To start a thread about lovely MIL's?

[MeredithGreyishblue]

They get slammed continually on here.

I'm sure some aren't pleasant but mine is LOVELY!

She's just called me, seconds after a parcel arrived. "It's from me. I read it and thought you'd like it too!" And it looks like I will!

She never oversteps. She never judges. She is incredible with the children. She's stepped in to help out when we needed her. She is fun, kind, warm and clever.

Anyone else feel really lucky to have gained a fabulous woman in their life?

Lovely reading all the MIL love. I think my MIL is one of the most important people in my world. She is my friend, incredibly kind and funny and has supported me from the minute I was brought home by her son. I love her pretty much as much as my also amazing mum.

My MIL has raised a man who is respectful, loyal and kind and who is great husband and father. She has also raised daughters who I adore. My SILs are also amazing humans who I love and am close too.

I know I am very lucky.

Mine passed 3 years ago and I miss her so much.

She was funny intelligent kind. Spoiled all her grandchildren through the sun shone from them and would not hear a negative about them. Ahe was one of my most favourite people in the world.

My mother passed 6 years ago and whilst I miss her she was not in my life like mil was ( lived abroad) so the deepest loss is MIL and there are days i very much wish Heaven had visiting hours) i was blessed with my amazing MIL.

Love my ex mother in law, is have been divorced from her son for about 9 years and i have remarried. we live about 5 minutes walk from her now (her son, my ex lives around 20 miles away) she pops in and checks our house while we are away, my dd is very close to her and loves popping in to see her in the way home from school.

@UrgentHelpforFriend

Holly, we'll frequently have.. I love my Mil threads but I personally dislike the way this one is framed.. Ie I love mine and they get slammed on here.....

Why not simply.. To all those lucky to have wonderful mils, come share how lovley they are?

Op is slyly slamming dils who have difficulty with their mils and when your sitting in front of a third party thinking you cannot go on in a relationship, not because you don't love your partner but because his mother has made your life misery I find such framing lacking in empathy and highly distasteful.

I not slyly slamming anyone. You've massively overthought this. I just got my parcel and felt warm and fuzzy and wanted to share. It was a happy post.

But this is mumsnet and there's always someone waiting to piss on your chips, eh?

Cheers, mate. Ruined that one for me.

@C8H10N4O2

I see this thread as celebrating the women in our lives

From the very first response:

"Newsflash... if you have a son then you may be a MIL one day too! "

That isn't celebrating its a preemptive bash of DiLs.

I stand by my comments - what a good relationship with your DiLs, raise your sons to be partners, not passengers.

No it wasn't. I don't have a daughter in law. My eldest is 10 years old. It wasn't a pre-emptive anything.

But sure, project your crap all over my lovely moment.

Honestly, people are so miserable and joy sucking sometimes.

I took the thread in the spirit you intended, @MeredithGreyishblue. I was lucky to have such a lovely woman as my MIL, and I’m happy to shout it from the rooftops! I hope I can be as good a MIL as she was - I certainly have a very good example to follow.

Mine is fab. Lives overseas so we haven't seen her or my equally lovely FIL since early 2020 and are unlikely to for at least a year. We keep in touch by Facebook, messenger and video calls. Absolutely wonderful people and I am grateful to have them in my life.

Dp's mother sent me the most stunning bouquet of flowers when I was discharged from hospital this week 😍

Mine passed away a few years ago and we miss her every single day. She was generous, a fantastic cook, funny, loving. Yes she had her faults but she was amazing.

Also my ex MIL is super lovely. Me and then DH spent so much time with them they were brilliant.

My Mil is amazing. Both my inlaws are!
Yes, they do things differently to me, I'm extremely independent and can find them suffocating/interfering - but that's down to perspective I think.
They absolutely adore our daughter, step in whenever we need them, always go above and beyond to make things easier for us. They are kind and loving. I honestly couldn't ask for better.

My mil is lovely, kind, nice, generous ....with a spine of steel. I'd never seen her be anything other than softly spoken until one day she'd taken me and my children out with her friends and one said loudly to her 'which ones are mama1980's real children?' Implying that my adopted ones weren't equally mine .....well let's just say before I could open my mouth she put her friend straight very forcefully, she was furious. I think I realised I loved her that day.

Mine is wonderful, definitely struck gold. Incredibly generous. Never interferes but there when you need her. Fun and easy to hang out with. She even once came to the house just to take some stuff to the dump for us...! My own mother wouldn't even do that haha.

@user1464279374

Mine is wonderful, definitely struck gold. Incredibly generous. Never interferes but there when you need her. Fun and easy to hang out with. She even once came to the house just to take some stuff to the dump for us...! My own mother wouldn't even do that haha.

My DP's mum did that

I had a great relationship with mine til my first was born. A Rocky 18 months then figuring out our new dynamic and now we’re back to being great again. Genuinely enjoy her company, appreciate what she does for us and can’t imagine not having the friendship we have now :)

I absolutely love my MIL. She's so kind and caring and loves all of her grandchildren equally (and there are lots of them!) She is fiercely protective and I know I can always talk to her if I need to. She's not judgemental and offers such sage and practical advice. I love her dearly and am honored to be a part of her family.

My own Mother was narcissistic and unkind. I don’t think she really wanted children, but hated it when we grew up and had our own ideas. She didn’t want me to marry, because she thought I was too young, and also didn’t respect my fiance’s career. My MIL, on the other hand, was just wonderful. Supportive, helpful, kind, nothing was too much trouble for her. She provided childcare for my DC, and formed an incredible bond with them, whereas my own DM never did. Sadly, she passed away when DC were 15 and 12 and is still much missed. My DM passed away 5 years later and although I did my utmost to care for her throughout her final years, my DC never had that bond with her that they’d had with MIL. Sad really...

I am incredibly lucky to have a wonderful MIL. She was my friend before I met and married her son!

We met at synagogue, when I had just started exploring my faith having lived abroad for a while. I was experiencing a bit of reverse culture shock, being back in England after a decade in an exciting, exotic city. Future-MIL understood completely, as she had also spent much of her adult life overseas.

Anyway, she introduced me to her son, and now she's my family as well as a friend. I don't have the best relationship with my mother, so this is a real bonus and blessing.

But sure, project your crap all over my lovely moment

From your OP:
"They get slammed continually on here"

I have never seen a thread about MiL relationships which doesn't have plenty of both points of view however it starts out. "Continually slammed" is one of those tropes which doesn't bear much scrutiny when you look at the actual threads.

Read your own thread - the very first answered whining about MiL bashing and plenty subsequently. You want to celebrate good relationships between women - then start a post about positive relationships between women, not a thread based on the premise MiLs are some hard done by minority.

I stand by my comments.

I am also a MiL, I've been a DiL.