DS2 just punched DS1

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Posting here for traffic really.

DC1 - 15
DC2 - 13
DC3 - 11

All 3 DC playing a computer game together, it degenerated, I intervened and told them to quit the game and so their own things before it escalated. DC2 punched DC1 in the back as he walked out of the room.

I’ve been in and had serious words and said I will be back shortly as went to check on DS1 who is fuming. DC2 is due to go out and meet his friends today which on any other day after this behaviour I would say he cannot go, however I am out this afternoon until early evening (can’t be changed) and that would mean leaving them both together in the house which I don’t want to do and it’s not up to DC1 to deal with DC2’s stroppiness at being grounded.

I do feel he needs a consequence but what?

• he isn’t gaming that much himself these days so I can’t take anything away
• pocket money has already been given for this month and taking any away next month the moment will have passed
• he is refusing to apologise and it won’t be sincere anyway and DC1 doesn’t want his apology

Can your DC 1 go out instead. Maybe give him some money to catch a film with a mate?

Seriously they had a sibling argument and a single punch was thrown, no need to be handing money over (and no doubt to someone giving the verbals too). If dc1 had been winding dc2 up then how on earth is this going to help the situation?

“If dc1 had been winding dc2 up then how on earth is this going to help the situation?”

It isn’t ideal… but op isn’t at home and clearly doesn’t think they should be left together unsupervised. Might be better than leaving them to argue at home.

Sorry all, I’ve been out (obviously). It’s not a regular occurrence but he did put DC3 repeatedly in the arm last night and i had already intervened and told them to stop playing. It isn’t a regular occurrence but it’s not ok when I already stepped in to stop it escalating - it literally did not need to happen. He could have just left the room. It was a hard and malicious punch. In terms of being wound up, yes he does feel that DS1 winds him up and I heard them bickering.

DC3 getting annoyed he isn’t winning or people who aren’t playing his way
DC2 mimicking and taking the piss out of him
DC1 just saying leave it (he can be condescending in tone - so I did also tell him to stop beforehand because I could see it)

Me and my brother also used to come to blows and were close. He still won’t apologise so I’ve curtailed his after school curfew next week because that’s all he cares about.

p.s. thanks all for a bit of perspective. I think I was just in a moment of I can’t just say you can’t go out.