Not to offer the photographers a wedding breakfast?

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Just wondering if this is cheeky or not. Maybe this is the done thing and I don’t know about it!

We are hoping to get married next year. There will be one photographer and his assistant. Their photos are great to be fair and we are very happy to have booked them.

We’ve just got the contract through. They have asked us to order two wedding breakfasts that they will eat in a side room.

AIBU to think this is a bit cheeky? We are paying them a four figure sum. Why can’t they bring a flask, a lunch bag and a packet of crisps like everyone else who goes out to work?!

Is this a common request?

[quote youdoyoutoday]@Millicentsparty do you think I should have invited him to our honeymoon?? [/quote]
😂😂😂

I wonder what photos he'd be taking there!! 😳 He'd need a cruise to get over that! 😆😆

I would have expected the same as you OP! That they would take a lunch and tea break, and bring or go out and buy their own food. That's what I've done in every job I've ever had, except the summer camp where we all lived on site with no shops.

It must sting a little, especially when you're paying like £80 a head

@Millicentsparty at this rate, this photographer is going to have a better wedding than me 🤣🤣

@youdoyoutoday. Hey, you're just the bride. Know your place. 😂😂😂

@MMMarmite

I would have expected the same as you OP! That they would take a lunch and tea break, and bring or go out and buy their own food. That's what I've done in every job I've ever had, except the summer camp where we all lived on site with no shops.

You really can't see the difference here?

Maybe not, but they could have picked up a sandwich before they came.

A sandwich sitting in a hot car for 6-8 hours, yummy.

If the photographer is there from the morning, they've already skipped lunch and need something more substantial for dinner.

I can't believe the meanness from some people on this thread.

@Sakura7
A sandwich sitting in a hot car for 6-8 hours, yummy.

Invest in a cool bag.

Several of my friends are wedding photographers and it's totally standard for the bride and groom to feed them. It's a very, very long day of hard work - they're up at the crack of dawn to travel to the venue for the getting ready shots and go all day, into the night for the party photographs. I can't believe anyone would grudge them a hot meal.

🤣🤣🤣

I am also very surprised that a wedding band who are generally only there in the evening would expect the wedding couple to provide food and drinks and not bring their own. If that’s the case, shouldn’t you be providing food for the DJ if you have one instead of a band?

I'm at work all day and don't expect to be fed

I think most brides would prefer to give a photographer a meal than for them to disappear at a crucial moment saying sorry I’m on my hours lunch now and I’m off to find a garage somewhere to get a sandwich

Honestly some people!

I work with a lot of photographers and videographers - It is a noted thing in the industry when people are stingy about providing food.

I think part of the reason is they're often on their feet all day and work over conventional meal times, so it can prove challenging to even find a gap to eat, let alone get back to wherever you left the one you're supposed to have brought with you. You'd be surprised how often clients actually forget about the whole notion of them stopping long enough to eat.

As someone who works in wedding catering. This is completely normal, we usually do 2-3 "supplier" meals for the photographer/videographer and a few extra bits for the band/DJ in the evening.

It's usually just the main course for them and not the full 4/5 course wedding breakfast and tbh we always make 5% more than the given numbers as people change their minds, waiters drop plates or suddenly someone has turned vegan.

We had a very tight budget for our wedding, we still fed the photographer, the bar staff and the DJ. YABU

Usual expectation to feed and water photographers, musicians, DJ, and anyone else like videographer, magician, babysitters. Photographers particularly as they are working very long hours.

YANBU
I don’t think they should be fed or the band they cost enough and should take an arranged break of course and find somewhere to eat or eat a packed lunch.
For people saying 12 hours working hard blah blah I know minimum wage carers working 12 hour shifts they don’t get fed why should everything “wedding” be a free ride.
I would provide soft drinks and expect they have a good break but would not give them a full hot meal on top of a £1500 price tag.
If this makes me tight and evil so be it.

@ilovebagpuss

YANBU I don’t think they should be fed or the band they cost enough and should take an arranged break of course and find somewhere to eat or eat a packed lunch. For people saying 12 hours working hard blah blah I know minimum wage carers working 12 hour shifts they don’t get fed why should everything “wedding” be a free ride. I would provide soft drinks and expect they have a good break but would not give them a full hot meal on top of a £1500 price tag. If this makes me tight and evil so be it.

It's more to do with the lack of breaks and sometimes remote locations that set this job apart from the average minimum wage job.

I got married a month ago.

Luckily the hotels are used to this and any good hotel knows what to do. They normally ask you for numbers which will include anyone you’ve directly hired (in our case production company , video and camera people , stage technicians, DJ totalled 17 people ). They SHOULD do this for a reduced sum as

1. They won’t be served alcohol
2. They won’t have several courses - food is served at once as they are working not like guests having a 3 hour meal wirh speeches etc
3. They don’t have the same place settings (best silver etc )

They are ALWAYS served in a separate room as usually they don’t come dressed for a wedding so why make them and other guests feel awkward ?

Only dear people with your guests if mingling with guests is PART OF THEIR JOB. So in our case our wedding organiser and bridal stylist sat with us (dresses as guests) because their job was to be with bride / groom and look after our parents and hold room keys etc

Hope that helps !

YANBU however, give them a bacon sandwich or something like that maybe 🥰

Fairly normal although we didn't. We asked if he wanted food and he said no because he understood how expensive weddings were.
Absolutely brilliant photographer too.

Squeak squeak, tight arse alert.
Absolutely standard in any family weddings I've helped organise.

I haven't read all the other posts but a meal was in the contract for our band. They said they were happy with sandwiches and chips though so it was substantially cheaper.

@blubberyboo
I’m off to find a garage somewhere to get a sandwich

Why do people employ such incompetent people that can't make or buy a sandwich in advance?