I bought those drinks not him!

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I went to a friend’s party at the weekend and took a bottle of spirits and a mixer.

I was retrieving them from the boot of my car when another party guest, Phil, (not his real name) came over and took both bottles saying “Here, let me.” I closed the boot, hurried after him and caught up just before the door where I said “Ok thanks I’ll take these now” and he didn’t hand them over but just walked in and gave them to the party hosts! Later on one of the hosts said “Oh by the way Phil, thanks for the rum!” and he took the thanks. He turned to me and said “Oh, was it rum? I thought it was wine!”

I’m pissed off. They were not cheap and it looks like I took nothing to the party. I hadn’t the heart to say “Actually I bought those” as it seemed to awkward.

AIBU for being so pissed off?

Suggest you get t shirt printed for next time emblazoned with "I brought the Rum!". That should see Phil off.

Let it go :)
You’d look like an eejit if you bought it up!

@nzeire

Let it go :) You’d look like an eejit if you bought it up!

Rubbish

Who needs help carrying 2 bottles from a car ?

I didn’t need help! He swooped in and grabbed them.

I bet he did that deliberately. Phil sounds exactly like the kind of person who will 'go along and help' when somebody else is getting a round in and tries to claim/make it look like shared paying for the round and not just carrying it back to the table - and dashing back to get the thanks whilst the actual round-buyer is delayed a minute at the till in actually paying for it.

Yeah, I would tell the hosts - and everyone else who would listen!

Then I'll bet he has form for this.

I'd text the host 'glad you liked the rum; here's where I bought it. Is Phil always such a tosser?'

Just send a text saying "hi Host, thanks for a lovely evening at yours. Just wanted to mention that I was the one who bought the rum/mixer. Phil just offered to carry it in. Didn't want to make things awkward at the time when he led you to believe it was from him"

Please text the host op
Don’t let the fucker get away with this

Next time you're attending a party where Phil is in attendance, have a couple of decoy bottles at the front in the boot, which are laced with something really unpleasant (but not dangerous). Phil can grab them from you and dash in to get all the thanks and acknowledgment - then you come in a couple of minutes later with your actual offering (in distinctly different bottles) and hand it over.

He won't end up popular - or ever pull that trick on you again!

This is very similar to an episode of Seinfeld that I’ve never forgotten, where Seinfeld’s new girlfriend takes credit for the sandwich that Elaine bought him from the deli. An ‘I was pissed off, is he always like that?’ text is what I’d do. Don’t let him get away with it!

I'd probably go with takehome's tex

‘Hi host, had a great time at your party, thanks for having me! I was a bit upset that Phil took the credit for the 2 bottles of spirit and mixer I brought with me. Is he always like that?! Anyway, never mind, it was a fun night! Look forward to seeing you soon xx’

I am going to mention it when I see my friend.

Tell them next time you see them, but not as if you are cross about it, but as in :can you believe how cheeky and hilarious! Embellish the bit about him swooping in snd taking the bottles from the car. Laugh.

I bet he has form for this and other similar stories will emerge

We have a CF friend who ALWAYS forgets his wallet, or helps someone carry wine/salad into a party. We are wise to it. He’s the sad petty one, not us

(he’s a banker so not poor, just tight)

My text to the hosts would read in a helpful tone "Does Phil always try to take drinks from other guests arriving at the party then give them to the host so he doesn't appear to be a cheapskate? Does he realise it makes him look worse than turning up with nothing?"

Don't wait - ring them to say thanks for the party, and then ask if Phil socially "normal"as you were really surprised that he hijacked your bottles on the way in and pretended they were from him. You were just asking as you thought it would be good to know in case he needs to be treated in a careful way for his "issues"

Takehome's text is good. Or an alternative:

Does Phil have form for being a bit tight / cheeky? I was dumbstruck when he tried to pass off the rum and mixer I brought as being from him. Anyway, I had a great night, thank you.

@MadeForThis

Maybe send a message and say that you enjoyed meeting everyone last night. They were all so nice. Phil even carried your drinks in from the car. Love rum at a party!!

Actually I normally love a passive aggressive text, but this above is even better. It is so polite. And as they know you - they will get the undertext - that he claimed the credit.

Yes I agree - make it jokey: "thanks for the lovely evening; haha is Phil always like that, grabbing people's offerings off them and handing them to the host!? Must remember to try that myself sometime lol 😄".

Mind you madeforthis's suggestion is also brilliant!

He a CF. But honestly I think you really need to speak up for yourself!

@LagneyandCasey

You should have said you bought it.

Contact the host now and ask if they enjoyed the rum that YOU took.

Absolutely do this. Phil is a bellend.

Why did you "not have the heart" ? Are you 12 speak up for yourself in the future like most adults would