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Hate the school run

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CandyFIosss · 06/09/2021 00:05

Does anyone else hate the school run? I honestly dread it, I hate it and if I never had to do it again I would be happy, it seem unusual though and most parents seem to love it! Does anyone else hate it?

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SoupDragon · 06/09/2021 19:28

@FfrothiCoffi

It was the way you said it… ‘most of them act like it’s the highlight of their day’. Very derisory.
Yes. Very sneery.
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CandyFIosss · 06/09/2021 19:29

😂 ok touchy!

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Jasmine11 · 06/09/2021 20:49

@CandyFIosss

I’ve already said not being in with the parents is a very minor part of it, I don’t really care about that bit but I can only guess it would be more enjoyable if I was as most of them act like it is the highlight of their day standing there having a chat.
Gosh you really don't think much of your fellow school parents if you think chatting at the school drop off is the highlight of their day - people can usually pick up on sneery vibes.

I got chatting to a new acquaintance this week at the school and she asked me 'how do I know everyone?' In fact I don't even know the names of half the people I exchange pleasantries with, but this lady assumed I was friends with lots of the other school parents. I drop my kids off, say 'Hi' to whoever I bump into but don't give the other parents another thought until I see them again at pick up time. I'd hate to think that someone like you considered me part of a clique. Or in fact I probably wouldn't care as I would assume anyone else was being so judgemental when I'm just going about my day!

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CandyFIosss · 06/09/2021 20:52

It’s a phrase stop twisting what I said, I meant some of them really seem to enjoy it and stand around chatting for ages. Take It the wrong way if you want but it just sounds like you’re being touchy more than anything.

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Jasmine11 · 06/09/2021 21:29

@CandyFIosss

It’s a phrase stop twisting what I said, I meant some of them really seem to enjoy it and stand around chatting for ages. Take It the wrong way if you want but it just sounds like you’re being touchy more than anything.
How is anyone twisting your words when your words are all we have to comment on? You are the one being touchy now as you accidentally let your true feelings about your fellow school parents be known 😂
fat13 · 06/09/2021 21:34

You seem to be having a hard time though generally OP. Do you not think it would help to make some connections?

xSam · 21/11/2021 22:21

I can definitely relate to that miserable school run feeling, I loathe it. The school for me is like be forced to listen to a dial tone all day, every day. #iloathetheschoolrun

MissCruellaDeVil · 21/11/2021 22:22

I don't mind it but hate the mindless chatter with the other mums, I have to go to work!

Now I drop them off at breakfast club where there is a lot less parents, and go to my own school, so avoid the main school run, much happier.

TaylorsSwimShorts · 21/11/2021 22:27

I despise it...6 kids in 4 different schools, mornings are always stressful, no matter how organised I try to be, we are always late, someone is always dramatic, I always forget something, someone always needs some cash, there's always some meeting or assembly I'm expected to attend 🙄🤣 there's always the dreaded teachers hand on your shoulder asking for a quick word about your offspring....if we walk the 10 mins..its hideous...if we drive the 4 mins..its even worse...just hateful all round really 🤣🤣

lugeanjaam · 22/11/2021 08:34

I loved it, 5 kids with them oldest & youngest being 20 years apart so school runs have been part of my life for many years. I have made the most beautiful lifelong friends with parents I met and drop offs and pick ups. My daughter is now in her first year of secondary (Oz) and I miss those days.

Our school was very small and inclusive though so I never had to deal with cliques.

phoenixrosehere · 22/11/2021 08:54

Despise it. I just want to drop my kid off and go about the rest of my day. I don’t want to spend it nearly begging people to let me pass because they decided they wanted to about block the pavement or entrance because they want to have a chat when there are open spaces to do so or allowing their younger children to sit in the middle of the pavement or run amok including jumping and darting in front of the pram while parents are too busy again having a chat and expecting I wait til they finish. I don’t mind having a chat but let me drop my kid off first and for us to get somewhere where we’re not in the way of others.

xSam · 22/11/2021 09:20

I was once trying to get passed a bunch of pushchair mums & was forced to walk on the grass verge which of course contained dog poo...I stood right in the middle of it and then had to remove my shoe! I then threw my shoes in the nearby bin, drove to Tesco's in my socks walked in and bought a new pair...oh I do hate the school run Sad

thepeopleversuswork · 22/11/2021 09:30

A bit of a derail but this "smug school gate mums" stuff really pisses me off tbh. I'm so tired of reading about it on here. It's at best self-indulgent paranoia and at worst internalised misogyny.

It's just a bunch of other women standing around outside school, chatting with other mums/dads they know. Some of them know one another better than they know you. Boo hoo. They may have known one another all their lives. They may just have struck up recent friendships. Just deal with it.

I get that meeting new people can trigger anxiety which is fine but the idea that school mums are a particularly nasty and cliquey bunch of people is just hateful rubbish which is directed at other women and we really owe it to ourselves not to do this.

So many people seem to think that they are owed a new friendship group on a plate when their kids start school. They are not. It's like any other interaction in life. Some people are potential friends, some are nasty arseholes, the vast majority are in the middle: people you will rub up alongside just getting on with their own lives: they are busy and stressed and maybe they aren't always as friendly as you would like because they have their own preoccupations. They don't owe you a string of coffee mornings or personalised invitations for your kids.

So no I don't hate the school run. It's just another thing I do, like getting the bus or going to work or going to a pub. I really don't get this hatred and paranoia that it engenders and I think people who really struggle with this need professional help tbh.

MarleneH · 12/03/2023 23:43

Here here. Hate it xxx

Mothership4two · 13/03/2023 00:11

This thread is over to year old

Mothership4two · 13/03/2023 00:11

A year

MintJulia · 13/03/2023 00:14

It's up there with paying bills and stacking the dishwasher.

I do it on autopilot most days, I don't think about it.

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