So my partner of 5 years pushed me aggressively today, I was totally shocked and hurt (emotionally, it wasn’t a very physically painful action) as it was out of character and unprovoked. I never thought I’d be this person but could this just be a one-off? Do I let it go?
For full disclosure - we were watching tv in separate rooms downstairs (due to the football!) I was ready for bed so went into the kitchen and checked the back door was locked, as every night. It wasn’t, so I locked it. He came in and asked for id locked the door, and why, at which point I remembered we had purposely left it unlocked as we’d had a disposable bbq a few hours earlier, left it to cool outside and intended to bag it up and throw it in the bin just before bed.
I said I’d forgotten but we could just unlock the door, and he put his hands on my shoulders and shoved me backwards and told me to get out.
I was shocked and put my arms out and pushed him backwards, my hands on his chest. He pushed me another few times and turned me around to shove me out of the kitchen.
I firmly told him to stop, unlocked the door, brought the bbq in, told him to sleep in the spare room, and have taken myself to bed. He said sorry but didn’t seem particularly remorseful.
Do I put it down to a moment of madness or do I run? He had had 1 can of larger with the bbq as far as I know