most schools are nut free.

I'm neither poor nor common (I'm not sure what that means exactly) and I pack leftovers in my daughter's lunch sometimes. Why wouldn't you? You made a nice roast, and you should use it all up. Also, how closely are they looking at her sandwiches that they can see that it's leftover roast chicken instead of deli chicken or whatever?!

I live in the UK. I was thinking of nut allergies.

The school won't even notice. They'll be too busy sorting out the child who turned up with cold KFC leftovers again (seriously).

I'm just sitting here with my instant porridge and bruised banana thinking how nice it would be to have a proper roast chicken sandwich from a left over Sunday roast 😋

We are not allowed peanut butter or Nutella in our school at all.

I’m a Teacher, if I saw one of my pupils with leftover roast chicken in their sandwich I’d be very jealous and saying to them how lucky they were as leftover roast chicken sandwiches are my absolute favourite!

Ignore the awful thoughts you’re having from your moronic ex and be confident in you own judgement as a fab Mum.

I had loads of leftover pork from yesterday, so I’ve popped it in DS sandwiches for lunch today thanks to this thread :)

I wouldn’t worry OP :)

Left over chicken is far posher than pre- packed stuff, your ex is insane.

We buy larger than we need chickens/joints etc just so we have leftovers.

Oh a lovely ex-roast sandwich is almost the best bit about a roast!

Your ex is a dick, but you know this already! :)

You have 40p to your name - is this knob paying child maintenance? If not, push for it via CSA.

I’ve been where you are, the early days are tough, trying to shake off that negativity and his fucking narrative in your head

Have you been able to access any kind of talking therapy? Could you? I know there’s a massive wait for NHS counselling, but if you haven’t already requested it, please get yourself on the list

Otherwise woman’s aid/the freedom programme- if you can attend in person it’s more effective and gives you a space to be heard and hear how all of his thinking is bonkers

You’re going to be fine, your dd will grow up in a safe space, and school will be fine about dds yummy lunch

Fwiw…. I really struggled for a few years on my own. Then I met my lovely oh who’s very successful

We eat ‘leftovers’ all the time! I cook a big enough batch of food specifically to make extras that freeze so he can take them to the office for his lunch, or my son if he’s ravenous or if we’re out and not eating dinner.

I make wraps with roast chicken for my ds, I make coronation chicken or ds will make himself chicken egg fried rice.

Left overs save us money and as everyone here says, way healthier than processed food

You know you’re right, you know your instincts are good learn to believe in yourself

You’re free of that knob! Now evict him from your head :)

@MzHz

Oh a lovely ex-roast sandwich is almost the best bit about a roast!

Your ex is a dick, but you know this already! :)

You have 40p to your name - is this knob paying child maintenance? If not, push for it via CSA.

I’ve been where you are, the early days are tough, trying to shake off that negativity and his fucking narrative in your head

Have you been able to access any kind of talking therapy? Could you? I know there’s a massive wait for NHS counselling, but if you haven’t already requested it, please get yourself on the list

Otherwise woman’s aid/the freedom programme- if you can attend in person it’s more effective and gives you a space to be heard and hear how all of his thinking is bonkers

You’re going to be fine, your dd will grow up in a safe space, and school will be fine about dds yummy lunch

Fwiw…. I really struggled for a few years on my own. Then I met my lovely oh who’s very successful

We eat ‘leftovers’ all the time! I cook a big enough batch of food specifically to make extras that freeze so he can take them to the office for his lunch, or my son if he’s ravenous or if we’re out and not eating dinner.

I make wraps with roast chicken for my ds, I make coronation chicken or ds will make himself chicken egg fried rice.

Left overs save us money and as everyone here says, way healthier than processed food

You know you’re right, you know your instincts are good learn to believe in yourself

You’re free of that knob! Now evict him from your head :)

@MzHz

is this knob paying child maintenance? If not, push for it via CSA.

Paying via CMS but he wriggles out of it whenever he can, stops paying just long enough for them to start the process to take it from his wages then pays long enough to get them to stop. He only gives me £30 a month anyway, not even a weeks shopping.

I would usually have more money left over, I do work. But the back to school shop took a lot as she'll only wear logoed uniform, she'd rather freeze and has done than wear none logoed stuff.

Have you been able to access any kind of talking therapy? Could you?

I did the freedom programme and trauma counselling when we first split in 2017.

Your ex is a prick.

Absolutely fine. Your ex is an idiot.

I think if anything it's posher to have leftover "proper" roast chicken from a home cooked Sunday roast, than bought processed meat!

Your ex is a total prick.

What other twattish ideas did he have that you’ve since ignored, or perhaps have actually taken on board?

Your ex is daft

Good for you making him your ex. School more like to make a referral for a child witnessing DV or being emotionally abused. Im really curious about non logoed uniform. Where has she got this notion? Is ex at his work?

@IWentAwayIStayedAway

Good for you making him your ex. School more like to make a referral for a child witnessing DV or being emotionally abused. Im really curious about non logoed uniform. Where has she got this notion? Is ex at his work?

@IWentAwayIStayedAway

Im really curious about non logoed uniform. Where has she got this notion?

We don't know, all her teachers, the class TA (whose a personal friend of mine) and the headteacher have said she doesn't need the logo to her, she's been given uniform without the logo on by school to wear when she's needed clean but she flat out refuses to wear it. She has literally sat in her class room shivering when there's a none logoed jumper in her bag rather than wear it. Her classmates wear a mixture of logoed and none logoed so no idea where the notions come from. I don't wear uniform as such, mines smart casual apart from Fridays when I wear my jeans.

Is ex at his work?

ExH works but I'm 99% certain he does bits on the side either for them or for another firm cash in hand. Proving it is hard though. He wears a uniform for work but it's any tshirt in blue with black trousers sort of uniform.

It's absolutely fine to use left overs. Do you think your DD has been told by your ex that she must only wear logo uniform because otherwise she'll look 'poor'? If he has such strange ideas about leftover food he likely has them about uniform too.

In my house sandwiches made with leftover roast chicken is classed as a treat! There's never enough for all three teens but they love them. Plus they're much better than using the processed stuff.

You don't really need this by now
Hi OP, ex child protection social worker here. Had I received a referral that of a child given home-cooked meat sandwiches to school then I would commend their parent for making their child a nutritious homemade lunch. I’m fact there isn’t a social worker on Earth that would investigate this let alone think it abusive.

As another social worker I just wanted to agree with this.
And also point out that Nigella is always eating left overs and she is perfectly posh enough for most people.
Actually only pretty insecure people would ever think about this.
My dc go to a private school and leftovers are normal there often in Tupperware boxes.

Your ex's insecurities are his own don't give them headspace.