to think that DPs DB and SIL should buy Christmas presents

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For my 2 girls?

To be fair they haven't met them, but we are going to be at DPs parents place together on Christmas night.

DP is unsure as to whether to mention anything to him or just leave it and assume that they will buy something for them. DP has a daughter of his own, and the whole issue came up as they called and asked what size she was for clothes for Christmas.

Help please, not sure what we hould do, and neither is DP

actually deeny I preceeded your comment with the fiver suggestion

and I would almost bet that if they think about it they would be embarrassed to ignore 2 children at a house for christmas . .nobody would do that willingly I am sure .. and if somebody would then quite honestly they're a twat

No has said they would ignore them. We have all said we would buy something if it was us so more than likely the people in question will too. Just not on to ask imv.

My youngest sis's DF has a son by a prev relationship and we all buy for him at Xmas. Sis's DF goes to get him for an hour in the afternoon and he comes to us and we all give him something.

TBH it really is more about them not feeling embarassed, as I said before, all the children will have heaps of stuff. When DPs Mum has been talking about some of the stuff she has got for my DDs as well as DSD I have been embarassed by the amount of stuff she has talked about, but DP insists that they love being generous because they can.

Well then it sounds like it won't be an issue. It is only an issue if you make it into one.

TBH most people would automatically buy something for your DDs if it were them. If they don't then they prob aren't the type to be embarassed by it! And if your DDs say something then you just have to point out that they don't know them.

YABU.

Its up to them.

If they haven't bought anything and are embarrassed they will probably slip your kids some money with the excuse that as they'd not met they didn't know what they would like.

You are likely cause worse embarrassment by saying something. I think I'd be a bit if someone mentioned to me that I should buy presents for their kids whether I'd already planned to or not.

YABU I think. To say that they 'should'. They have no relationship with your DDs - no more than a family friend and whilst it would undoubtedly be nice, it isn't a question of 'should'. I probably would give them a gift but when I had no children I probably wouldn't have thought of it.

D'you know what I think most probably has happened is that they have checked about their niece because they have something specific in mind for her. But they have also bought your DDs a small, generic present as well. And you are worrying about nothing.

Well that is what I would do in those circumstances. But maybe I am wrong?

Then, let the embarrasments be theirs and not yours, IF they dont give anything, and for them to rectify it.

If you, or your dp (it doesnt matter who, you are a unit now) asks, the embarrasement will most certainly be yours, and pretty impossible to rectify.

Stop stressing, most likely your dds wont notice if they dont get anything, and if they do, it is up to you to explain to them the spirit of christmas, they have presents enough, and it is not customary to receive presents from people they dont know.

Thanks ladies, you are right, I will stop stressing about this and wait and see what happens.

Right, off to the loft to see if I can find out where we put the decorations when we moved, does anyone have a torch????