I bought those drinks not him!

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I went to a friend’s party at the weekend and took a bottle of spirits and a mixer.

I was retrieving them from the boot of my car when another party guest, Phil, (not his real name) came over and took both bottles saying “Here, let me.” I closed the boot, hurried after him and caught up just before the door where I said “Ok thanks I’ll take these now” and he didn’t hand them over but just walked in and gave them to the party hosts! Later on one of the hosts said “Oh by the way Phil, thanks for the rum!” and he took the thanks. He turned to me and said “Oh, was it rum? I thought it was wine!”

I’m pissed off. They were not cheap and it looks like I took nothing to the party. I hadn’t the heart to say “Actually I bought those” as it seemed to awkward.

AIBU for being so pissed off?

Urgh. He’s a leech

@Bilingualspingual

This is very similar to an episode of Seinfeld that I’ve never forgotten, where Seinfeld’s new girlfriend takes credit for the sandwich that Elaine bought him from the deli. An ‘I was pissed off, is he always like that?’ text is what I’d do. Don’t let him get away with it!

I opened the thread to see if anyone mentioned this

(It was George's girlfriend taking credit for the Big Salad George bought for Elaine, the superfan in me feels obliged to point out )
One of those situtions SF and Curb do so well, where George/Larry is right but can't say anything without looking incredibly petty.

If I were your friend I'd want to know (and have a good laugh at his ridiculousness together)

I’d just say ‘hi host, great party. Thanks for inviting me. It took me ages to choose that rum, hope you enjoyed it!! xx’

Op did you text? Has Phil been revealed as the massive CF that he is? Will Phil continue his shady behaviour? Will Phil ever get invited anywhere else again. Surprised the Daily Fail aren't all over this one.

"Hi hosts, thanks for the party the other night, I hope you liked the Captain Morgan rum and mixers. I don't know if Phil gave them to you directly after he offered to carry them in for me so if you're wondering who they were from, mystery solved!"

@DrSbaitso

I've been on forums populated mostly by men. They say much worse and they aren't joking.

Oh god yes

I would be very irritated by any passive aggressive messages but would appreciate being told the rum was from you. I'd keep it simple - thanks for the party, it was a great night. I brought the rum, not Phil. He intercepted it on the way in from my car. I hope the house and heads not too wrecked today.

@OhRene

"Hi hosts, thanks for the party the other night, I hope you liked the Captain Morgan rum and mixers. I don't know if Phil gave them to you directly after he offered to carry them in for me so if you're wondering who they were from, mystery solved!"

God I’d cringe so hard if I received this or the other suggestion from a guest. My toes would literally curl. This is between her snd her partner. Going to th host snd claiming credit is just cringe in th extreme.

Stealing someone's party drinks and passing them off as your own offering is cringe in the extreme.

@Janaih

Stealing someone's party drinks and passing them off as your own offering is cringe in the extreme.

Of course. But it’s not a race to the bottom. Him being cringe doesn’t mean she needs to be even more cringe. Th answer is to address it to him.

Th answer is to address it to him.
Maybe op should ask the host for his contact details (since she doesn't know him outside of their mutual friendship with the host).
She could make the request sound less odd by explaining why...

Oh shit sorry I misunderstood, it was a random? Bloody hell then I stand corrected, email the host! I thought it was her boyfriend.🤦🏻‍♀️

Phil needs his credibility shredded. I d go out of my way to tell the hosts, so they know what a creep he is. Why hold back. You were basically ambushed on the street.

@Bluntness100

Oh shit sorry I misunderstood, it was a random? Bloody hell then I stand corrected, email the host! I thought it was her boyfriend.🤦🏻‍♀️

Haha! Oh thank goodness! Your earlier argument that OP should rise above it and not correct this atrocity really made me uncomfortable 😂

If you're not going to speak up for yourself then you deserve it.

I wondered why you said partner 😆

What did you do then OP?