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Original poster

I bought those drinks not him!

118 replies

discusstin · 12/09/2021 19:11

I went to a friend’s party at the weekend and took a bottle of spirits and a mixer.

I was retrieving them from the boot of my car when another party guest, Phil, (not his real name) came over and took both bottles saying “Here, let me.” I closed the boot, hurried after him and caught up just before the door where I said “Ok thanks I’ll take these now” and he didn’t hand them over but just walked in and gave them to the party hosts! Later on one of the hosts said “Oh by the way Phil, thanks for the rum!” and he took the thanks. He turned to me and said “Oh, was it rum? I thought it was wine!”

I’m pissed off. They were not cheap and it looks like I took nothing to the party. I hadn’t the heart to say “Actually I bought those” as it seemed to awkward.

AIBU for being so pissed off?

OP posts:
GreyhoundG1rl · 12/09/2021 20:26

@discusstin

I didn’t need help! He swooped in and grabbed them.
I'll bet that's his party trick. A fiver says the host will tell you he's done it before...
DeborahAnnabel · 12/09/2021 20:31

My god, I’d 100% contact the hosts via WhatsApp and say something along the lines of that you had a great time at the party followed by something like “by the way, really weird but I brought a bottle of rum and (whatever the other bottle was) and Phil grabbed them from me outside then handed them to you and pretended they were from him. Was just so odd 😂! Anyway didn’t want you to think I’d arrived empty handed”

No way would I be letting them think I’d arrived empty handed.

adeleh · 12/09/2021 20:32

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar

Send a text. "Just to let you know that I brought the spirits and mixer, not Phil. Does he have a history of being like that?"
This is what I’d say sothat there is no ambiguity.
WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 12/09/2021 20:33

I'll bet that's his party trick. A fiver says the host will tell you he's done it before...

I'll bet he pulls the CF double wherever he can: hijacks somebody else's contribution, runs in pretending that it was from him and stashes it right at the back - and then drinks what everybody else brought (or the host provided), hopes that 'his' contribution gets overlooked and then 'takes it back home with him' at the end of the evening.

GreyhoundG1rl · 12/09/2021 20:45

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

I'll bet that's his party trick. A fiver says the host will tell you he's done it before...

I'll bet he pulls the CF double wherever he can: hijacks somebody else's contribution, runs in pretending that it was from him and stashes it right at the back - and then drinks what everybody else brought (or the host provided), hopes that 'his' contribution gets overlooked and then 'takes it back home with him' at the end of the evening.

Very possible, there are some shameless bastards out there 😂
StoatMilk · 12/09/2021 20:47

@DeborahAnnabel

My god, I’d 100% contact the hosts via WhatsApp and say something along the lines of that you had a great time at the party followed by something like “by the way, really weird but I brought a bottle of rum and (whatever the other bottle was) and Phil grabbed them from me outside then handed them to you and pretended they were from him. Was just so odd 😂! Anyway didn’t want you to think I’d arrived empty handed”

No way would I be letting them think I’d arrived empty handed.

Good advice
Cocomarine · 12/09/2021 20:50

Totally with @DeborahAnnabel ! Great message. Don’t mess around with it - just say - WTAF was your mate Phil playing at?!!

Eddielzzard · 12/09/2021 21:09

Phil is an arsehole. No way would I let that go. You were kind and gobsmacked at the time, but that's what the Phil's of this world count on. He's practiced, and he'll do it again and again.

Darker · 12/09/2021 21:12

Does ‘Phil’ fancy you?

GreyhoundG1rl · 12/09/2021 21:13

@Darker

Does ‘Phil’ fancy you?
That's a strange take on it.
Darker · 12/09/2021 21:16

I was thinking it might have been an awkward attempt at chumminess gone horribly wrong.

YouJustFoldItIn · 12/09/2021 21:34

Tongue. In. Head.

longtompot · 12/09/2021 21:44

What a CF! I too would be too flabbergasted to say anything at the time. Maybe say to the host I can't believe how cheeky Phil was, saying he brought those drinks when he took them off me out of my car when I arrived! Or something along those lines.

Bluntness100 · 12/09/2021 21:47

God don’t say anything to the host it’s so so cringe. They don’t give a fuck who bought them.

Say to him though. Why did you make it look like you bought the drinks?

Macncheeseballs · 12/09/2021 21:50

He's a twat, but curious about another point, you drove to a party so you didn't drink the rum?

Original poster
discusstin · 12/09/2021 21:53

No I didn’t drink the rum

OP posts:
OneTC · 12/09/2021 21:55

Phil is a complete turd

OneTC · 12/09/2021 21:57

God don’t say anything to the host it’s so so cringe. They don’t give a fuck who bought them.

Say to him though. Why did you make it look like you bought the drinks?

And box his head and ears 👍

GreyhoundG1rl · 12/09/2021 21:59

@Bluntness100

God don’t say anything to the host it’s so so cringe. They don’t give a fuck who bought them.

Say to him though. Why did you make it look like you bought the drinks?

Op only knows Phil as a guest from their parties. She'll only meet him again at the next one Grin What's the harm in them knowing what a charmless dick Phil is?
FudgeFlake · 12/09/2021 22:04

@MadeForThis

Maybe send a message and say that you enjoyed meeting everyone last night. They were all so nice. Phil even carried your drinks in from the car. Love rum at a party!!
Like this. Subtle and elegant and truthful. I'll keep whizzing down the thread though and see if anything even more brilliant is suggested.
Pebbledashery · 12/09/2021 22:06

What a prick. May he eternally shit his pants in every situation where decorum is required. I hope his wife cheats and divorces him and fleeces him.
I could never respect a bloke like that. Snake.

DrSbaitso · 12/09/2021 22:07

@Bluntness100

God don’t say anything to the host it’s so so cringe. They don’t give a fuck who bought them.

Say to him though. Why did you make it look like you bought the drinks?

I'd want to know, purely so I could thank them. I wouldn't mind being set straight at all.
BriocheForBreakfast · 12/09/2021 22:14

Cheeky fucker!!

Email/message the hosts to say thanks and how much you enjoyed the party. Then say glad you liked the rum, I wasn't sure what to bring but thought it would go down well.

Grrrrrrr on your behalf.

Ionlydomassiveones · 12/09/2021 22:16

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Kiduknot · 12/09/2021 22:18

Send one of the jokey texts.