This has put me off, would it you?

[Uribentmyspoon]

Met a new guy, really nice, getting on well.
Today we took our dogs for a walk and he grabbed a large stick off the ground, showed it me and said ‘It’s an olive branch’ I jokingly (isn’t funny, bit cheesy) said ‘Oh are you offering me an olive branch?’ 🙄 He was really confused and I explained that it was just a crap joke, like offering someone an olive branch, y’know, the saying…he had no idea what I was talking about and hadn’t heard that saying. Is it weird that I’m really surprised by that? He’s also never heard of Wuthering heights, and, silly one here, The Superman party song, played at practically every children’s party in our 80’s childhood.
We’re both the same age, 43, so he’s not done young guy. Would you be put off by these things (not the Superman one) but the others? It felt weird explaining the saying to him and explaining Wuthering heights 😳 or am I just a bitch?

This reminded me of this funny scene in Love Island:

@takehomepay All of his life in the U.K. until his 30’s

Eh, he sounds a bit thick. Don't mean to be rude. I could see the point if he was 20 but in his 40s that seems weird unless he's foreign. What does he do for a living? Not that that matters but it is a bit weird.

@jay55 😂Haven’t asked that one yet

The Wuthering Heights thing would annoy me, but I studied Literature at uni. There's a few foods that my DH has never heard of, which always bemuses me. But intellectually we are pretty well matched and have the same politics and values, which is more important to me. That said, I couldn't be with someone who I constantly had to explain things to

Can someone possibly link the Superman song-Black lace? I’m rubbish at it, he probably isn’t 🤷🏻‍♀️Swings and roundabouts

Maybe he's not a reader, don't see the problem with that. I'm an avid reader, DH isn't, he's musical and I'm not, takes all sorts doesn't it? Never heard of the superman song myself, does everyone but me (and OPs boyfriend) know what it is?

No one can know everything so,that wouldn't put me off.

My DH and I are the same age (9 weeks apart) from the same ethnicity and grew up in the same area. The parallels are so close that our brothers and sisters were in the same classes at school several times over the years. With that amount of similarity you'd think we had identical cultural references but far from it. Of course there's lots we both know but equally there are loads of things I know and take for granted that he doesn't and vice versa. Vast tranches of literature, popular culture, the natural world and geography have passed him by. Similarly he is often surprised by my ignorance of what he thinks are the absolute basics of world politics, history, sport and chart music.

The upside of this is we make a great quiz team

@Kevinishot Yes…to all of that!

Tbf, I had that with my ex h, but other issues, can’t we have it all

I know what song you're talking about but I'm only a few years younger than you and had no idea it was related to Superman. Likewise, wouldn't have a clue about Wuthering Heights .

Tbh, he sounds normal and you sound picky.

@BrieAndChilli That’s true. Feel shitty when I think about it like that, I genuinely not making fun. As I say, he does know kits about things I don’t, so could likely be thinking the same thing when I look perplexed or my eyes glaze over.

I suppose we have different interests and mine are quite important to me.

@takingmytimeonmyride 🤣I’m sure that would end things, right there and then.

I went out on a date with I guy who didn't know what oregano was...

Didn't last.

I would tell him he isn't a Macho Man and doesn't ring the bell! No point seeing him again, he won't know to KISS.

I'm 41 and have no memory of the Superman song at all, though I imagine it must have been played at numerous primary school discos...

I don't think the olive branch thing would bother me, as coming across those sorts of sayings can be a bit random, it's not as if it's something that's a primary part of your education. The Wuthering Heights thing would put me off, but I studied English at university and read a lot, so it would just suggest to me that we weren't very well-matched - not that he was weird or thick or anything. I did very well academically at school but I am terrible at geography - I would probably struggle to pinpoint some very obvious countries on a map or name capital cities that most people would know. It just seems to be a blind spot for me, so I doubt I'd be a brilliant match for someone who loved it and studied it to a high level, but placed in a wider context I don't think it makes me an unsuitable partner

@burritofan Really 🤣Floor/ground..meh 🤷🏻‍♀️

Has anyone else asked any the superman song yet? - I’m a bit older than you @Uribentmyspoon but have no idea what song you’re on about 😂
I find it a bit weird he picked up a branch and declared it an olive branch but then had no idea what you were talking about when you made a joke about it - but I’m off to read the rest of the thread so maybe you’ve covered that now

@lottiegarbanzo 😂😂I don’t think is that one, it’s the kids one

@Uribentmyspoon

Sorry, I didn’t think to put, we’re not in the U.K., but both British. There was an actual olive branch on the floor when we were walking in the woods, it’s pretty normal, so he was literally stating it was an olive branch, when he picked it up.

The Superman song thing isn’t bad or that surprising, I think it was just a bit ‘Huh?’ to me as there’s been quite a few things I’m
surprised he doesn’t know, or that I’ve had to explain.

The Superman song is by Black lace I think. As a kid we had to follow the actions ‘Comb your hair’ ‘Spray!’ ‘Superman!’ 🤣Am sure I’m not making much sense, perhaps it’s me!

Ahhhh now I get ya - as soon as you said about the actions 😂

@Evilcountspatula At 43? 🤷🏻‍♀️

He didn’t really just sort of swoosh it up and declare it was an olive branch, we were just randomly looking at things and it was almost like a ‘Hmm nice olive branch’ which sounds more boring than the walk actually was, when I put it like that,

He sounds a bit dim.

Lolz yeah I went out with a guy for a while and he thought the word just was spelt with a g - gust ??? He sent texts always selling it with a g! I don’t know why! I didn’t say anything or correct him - we broke up for various reasons after a short time together - but I never forget about the gust thing 😂 it still annoys me now and it’s been 10 years hahaha 😝

@Cocomarine 😅 Standard fare in our house

I know it's the kids' one. I remember it well (tiny bit older than you). I was making an 'amusing remark' by combining part of the Superman song with part of KB's Wuthering Heights. But you didn't get it! (Would have worked better in person).

@Plumtree391 Fairly surprising, but still not as much as Wuthering heights 🤔